The Islamic Concept of Obedience to The Husband

Elaborating on the meaning of true obedience to the husband and observance of purdah, Hadhrat Maulana Masihullah (ramatullah alayh) said:
Ours mothers and sisters should listen attentively to the following episode which transpired during the time of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam).
A Sahaabi once went on a journey of Jihad. When departing from home he instructed his wife to remain indoors, and never to set foot outside in his absence. That was the age of true purdah and virtue. It was not like today that we see husband and wife walking hand-in-hand in public, making a crude exhibition of themselves.
Our wise elders would usually say: “Once you have allowed you’re the feet of your wife to leave the threshold of the home, you will no longer be able to confine her to the sanctuary of the home. In fact you will frequently find her out of the home.”
Experience testifies to this reality. Men should blame themselves for the state of affairs in which there is the prevalence for non-observation of purdah.
After the Sahaabi had left, the lady’s father became very ill. He sent someone to call his daughter. She said to the messenger: “Ask Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) the mas’alah (rule of the Shariah). My husband has instructed me not to leave the precincts of the house. What should I now do?”
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallum) sent the response to her query: “It is not permissible for you to go and visit your father.” The noble lady abided by the ruling of the Shariah issued by Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). She did not go to visit her ailing father. Do you, O Brother and Sisters, understand her sterling qualities?
On the next day, a message was brought to her informing her that her father was on his deathbed and that she required to go and see him. However, the noble lady replied in the same manner, and Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) too responded in the same way as he did the previous day. On compliance with her husband’s instruction, she was not to set foot outside the house.
On the third day she was informed of the demise of her father. Once again she called to the home of her parents. She reacted in the same way, and Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Even now it is not permissible for her to leave the house. This her husband had forbidden. After her father was buried and Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) returned from the qabrustaan, Hadhrat Jibraeel (alayhis salaam) arrived with Wahi (Revelation) from Allah Ta’ala.
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) sent a Sahaabi to deliver the following message to the lady who had not left her home: “Allah Ta’ala has sent Wahi and He has conveyed Salaams to you. Allah Ta’ala has forgiven your father because you obeyed the Shariah by abiding by the instruction of your husband not to leave the home.”
Before women frown on this episode and venture adverse comments on the attitude of the noble lady who had gained the special Salaam of Allah Ta’ala and forgiveness for her father, they should reflect and understand who the lady was, who had issued the ruling that she should remain indoors and visit her father notwithstanding his illness and death, and who ratified her action and was pleased with conduct? Allah and his Rasool upheld her conduct and she was assured of success and salvation in the Aakhirah. So-called purdah women of today who drive around in cars, who wander in the streets and public places and who labor under the impression that their decorated cloaks partly exposing their lewd denim type under garments are the ultimate degree of Shar’I purdah, should ponder and examine themselves in the light of the attitude of this noble Sahaabiyah who became the recipient of Allah’s special’s Salaam.
Female Craftiness
“Women! You are most ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen beings (such as women) that in spite of being deficient in intelligence and Deen are able to snatch away the intelligence of men…” (Rasulullah-sallallahu alayhi wasallam)
Non-observance of Purdah is an outstanding characteristic of non-Muslims. Islam emphasizes the adoption of purdah. Association with non-Muslims has led to assimilation with them and emulation of their ways and styles of non-Muslims.
Emulating the non-Muslims is termed Tashabbuh bil kuffar which is not permissible. Of graver importance is that we do not even consider our emulation to be wrong. When a misdeed becomes rampant in a community the evil of it ceases to be recognized. Now this evil of it ceases to be recognized. Now this evil misdeed of abandonment of purdah is considered progressive and a virtue.
In fact, abandonment of purdah is total humiliation.” (Hadhrat Maulana Masihullaah)