THE WEST DESTROYING BOSNIA WITH HOMOSEXUALITY AND LGBTIQ PERVERSITY
ISLAMIC RESPONSE TO HOMOSEXUALITY IN PUBLIC
By Amir Telibecrovic
If some population, country, community, state or even city, goes through devastating war with a lot dead victims and a lot of refugees displaced out of such a country, plus with genocide on top of that, what would be the natural response after the war and genocide from the nation? Improving a birth rate probably, encouraging more children to be born if possible, raising awareness of the importance of the nation growth, recovering community. In popular English terminology it would be promotion and encouragement of the ‘baby boom.’
Bosnia is a country like that. Less than three decades ago, it went through the imposed war and genocide. Still, birth rate recovery was going slowly after the war, due to economic difficulties and also the fact many people left a country. In some parts of the country, there was a post-war ‘baby boom,’ shortly, but in general, whole population needs more encouragement in this field. But today, public promotion of something opposite is going on.
Registered homosexual movements and organizations in Bosnia, are gaining more social and political rights than young parents who are waiting for their babies, or just planning to start a new family. Political elites among the Bosniaks have already approved LGBTIQ public parade back in 2019, on the streets of Sarajevo. Recently, this year, second street parade of the homosexuals in the Bosnian capital was approved and held. In both cases, parade was sponsored and financed from the outside of the country, yet, besides that support, this time new political establishment in Sarajevo also donated significant amount of funds for the organization of parade. Such a funds could have been incentive for the young parents but instead, it was given for something opposite. Three years ago, some Bosnian politicians, who are nominally Muslims, approved a law (not adopted officially yet, but it’s on the way), which would enable homosexual couples to get married legally, and based on that to adopt a child one day. Does this sounds like promotion and encouragement of the birth rate in the country and nation which needs it badly? Of course it is opposite from the birth rate.
Current US ambassador to Bosnia, Eric Nelson, claim publically for himself to be gay person, although it was supposed to his private matter. Interestingly, he was nominated to this position during the administration of Donald Trump. Yet, it is believed that Trump was mainly supported by the right wing Americans who are “traditionally” against homosexuals. Obviously, things in the international diplomacy are more complex than that. So, US ambassador Eric Nelson for couple of years was openly spreading campaign in support of gay movements of Bosnia. Few times in previous two years, a huge rainbow flag was hanging from the roof of the US embassy in Sarajevo, Muslim majority city. By now, even those who are not into this topic, knows that rainbow flag is officially adopted to be international homosexual flag. Ambassador Nelson even joined gay parade when they were marching the streets, same as British and some more international diplomats working in Bosnia. Enormously big police protection was set for the parade, with snipers watching from the buildings. It felt like Sarajevo was under siege again. It all gave impression like gay people are threatened or endangered so they need the biggest possible police protection.
Yes, there have been verbal threats and few physical attacks on some them in the past, but not more than in other regional countries and not in organized way but by some individuals and football hooligans. But state and politics is supporting them, administration and bureaucracy, including foreign sponsors, are on the side of the LGBTIQ movement, and vast majority of the local media. All Bosnian mainstream media are supporting homosexual movements.
There are other categories in Bosnia which are more endangered, like refugees, immigrants, Muslims in the remote parts of the Serb nationalist dominated or Croat dominated areas of the country, a lot of unemployed people, mine workers, Roma Gypsy population, disabled veterans from the 1990s aggression on the country, peasants, industry workers, but they don’t get even one fourth of support, public attention or help as gay people, either internationally or locally.
Sarajevo is Muslim majority city, so open reactions to the public promotion of the homosexuality is expected by believers, scholars, ulama, muftis, but no, reaction was soft and mostly online by some individual imams. Bosnian grand mufti remained silent to this too. Second gay parade in Sarajevo, which happened recently, was passing literally next to one of the local mosques at the time of dhuhr adhan call to prayer. Noise was made by parade so the adhan was turned on louder from the minaret. Yet, no reactions from the local worshippers. Just when it seemed nobody would react to this injustice and public immorality, small political movement gave some hope at least. Counter parade was organized by the independent Bosnian Islamic and patriotic party called BNS-V.N.D. (Faith, People, Country/State). Movement gathered around two hundred people and marched the streets of Sarajevo the same day when homosexual parade was marching, but through different parts of the city.- https://saff.ba/u-sarajevu-odrzan-protest-ponosa-i-casti/
Large amount of police secured these two groups would not meet on the streets. Leader of the V.N.D. party, theology professor and writer Sanin Musa, invited everybody to join, and some passersby citizens did, as they walked. V.N.D. waived with old Bosnian flags, with banners holding messages about Islamic morality, justice and logic, and members of the party and movement invited everybody, regardless of their faith, to join them, because when children are endangered it matters to everybody, not only Muslims. There was no a single incident, V.N.D. was walking the streets of Sarajevo peacefully, and in front of local media, invited homosexuals to tawba, without judging them, just warning them based on the Qur’anic chapter about Lut a.s.-
At the same time, Sanin Musa was emphasizing on this protest that nobody cares about anybody’s private sexual preferences, as long as they are kept personal and private, but they are against public presentation or even celebration of anybody’s intimacy, especially homosexuality. Let alone this is happening in a country which is still recovering from genocide. Defenders of the public promotion of homosexuality are usually repeating how it is demanded, even dictated, from the EU (although Bosnia is not EU member). Musa was telling them it is demanded by the same EU bureaucracy who was watching devastation of Bosnia for four years, allowing ethnic cleansing and not allowing Bosnia to defend and protect itself less than 30 years ago. Local secular mainstream media was traditionally criticizing almost any public reaction or statement against public homosexuality and legalization of gay marriages.
Their journalists were ready to label V.N.D. with usual banal terminology like “extremists” or “homophobes” or “haters” or “Islamists” but in this case they remained confused. Sanin Musa and people around him acted civilized at this counter-protests, not insulting anyone, not making any incidents, inviting everyone for peaceful demonstrating, reasonably inviting LGBTIQ organizations to give up on parades, explaining them why, friendly inviting them to do something more useful instead of marching, to be aware of the consequences of their actions etc… Yet, no answer nor comment came from any of the homosexual organizations. They are in a stage when they feel a bit arrogant, maybe even superior to others because mighty US embassy is behind them, powerful European Union stands for them, local politics too. For how long, nobody was mentioning. Like those who are frantically trying to leave Afganistan currently, wondering how come US is not standing behind them anymore. Maybe LGBTIQ have put too much trust to the wrong sponsors. It’s never too late for the honest tawba.
In this materialistic age when everything is being sacrificed at the altar of ‘freedom’, the world, from east to west, is witnessing a total collapse of morality and decency. Virtue is portrayed as evil while sins of every type are being glamourized so as to seem acceptable to society. Honesty, fidelity, generosity, piety, chastity, the fear of Allah, etc. are rarely looked upon as praiseworthy qualities while adultery, gambling, fraud, usury, cheating, abortion, homosexuality, lesbianism, etc. are fast becoming the order of the day. In many of the so-called democracies, there is no longer any stigma in even committing sins openly because of the many corrupt laws that support such sins. In fact today, in some of the world’s biggest “democracies” the more a leader publicizes his immoral and adulterous exploits, the more his popularity seems to increase and the greater become his chances of being re-elected by the people. But the saddest part of this is that while the Muslims were supposed to lead the world out of this turmoil and offer it Islam as the only solution to its problems, they have begun to embrace the bankrupt ways of those who are themselves groping in the darkness of ignorance. Unfortunately many of the abominable practices found in the west and other kuffaar societies are creeping into Muslim societies. May Allah protect us!
It is time for the Muslim ummah to awaken from its slumber and realize that it is the duty of every Muslim to remind the whole of mankind that success lies only in fulfilling the orders of Allah in the way shown by our Nabi Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wasallam).
This article, based on a pamphlet that was distributed in Shawwaal 1415 by the General Presidency, Dept. of the Promotion of virtue and the Prevention of vice, Saudi Arabia, discusses the issue of homosexuality and lesbianism in Islam. Although the masculine gender has been used in this article, it applies generally to both males and females alike.
THOUGHTS AND CONCERNS I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU, MY DEAR BROTHER, THE MUSLIM YOUTH
My Respected Brother-in-Islam Assalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
In the spirit of Islamic brotherhood and in keeping with the Sunnah of our Nabi Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) who has said, ‘None of you has Imaan (Faith) until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself’, please allow me to offer to you the following words of advice:
Every true believer living in this world fears the wrath and punishment of Allah Ta’ala. Are you safe, O my brother, from the punishment of Allah Ta’ ala? The question each one of us has to ask himself is: Would you like to be amongst those who will be punished tomorrow, on the Day in which neither wealth nor children will be of any benefit except to that person who appears before Allah with a pure heart? Would you be happy if your soul were reduced to the lowest position after Allah had created it in the best of forms? Would you allow myself to be disgraced in front of the whole of mankind and the entire creation on the Day of Qiyaamah (Reckoning)? Certainly you would not like any of this to happen to you!
Please let me share with you some brotherly advice regarding just one evil that has become so widespread today – especially amongst the youth. I know that there may be many questions roving in your mind regarding this evil:
What is this sin?
Is it so grave that we should discuss it?
What is the solution to it?
How can we save ourselves from it?
What are the harms and consequences of it?
Do not be too hasty for soon you will find answers to all your questions.
My Beloved Brother! You are certainly aware that the sin of homosexuality is haraam. But do you know how serious this crime is and just how despicable it is in the sight of Allah Ta’ala? Just imagine, my brother, that when it is against the very nature of man, nay even of animals, what is the position of the person who indulges in it! Is such a person unaware that Allah Ta’ala — in all His Grandeur, Might and Power — is watching him while he indulges in this haraam act? Is he not aware that Allah Ta’ala has the power to send down upon him a swift and severe punishment or even seize him while he is involved in it? What will his position be when he appears before his Rabb (Sustainer) on the Day of Qiyaamah?
“And such is the grasp of your Rabb when He seizes a community while it transgresses! Certainly His grasp is very painful.” (Surah Hood, ayah 102)
Let us now look at a few verses of the Qur’an, Ahaadith, narrations of the Sahaabah (radhiallaahu anhum) and sayings and verdicts of the Ulama regarding the sin of homosexuality or sodomy. Thereafter, let us see what are some of the diseases that spread as a result of it as well as some solutions. May Allah Ta’ala grant us the ability to follow His guidance and the Sunnah of His Beloved Nabi Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wasallam).
Our beloved Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, ‘Certainly the thing I fear most on my ummah is the (wicked) practice of the people of Loot.’ (Tirmizi, Ahmad, Ibn Hajr Al-Haysami, Ad-Duri and Al-Aajuri) (Hadith Hasan)
Hadrat Ali bin Abi Taalib (RA) relates, ‘Whoever allows himself to be used sexually (by becoming a homosexual or sodomite), Allah Ta’ala will expel from him the (natural) desire for women.‘
Najeeb As-Sirri (AR) says, ‘They (i.e. our pious elders) would even dislike looking at handsome young boys’.
Once Abul Aswad (AR) brought a letter which he showed to one of his students and said, ‘I bear witness that this letter was dictated by Ali bin Abi Taalib (RA) to Abul Aswad: When men (i.e. homosexuals) will sexually satisfy themselves with men and women (i.e. lesbians) with women, then earthquakes will occur, faces will become transformed and stones will rain down from the skies.’
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has also said “May Allah curse him who does what the people of Loot (alayhis salaam) did.” (Ibn Hibbaan)
He (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has also said, “Lesbianism by women is adultery between them.” (Tabraani)
A LESSON FROM HISTORY
It is a well-known fact that when this wretched disease spread among one nation in the past, Allah Ta’ala caused punishments to rain down from the skies upon them. Allah mentions their story in many places in the Qur’an. At one place, He says,
“And (We also sent) Loot (as a Messenger). ‘Behold, he said to his people, do you do what is shameful even though you see (that it is wrong)? Would you really approach men in your lusts rather than women? Nay, you are a grossly ignorant people!’
But his people gave no other answer but this: They said, ‘Drive out the followers of Loot from your city. These are indeed men who want to be clean and pure!’
But We saved him and His family except his wife: We destined her to be of those who lagged behind.
And We rained down on them a shower (of stones). And evil was the shower on those who were admonished (but failed to heed).” (Surah an-Naml, 54-58)
At yet another place, Allah Most High says: Do you approach the males of humanity, leaving the wives Allah has created for you? But you are a people who transgress. (Surah ash-Shu’raa: 165 &166)
From the first aayah, we learn that these people had themselves admitted that the family of Loot (AS) who had Imaan (belief in Allah) was decent, chaste and morally pure. They also acknowledged that the family of Loot (AS) refrained from this filthy practice. They realised this since it is natural for every person to immediately recognise the pure way of life inspired by Allah Ta’ala when they see it and also to make out any type of unnatural and perverted behaviour.
In the Tafseer (commentary) of these verses it is mentioned that the people of Loot (AS) were practicing both homosexuality and lesbianism. When Allah decided to punish them, He commanded Jibraeel (AS) to lift the village of Loot (AS) to the extent that the angels of the first heaven (sky) could actually hear the barking of their dogs. Jibraeel then turned them over and dropped them from this tremendous height. Thereafter, Allah Ta’ala caused scorching hot stones to rain down upon them. This is how this nation ended up being an example for the rest of mankind until the Day of Qiyaamah.
Imaam Al-Aajuri (AR) has said, ‘Allah Ta’ala has informed you about the despicable act of homosexuality committed by the people of Loot (AS) and how He punished them by first snatching away their eyesight. Jibraeel (AS) was then instructed to uproot their cities with all the inhabitants until they were high up into the sky and then turn over their cities upon them. Thereafter they were pelted with stones of clay.’ Such was their punishment that not a single citizen or traveller could save himself from the stones and from being completely destroyed.
It is said that they were four million in number. (Tafseer Ibn Katheer p.471 vol. 2)
Let us reflect! Why did Allah Ta’ala punish them so severely in such a manner that He had never punished any other nation before? Surely their sin must have been really serious for Allah Ta’ala to have punished and destroyed them in this way.
DISGRACE IN THIS WORLD
The acts of homosexuality and lesbianism are certainly a perversion and a serious deviation from the inherent nature of man. These acts of defiance against human nature are also even viler and uglier than adultery. There is consensus among both Muslims and the followers of other religions that lesbianism and homosexuality are evil and filthy practices. This is why it is not surprising to find that Islam so vehemently prohibits it and adopts such a harsh attitude against it.
The punishment awaiting such people in the Hereafter has already been explained, but what about their punishment in this world?
Since such type of behaviour was previously totally unknown to the Arab people, there is no record of any such incident having occurred during the time of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) or that he was faced with a case of this nature. However, it has been confirmed that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said,
“Kill the one who sodomizes and the one to who lets it be done to him.” (Tirmizi)
Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (RA) had passed such a ruling and Hadrat Ali (RA) was very severe in his ruling against such a crime. It is established that once Sayyiduna Khaalid bin Waleed (RA) found a man in the frontiers of Arabia marrying another man in the way a woman marries a man, so he wrote about it to Abu Bakr (RA). When Abu Bakr (RA) consulted with the Sahaabah, Ali (RA) who was the severest in his condemnation of it said, ‘Only one out of the many nations had indulged in it and you all know how Allah Ta’ala had dealt with them. I feel that he should be destroyed by fire.’ So Abu Bakr (RA) wrote back to Sayyiduna Khaalid (RA) who then put the man to death by means of fire.
Ibn Qassaar and Ibn Taymiyyah (AR) have said: All the Sahaabah (radhiallaahu anhum) were unanimous that he should be killed though some of them differed in the manner in which it should be done.
Abu Bakr (RA) said that he should be executed by being thrown from a great height.
Another view of Hadrat Ali (RA) was that a wall should be dropped upon him.
Hadrat Ibn Abbaas, Ali, Jaabir bin Zaid, Abdullah bin Mamar, Imaam Zuhri and Imaam Maalik (radhiallaahu anhum) have said that those who commit the evil deed of the people of Loot (AS) should be stoned to death, whether they be married or unmarried. This is also one of the narrations of Imaams Ahmad, Shaafiee and Abu Sawr (AR).
Hadrat Ibn Abbaas (RA) was once asked about the punishment for the homosexual. He replied, “He should be taken to the top of the highest building in the town and thrown headlong from there. Then he should be pelted with stones.”
Jaabir bin Zaid used to say, “The prohibitive decree of the anus is far more serious than the prohibitive decree of the vagina.” In other words, the prohibition against anal intercourse is far more severe than the prohibition against illegitimate sexual intercourse (with a woman).
ITS DANGERS IN THIS WORLD
Among the evil consequences of this sin are the many deadly and contagious diseases that result from it. Some of these illnesses are such that medical science — with all its might, power and advanced technology – has failed to combat or even fully comprehend, let alone cure it. Certainly no one is able to rise above the Will of Allah Ta’ala and escape His wrath!
Some of these fatal diseases are:
AIDS: There is no cure for it. It is contracted and spread through unlawful sexual intercourse and perverted sexual acts like homosexuality.
GONORRHEA: which causes inflammation of the testicles, blockage of the urethra, inflammation of the joints and sterility.
SYPHILIS: This is a type of venereal disease commonly known among the Arabs as ‘the English Disease’ since its origin lies in European societies where free intermingling of the sexes and immorality is rife. It results in insanity, paralysis, blindness, and other nerve disorders. Also leads to blood vessel damage and death.
GENITAL ULCERS: which causes inflammation of the lymphatic glands. It also gives rise to chronic festering of tumours, inflammation of the urethra, severe pain in the joints and swelling of the limbs.
HEPATITIS B: Its symptoms include fever, fatigue, nausea and jaundice. It results in chronic hepatitis or liver cancer.
These are only a few of the many deadly diseases caused by perverted sexual behaviour. Could anyone ever desire contracting any of them?
May Allah Ta’ala protect all of us from all types of evil!
THE WAY TO SALVATION!
My Beloved Brother! Practicing on complete Islam is certainly the key to our success in this world and the Hereafter. Islam has provided us with the solution to problems in every sphere of our lives. Without doubt, the road to saving ourselves is simple and as clear as daylight — and it is to keep ourselves far away from this grievous sin.
The following are some means that will help you to do this:
Do towbah (i.e. repent sincerely) to Allah and turn to Him.
Stay away from the company of evil people or friends who glamorize and glorify those deeds and things that are sinful and make them appeal to you. The company that the youth keep plays the greatest role in either reforming or corrupting them. Therefore, choose for yourself the company of righteous people who will be of help and benefit to you in the matters of your Deen (Religion) and your dunya (worldly affairs).
Turn yourself and your gaze away from all those things that arouse the passions, like looking at and staying in the company of beardless, young lads or even pictures of them of which films, magazines, etc are brimming.
Make every effort to get married in order to remain pure and chaste and respond to the call of our beloved Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) who has said, “O Assembly of Youth! Those of you who have the means to get married, should do so. And whoever is unable to do so, must keep fast. For this is certainly a protection for him.” (Bukhaari, Muslim)
Fast in abundance in order to suppress the carnal desires/passions. Our Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has said, “Certainly shaitaan flows in (the body of) man like the flowing of blood. So, subdue him by keeping fast.” (Sahih Bukhaari: vol.1 p.273 Book of Fasting)
Spend your spare time in those activities that will benefit you because the mind of an idle person becomes the target of sinful thoughts whispered by shaitaan and your nafs (the self which commands a person to do evil).
AND FINALLY.MY DEAR BROTHER!
What is the person who indulges in this evil waiting for? Is he waiting for the moment when death will suddenly overtake him while he is busy committing this sin? Has he given any thought to the condition of his father who had worked so hard to earn a living in order to bring him up and to see to his needs? How proud his father used to be of him, when he was a little boy, whenever he attended any gatherings! Has he thought about the condition of his mother who spent long, restless nights awake for the sake of his comfort? Is he now going to repay them with shame and disgrace them in front of everyone?
Or, is he waiting for death to overtake him while he is in the act of this despicable sin? Death certainly does not fix a time with us nor does it postpone its arrival for anyone, whether young or old!
My dear brother, this precious life is a special gift from our Beloved Creator, Allah, to us so that we may perform virtuous deeds and gain His pleasure. In fact, the principal motive behind everything that we do should be the pleasure of Allah — and this is the real meaning of success. Allah tells us:
“But the pleasure of Allah is the highest achievement: This is the greatest success.” (Surah at-Tawbah: 72)
Our life in this world is also a test from Allah. He has placed us in this world and created certain desires within us. But He has not made this world the place for the fulfillment of our desires. Here, we must fill our hearts with the fear of Allah and suppress our own desires and give priority to the wishes and orders of Allah over our own desires. In return for this, our Allah has promised to reward us with Jannah, the everlasting place of indescribable beauty and happiness that He has reserved for us in the Aakhirah.
“And for them who had feared standing before their Rabb (Sustainer) (on the Day of Qiyaamah) and had restrained (their) soul from lower desires,
Certainly Jannah will be their abode. (Surah an- Naazi’aat: 40,41)
And since Jannah has been created as the actual place for the satisfaction of all our desires, everything there will be according to our wishes. Allah promises:
“Therein shall you have all that your souls shall desire; therein shall you have all that you ask for! A hospitable gift from One Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful!” (Surah Fussilat: 31,32)
In conclusion, my dear brothers and sisters, I hope I have been able to illustrate clearly, yet briefly, the Islamic view regarding this sin and some of its harms so that it may serve as an eye-opener for those not involved in it and a means of earnestly repenting to Allah Ta’ala for those who have fallen into the trap of shaitaan.
It is now your duty, my beloved brothers and sisters, to inform each and every person of the sinfulness of this vice and its dangers and earn abundant reward from Allah Ta’ala.
I ask Allah, the All-Mighty, the All-Powerful to grant all of us the ability to turn to Him in repentance, and to make what I have written and you have read, a witness in our favour and not against us.
For Allah alone grants the Muslims the ability to do what is beneficial for them.
Q. A man has homosexual tendencies. He inclines to men although he understands that this is haraam. He does not indulge in homosexuality. What advice is there for him? What rules of the Shariah apply to him?
A. A man who inclines to males has to compulsorily maintain a distance from men. Since he is physically a normal male, all rules pertaining to males will apply to him. He has to exercise restraint over his nafs just as a normal man has to exercise restraint regarding his lust for women. The natural instinct of a normal man is to incline to women. The desire is to fornicate. But the Muslim man exercises restraint and controls his nafs with his Aql. In like manner should the homosexual do. He should control his nafs with his Aql. His unnatural tendency does not justify the evil of homosexuality just as the natural urge for having sex with a woman does not justify fornication. Since the person is a male, all the ahkaam of the Shariah applicable to males will apply to him. He has to continue practising as a Muslim man is required to regardless of his homosexual tendency.
QUESTION I am the uncle of a lady involved or was involved in a love saga with a Maulana. The Maulana is a well known pious figure in the community, and he is my close friend. The lady is about 30 years old and the Maulana about 50 years. Both are married and have children. The husband of the lady is a close friend of the Maulana. He always seeks advice from the Maulana. He has implicit trust and confidence in his friend, the Maulana. Whenever the Maulana comes to the town where the lady lives with her husband, he (the husband) is the host at whose home the Maulana stays for the duration of his visit. Every morning the husband leaves to attend to his business. Sometimes the Maulana is alone at home with only the lady present, the children also having left for school. In this scenario, a relationship developed between the Maulana and the lady (my niece). They developed a strong mutual love. Everything except actual zina was committed. After some time, a couple of years, the Maulana came to his senses, and I believe the lady as well. They have realized the evil of their relationship, have made Taubah and are very remorseful. No one besides myself and of course, Allah Ta’ala, is aware of this sordid saga. I told both that in my opinion, their Taubah is not sufficient to atone for their conduct. The evil is of such a nature that it requires more than Taubah. Am I right? Both have presented some excuse for their evil conduct. The Maulana says that it was in a moment of weakness that he succumbed to his nafs; that he did not plan to develop a relationship with his friend’s wife. It was never even in his dreams. He therefore feels confident of having been forgiven by Allah Ta’ala. He has also profusely apologized to the lady via myself. The lady contends that she was young at the age of 30 and she simply became infatuated with the Maulana who was 20 years senior to her. Her excuse, in her own words: “As a young lady I was totally overwhelmed by the Taqwa, knowledge and wisdom of the middle-aged man, and simply fell in love. This led to my treacherous, erratic and out-of character behaviour.” Both are persons of the Deen. Are their excuses valid? What else should they do besides Taubah to expiate for their very evil conduct and haraam relationship. Please comment and offer us advice which will benefit others as well. I might add, that numerous people are involved in similar and worse haraam sagas. Jazaakallah!
ANSWER AND NASEEHAT At the outset, in order to contain the explosion in us, and to avoid being judgmental – judgement which in our emotional opinion demands the assignment of this absolutely disgusting treacherous couple to everlastingly burn in Hell Fire, our brains constrain us to mellow our disgust and wrath with the following Aayat of Allah Ta’ala: “Say (O Muhammad!) to My servants who have oppressed their souls that they should not despair of the Rahmat (Mercy) of Allah, for verily, He forgives all sins. Verily, He is the OftForgiver, The Most Merciful.”
Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said that no matter how numerous and how great the sins committed may be, Allah Ta’ala forgives the sincere repenters. Therefore, even if the sins are as numerous as the bubbles on the ocean and as huge as the Himalayan mountains, the remorse in the heart wipes out all these sins even before the verbal Taubah has been made. The soul of Taubah is regret in the broken heart of the sinner, i.e. if his heart is truly broken by the absolute villainy and notoriety of the callous, treacherous and unforgivable misdeed perpetrated. ‘Unforgivable from our perspective, not from the perspective of Allah Who is Ghafoor and Raheem – Whose mercy and ghaffaariyat are boundless and always available to the sinners. But this does not and should not detract us from the reality and notoriety of the misdeed. Allah’s boundless Rahmat is never a license for adopting a lackadaisical attitude towards sin in general and in particular towards the disgusting treachery committed by this devil Maulana and this vixen, traitorous woman. This Maulana has cruelly, deceitfully and most treacherously stabbed his friend in the back, seduced his wife and deracinated from his heart and brains the ‘knowledge’, ‘wisdom’ and ‘taqwa’ which this vixen had imagined, and presents as an excuse for her infidelity. Her presentation is a trick of her nafs to minimize the villainy of her treachery. The excuses of both are totally invalid. Their excuses are being presented to soothe their own conscience which rebels against their treacherous conduct, and to minimize the utter villainy and disgust of their treachery. This attitude – their subconscious minimizing of the gravity of their notoriety – is a dangerous trap of shaitaan to pollute their Taubah. Taubah, according to the Qur’aan must be Taubah Nasooh, i.e. a Repentance raised on the bed of raw Ikhlaas (Sincerity and Remorse). They should not present even the slightest vestige of cover or minimization of their absolutely unacceptable treachery. Just imagine! A trusting friend – a loving and caring husband is brutally stabbed in his back by his ‘trusted’ Maulana friend and his ‘faithful’ wife for whom he labours and loves so dearly. This ‘friend’ is a dacoit, a fraud, a deceit of the most treacherous kind, and this ‘faithful’ wife is an immoral vixen. Both should drown themselves in the cesspool of inequity and treachery which they have prepared for themselves. We wonder if after this treacherous brutality, did this Maulana ever have the guts to look his friend in the face? Did this treacherous woman ever have the guts to look her husband straight in the face? If yes, it indicates that they have not understood the absolute disgust of their treachery. They are banking on their Taubah. They should remember that they are dealing with a Being Who does not forget – with Allah Azza Wa Jal. Tomorrow is the Day of Qiyaamah. If Allah Ta’ala has not accepted their Taubah, they will stand there in the multitudes in the Divine Court facing the Friend/Husband. This miserable couple should ponder, in fact, meditate – engage in Muraaqabah – on that scene which could transpire on the Day of Qiyaamah. We reiterate that Allah Ta’ala is All-Forgiving and All Merciful. The Doors of Taubah never close. But the Taubah must be genuine. From the excuses proffered we discern deficiency in their Taubah. They must renew their Taubah afresh. They must refrain from presenting straws of extenuation. They must fully, fully realize their villainy and understand that they are rotten inside and outside – rotten to the core. Then with this attitude should they drown themselves in tears and cry their hearts out seeking forgiveness from Allah Ta’ala. It took the Maulana extremely long to come to his senses. If the relationship was perpetuated for years, the gravity of the villainy and treachery is multiplied manifold. The Maulana’s excuse of having succumbed in a moment of weakness to his nafs is false. The perpetuation of the haraam affair for years was not enacted in a “moment of weakness”. The continued affair has all the paraphernalia of plan and contemplation which are aggravating factors to damn and condemn the Maulana. Remaining at home alone with the lady is also indicative of planning. What happened to his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa? He is not ignorant of the Hadith Warning: “Never ever be alone with a woman, for verily the third one present is shaitaan”. His knowledge, wisdom and taqwa should have dictated that he should never have cast himself into such a dangerous combustible situation. A man and woman alone, especially when they were no longer strangers, are the ingredients for a sudden flare-up of the nafs. Did his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa not remind him that Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan Majeed: “Do not approach near to zina.” But here this Maulana threw all of these Qur’aanic and Hadith warnings out of the window. The knowledge, wisdom and taqwa which do not protect a man in such combustible situations are fake. Our Mashaaikh say: “Verily, Allah loves a penetrating gaze when doubt settles on a person, and He loves a kaamil (perfect) aql (intelligence) when lust devours him.” In such dangerous situations, if the intelligence is employed to restrain and subdue the nafs, then it will be a kaamil aql, and the struggle will be more meritorious than the struggle in the physical battlefield. For a man who utilizes his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa to maintain the purity of his body, mind and heart, i.e. overwhelm his nafs by beating down his concupiscent desires to prevent himself from indulgence in haraam, Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) presented the following glad tidings: “He who falls in love (with a woman), and remains pure (in body and mind), then dies, verily he has become a Shaheed.” As for the vixen: her claim of being a ‘young woman overwhelmed’ by the moron Maulana’s imaginary integrity, is utterly baseless. She was at that stage a mature woman of 30, a mother of children, and she had a loving caring husband to attend to her desires, yet she betrayed him in such a cruel manner. Does she not know that from the age of buloogh – the age of 15 or even before – the person is an adult in Islam and is held liable by Allah Ta’ala for his/her deeds? Does she think that she is absolved of punishment for her misdeeds because of her age of 30? Does she not know that she can be stoned to death for adultery regardless of being 30 or 15? In fact, the enormity and villainy of the crime of this wicked Maulana and this vixen lady are of such egregious proportions that they should believe that they are fit for Rajm (Stoning to Death). With such a sincere attitude totally bereft of any vestige of self-vindication, they can have much hope in Allah’s Infinite Mercy and that they are or will be forgiven. What a silly, self-deceptive excuse is this “30 year old young lady” story? The lady should not delude herself with self-complacency to later find, on the Day of Qiyaamah, her treachery around her neck like a dead albatross for all and sundry to behold. Both of them should feel themselves to be dirty – filthy. The attainment of purity from their filth is no easy task. It requires repeated Taubah and self imposition of penances. But then too, effacement from memory of the treachery is well nigh impossible. Only Allah Ta’ala can help in this situation. The Maulana’s apology to the lady is stupid and baseless bunkum. What is there to apologize to her when she is the co-partner in the wickedness. Forgiveness must be sought from only Allah Ta’ala. We fail to understand this stupid concept of apology to the one with whom adultery was committed. Both are zaanis (adulterers) in the crime. They have no option other than to repeatedly renew their Taubah. A scrambled egg cannot be unscrambled. The damage is done. Now remains only regret, Istighfaar, hope and struggling to gain greater proximity to Allah Ta’ala. This is what particularly the Maulana should do, using his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa, and the lady should simply drench her musalla with tears of blood. May Allah Ta’ala have mercy on both and on us all. No one is safe from the enemy- nafs and shaitaan. Our castigation is not from a pedestal. It is not to make them despair of Allah’s mercy. It is to jolt them into realizing what they have perpetrated. It is clear to us that they have as yet not fully understood the villainy of their treachery. Their self-diagnosis is wholly deficient, and this contaminates their Taubah. Again we say that it is not contempt which underlies our reprimand. The one who offers naseehat from a high pedestal is worse than this treacherous couple. He is a veritable shaitaan giving vent to his takabbur. The naasih who proffers advice should always bear in mind what Hadhrat Nabi Yusuf (Alayhis salaam) said: “I do not proclaim my nafs to be pure, for verily, the nafs is a great commander of evil except the one on whom Allah has mercy.” (Qur’aan) Our harshness is only to jolt the two miscreants. It is for their own goodness in this dunya and the Aakhirah. If they misconstrue it, the consequences for them on the Day of Qiyaamah are too ghastly to contemplate. May Allah Ta’ala forgive us all and save us from the evil of our nafs and the snares of Iblees.
Q. If a person says the following, is he still a Muslim?
Stoning is not part of Shariah. He goes on to give explanation that some commentators of the Quran included the Hadith about stoning. And they need to interpret one in light of another. He also says they said there was a verse in Quran whose recitation was abrogated but the ruling remained. He says that some people said that you can’t have Hadith abrogating the Quran.
Shariah laws like cutting of the hands are not applicable today. He goes on to say that we read that when Isa (AS) comes back then he will abolish the jizya. So he explains that it depends on the time and place.
There is no apostasy law ( I think he means no death penalty). He explains that there is no compulsion in religion and so the Hadith may not be authentic or it would mean that the Hadith applied to a certain circumstance in the time of Prophet Muhammad (SAW).
He feels that the ‘Muslim countries’ should be ruled by majority (democracy).
He believes that transgenders can marry.
He says because we believe that Isa (AS) is a prophet and so during Christmas we should have lectures etc to honour the birth of Isa (AS).
You can believe in evolution theory.
You can give interest in the case of a mortgage as it is difficult nowadays.
He believes there is something like black magic but he says that if people had the power today then they would use it to change governments etc.
He says Non Muslims can go to Jannah if they do good actions within their range.
He says if you follow the Prophet (SAW) in the minor things then often times we lose the bigger picture. The minor things are taken from Hadith. I think he meant that the bigger picture is to submit to Allah.
He explains crucify as a method of killing but he says that in the case of Isa (AS), Isa (AS) was crucified but not to the point that he was killed. Then he quoted some Tafsir book.
He is friends with pro LGBGTQ priest. A. A man holding these clear-cut beliefs of kufr is termed Akfarul Kaafireen, i.e. he is among greatest of the kuffaar, perhaps worse than Fir’oun and Iblees. In this era the Ummah abounds with kuffaar of this category. They masquerade as Muslims whilst every capillary in their body pulsates with kufr. One does not have to be an Aalim to understand the kufr of people of this kind. Their kufr is a conspicuous exhibition which pours out from every aperture of their bodies and from every pore on their skins.
A husband can never rape his wife. when a man marries a woman and pays her mahr, she becomes lawful for him. If she refuses conjugal relations in spite of being in his nikah and after having accepted the mahr, then the la’nat (curse) of Allah and the malaaikah descend on her. The laws of the kuffaar are satanic. A woman who denies conjugal relations to her husband is termed naashizah (grossly disobedient). She is not entitled to receive maintenance from her husband. The case of husband- rape in America is a reflection of the corruption and immorality of kufr society.
If a Muslim’s wife refuses to have conjugal relations with her husband without valid shar’i reason, e.g. she is not sick, then he is allowed to force himself on her. However, living in a kufr country one should be careful of being charged for statutory rape. If the woman is of such a low degree of imaan that she will not hesitate to report the matter to the police. If she is such a woman, then the best course would be to divorce her. When a wife refuses to fulfil the rights of the marriage and refuses to permit conjugal relations, then it is no use living with such a woman. This advice of divorce is given if it has become the practice of the woman to refuse conjugal relations. Howerer, if her refusal is an occasional thing, one should not take drastic steps.
“Please see below and advise if this is valid or not.
Prohibited times for sexual relations
“It is makrooh to indulge in sex during 3 nights of each Islamic month – the 1st, last & the 15th night because on these nights shaytaan is (more) on the prowl. Therefore Tuesday night (i.e. after sunset on Tuesday which will be Wednesday night Islamically) and the 2 Eids must also be avoided.
It is also makrooh to have sex in the early part of the night because this will result in the possibility of staying in a napaak (impure) state the entire night.
Sexual intercourse on a full stomach is harmful due to medical and health reasons for both the woman and the man. Furthermore, the resultant child conceived will be a dull and backward.
Preferable times for sexual relations are:
Sunday night- the child will (probably) become a Qari.
Monday night- the child will be a generous big hearted child.
Wednesday night- the child will be an uprighteous, Allah-fearing, sagacious child.
Thursday night- the child will be sincere.
Friday before Jumuah- the child will be born with good fortune.
Always remember to recite the Masnoon dua at the time of commencing cohabitation and at the time of ejaculation. The dua should be ‘recited’ in the mind only, not verbally. Both husband & wife should ‘recite’ the dua. It is reported that if a person does not recite these duas, shaitaan becomes a participant and derives pleasure from his wife.
Shah Abdul Haq Dehlawi (rahimahumullah) states in this regard: If a Dua like this is not made at time of coitus, and only the sexual urge is fulfilled like animals, the child that is born out of such a union will not be saved from the evil influence of shaytaan. This is one of the main reasons that the morals of the present generation are immoral” (Rifaatul Muslimeen)
The acts and advices in the question are obscure and generally unknown to the Ulama. However, we cannot discount these issues as false. There is the strong probability of the advice and admonition being valid. These kinds of issues are to be found in reliable Kutub (books) such as the works of Imaam Ghazaali, Sayyid Abdul Qaadir Jilaani, Abu Taalib Al-Makk,i Shah Abdul Haq (Rahmatullah alayhim) and others. These personalities were illustrious Ulama who at the same time were Auliya of outstanding calibre.
The narrations of these Authorities of the Shariah may not be dismissed as fabrications as is the attitude of ulama who are spiritually barren. There is strong reason to believe that these illustrious Ulama had acquired these issues from Ahaadith of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) – such Ahaadith which are not found in the popular Hadith Kutub. But this is not reason for discounting narrations. The popular Hadith kutub embrace an extremely small percentage of the Ahaadith which the Muhadditheen had compiled and from which they had selected for inclusion in their kutub such as Saheeh Bukhaari, Saheeh Muslim, Sunan Abu Daawood, Sunan Nasaa’, Muwatta Maalik, Ibn Maajah and numerous other reliable Hadith kutub.
Imaam Buhkaari (Rahmatullah alayh) said: “I have memorised one hundred thousand Saheeh Ahaadith and two hundred such Ahaadith which are not Saheeh.” From this treasure of 300,000 Ahaadith, Imaam Bukhaari included in his Saheeh Bukhaari only 7,275 narrations, and after deducting the repetitions, there are only approximately 4,000 Ahaadith.
Further, the 200,000 Ghair Saheeh (not Saheeh) narrations are not fabrications to be discarded. They are technically not Saheeh in terms of the criteria formulated by Imaam Bukhaari for his high standard of authenticity. Numerous Ahaadith which are not Saheeh according to Imaam Bukhaari, are Saheeh according to other illustrious Muhadditheen. Thus, Ghair Saheeh should not be misconstrued to mean unauthentic, fabrications, forgeries, etc.
The Muhaddith, Imaam Abu Zur’ah Ar-Raazi (Rahmatullah alayh) had memorized more than 600,000 Ahaadith. He said that from these 600,000 he had memorized 100,000 Ahaadith in the manner in which Surah Ikhlaas (Qulhuwallaah) is memorized.
From this vast treasure trove of Ahaadith, the combined total of the Sihaah Sittah is approximately 10,000 narrations. Thousands of other authentic Ahaadith are scattered in innumerable kutub, and many of these kutub are no longer extant. Numerous Ahaadith were transmitted by reliable narration from generation to generation – from one Shaikh to the other down his Silsilah. It is therefore, moronic to deny the validity of advices and admonition which appear in the kutub of illustrious Ulama and Auliya such as Imaam Ghazaali, etc.
Regarding the issues mentioned in the question, it will not be sinful if not observed and not practically implemented. Nevertheless, wisdom dictates caution. It is in one’s best interest to observe the advices. And Allah knows best.
the points listed below were sent to me from the majlis ulama south africa after my nikah in 1997.
Sexual intercourse in the anus is haraam.
Sexual intercourse during the state of haidh is haraam.
It is preferable to be covered with a blanket or sheet when indulging in sex. Total nudity, although not sinful, is discouraged in the hadith.
During the sexual act abstain from speaking.
While indulging in sex with one’s wife it is haraam to think of another woman.
Sex should not be indulged in immediately after having eaten. Wait for about two hours. It is harmful for the health to engage in sex on a full stomach.
During the state of haidh it is not permissible to touch or even look at that part of the wife’s body which is between the navel and the knees.
If the wife’s monthly haidh period is less than ten days, then it will not be permissible to engage in sex immediately when her period ends. It is necessary to wait for her to take ghusl or at least one full salaat time passing.
If after having had sex once, the husband wants to have sex the second time the same night, he must wash his private part and so should the wife. It is not permissible to engage in sex the second time without having washed the private part.
It is preferable to take ghusl immediately after having had sex. But, this is not compulsory. It is not good to sleep the whole night in the state of impurity. The angels of mercy do not remain with one who is in the state of janaabat.
When about to indulge in sex, recite the relevant dua which could be found in almost every dua kitaab.
When about to reach climax recite the relevant dua in the mind without lip movement.
Oral sex is not permissible.
The husband can approach his wife during sex from any angle provided that he does not have sex in the anus.
One should not indulge in sex at such a time which will bring about qadha of salaat or missing of the jamaat salaat.
The husband should take into consideration the health of the wife and not indulge in excessive sex. Excessive sex is harmful physically as well as spiritually.
During the wife’s haidh period, if the husband is craving for sex, it is permissible for him to find relief by his wife masturbating him. Self-masturbation is not permissible.
VARIOUS QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS RELATED TO WOMEN FROM THE MAJLIS VOL 25 NO 10
Q. Is it permissible for a wife to take a job outside the home? Can the husband prevent her? A. It is not permissible for the wife to take a job outside the home even with the permission of the husband. It is not permissible for her to do any work even from home without the permission of her husband. The maintenance is the responsibility of the husband. If he provides the maintenance, and he refuses permission for his wife to work and earn even from home, then it will not be permissible for her to undertake any job even from within the precincts of the home. The husband is under Shar’i obligation to prohibit and prevent his wife from leaving the house to work or to participate in any kind of function.
Q. My husband works in an office among females who are immodestly dressed. He says that he keeps his eyes cast down. He also says that Muslim doctors and even Ulama work with women. What is the Shariah’s law in this regard? A. The doctors and even Ulama who do not observe proper Hijaab and who work with women are not the Shariah. Their activities and their mingling with women in their professions and occupations may not be presented as a valid basis. The only basis is the Shariah, not the practices of people even if they are great Ulama. If their practices are in conflict with the Shariah, it will remain haraam and not become halaal because they happen to be ‘great’ Ulama. It is not proper and not permissible for a Muslim male doctor to attend to female patients. He should divert them to female doctors. Only if there is a valid reason upheld by the Shariah may a male doctor attend to a female and vice versa. There are numerous non-Muslim female doctors who can handle Muslim female patients. A Muslim doctor is not supposed to work in a hospital where he has to incumbently interact with females. Thus, their actions are not Islamic proofs for permissibility. Your husband should himself make a sincere attempt to work elsewhere where he will not be in the company of women. He is bound to fall into the pit of zina. Shaitaan and the Nafs are deceiving him.
Q. Is it permissible to donate human milk? A. Human breast milk is haraam. Breast milk is only halaal for under two year old infants. Donating or selling human milk or any part of the human body is haraam.
Q. Will a woman be a faasiq if she does not wear niqaab? A. A woman who does not wear Niqaab in public is worse than a faasiqah. She is a faajirah (immoral).
Q. Will the wife be disobedient if she refuses to submit to her husband’s demand for oral sex? A. The one who makes such a filthy satanic demand is worse than a pig. Oral or shaitaan sex is haraam. The wife should not submit to the swine-filth of the husband. She will not be disobedient. She is under Shar’i obligation to refuse the haraam instructions and haraam lusts of her husband. How can a human being who is termed Ashraful Makhluqaat (The Noblest of Creation) descend into such depths of swine-inequity?
Q. Is marriage to a Salafi girl valid? A. Marriage with a Salafi girl is valid just as marriage with a Muslim prostitute is valid. However, such a marriage will be full of misery, hence inadvisable. There will be no compatibility and the marriage is likely to break down and end in divorce. The Deeni differences and conflicts between Salafis and the Muqallideen of the Math-habs constitute an unbridgeable chasm.
Q. Does the period of breastfeeding differ for boys and girls? A. The period of breastfeeding is two years for both boys and girls.
Q. My mother is extremely sick and complains a lot. What advice can I give her? A. Be of service to her to the best of your ability. Tell her that it comes in the Hadith that sickness is a purifier. It cleanses us from all our sins provided that we do not complain. Complaining will not cure the sickness. On the contrary the sickness will become worse. Sickness is also a ni’mat (favour) of Allah Ta’ala. He purifies us here on earth with sicknesses and other difficulties so that we can enter Jannat fully purified. Advise your mother to keep her tongue constantly engaged in Thikrullaah. Maut can come at any moment. Therefore, the tongue should always be engaged in some Thikr to ensure departure from this dunya with the Kalimah on the tongue.
Q. Is imitation jewellery permissible? A. Imitation jewellery is permissible for women except rings. Rings must be of either gold or silver.
Q. Is it proper for a man to marry a second wife only for the sake of his lust? A. Allah Ta’ala permits a man to marry four women. As far as ‘lust’ is concerned, everyone marries to satisfy his/her lust. The primary motive for marrying even one wife is to gratify lust. Initially people marry only to satisfy lust even if only one wife is taken. Allah Ta’ala has created lust in people, hence He is aware that men require more than one wife to satisfy their lust lawfully. Never voice yourself against any Law of Allah Ta’ala. Recite Istighfaar and make Taubah.
Q. Why is it not permissible for women to attend walimahs. During the time of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam), they would go to walimahs. A. Just as it is not permissible for women to attend the Musjid even if there are separate entrances, so too is it forbidden for women to attend ‘walimahs’ nowadays. Furthermore, the ‘walimahs’ nowadays are farcical and bid’ah. In fact, it is not permissible for even men to attend the reception organized by the girl’s parents on the day of the Nikah. Such a reception is not the walimah. Women used to attend the Musjid for Salaat during the age of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam). However, this was unanimously banned later by the Sahaabah. The same applies to walimahs and to all other merrymaking functions.
Q. How many holes may a lady pierce in her ears? A. A lady may pierce her ears only with one hole in each ear. More than one is the style of the kuffaar.
Q. My husband has cheated on me. He has struck up adulterous relationships. My heart is broken. I don’t know what to do. My health is suffering. I want to run away. Please give me some advice. A. Countless women are undergoing the same heart-breaking problems. When men lack Taqwa, they conduct themselves like atheists. They really do not believe that Allah Ta’ala is seeing them and that the Recording Angels are writing their misdeeds. However, do understand well that your broken heart is a wonderful treasure by Allah Ta’ala. Allah Ta’ala, in His Own Words, said to Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam): “I am with every broken heart.” Your grief will not be in vain. You will receive immense rewards for patiently bearing the grief. Focus more on Allah Ta’ala. Do not ruin your health on account of the shenanigans of your husband. Maintain your health and use it to gain nearness to Allah Ta’ala. Increase ibaadat. Life on earth is short. It is full of trials. May Allah Ta’ala grant you strength and steadfastness on the Deen. May Allah Ta’ala guide your husband and protect you.
Q. A man has two wives. The one wife lives with him while the other wife lives in her own house about 100 kilometres away. This wife demands equal nights. What is the Shariah’s rule? A. In the scenario mentioned by you, if the wife who lives 100 kilometres away desires equal nights, then she has to reside in a house procured for her by her husband in the town where he lives. She cannot demand equal nights living in her own house 100 km from her husband.
Q. I do not allow my children to visit their grandparents – my parents and my wife’s parents. They have televisions, and in general they do not observe the rules of the Shariah such as purdah, mushtabah / haraam food, etc. They are accusing me of breaking family ties. Am I breaking family ties? A. In fact, it is not permissible to send your children to relatives who are not strict on the Deen. Refraining from sending the children does not mean that you are severing family ties. It is the Waajib obligation of parents to ensure that the Akhlaaq of their children are not compromised by relatives. Nowadays, the safest is to stay at home, and not to visit even relatives. We are trapped in an era of fitnah and fasaad. A home where the Deen is observed is a holy sanctuary visited by the Malaaikah of Rahmat. On the other hand, houses such as the homes of your parents are haunts for the shayaateen. These people lack the haziest idea of the meaning of family ties and what constitutes disruption of breaking of family ties. Furthermore, it is haraam to uphold ‘family ties’ when in conflict with the Shariah.
Q. Is there a special thikr or amal for anxiety and depression? When my evil past comes to mind, I develop anxiety and go into depression. A. When anxiety develops, do not brood on the past. Do not entertain the thought which is the cause for the anxiety. Instead, lapse into Thikrullah. Perform two raka’ts Nafl and engage in Thikrullah. Shaitaan tries to derail a person by causing anxiety in this manner. A Mu’min equipped with the weapon of Thikr does not suffer depression. Anxiety is an assault of shaitaan, and its antidote is Thikrullah. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Shaitaan sits glued on the heart of man. When he (man) makes thikr, shaitaan flees. When he (man) is oblivious (ghaafil), shaitaan casts his waswasah.”
Q. I have found out that my husband is conducting relationships with women via his cell phone. He refuses to give me the password. What should I do? A. 99% of the men of this age, including molvis and sheikhs, are involved in cellphone zina and pornography. There is nothing you will be able to do in these circumstances. Men and women are drowning in deluges of moral filth – zina and porno – of the cellphone. Little children are also addicted to this device of shaitaan. The entire Ummah across the board, is buffeted madly in this whirlpool of cellphone filth. People no longer have Imaan. They have become atheists. They are in entirety bereft of any concept of Allah’s Omnipresence. They have become munaafiqs. Whilst they blabber with their mouths about the Recording Angels, they sin flagrantly in front of these Malaaikah and with Allah Ta’ala looking at them. But since they do not really believe in the Presence of Allah Ta’ala and His Malaaikah, they sin recklessly. You can only constantly offer good advice to your husband and adopt Sabr. If you are unable to bear his evil abuse with patience then your marriage will end. Thus, your choice is between Sabr and Talaaq. Q. The separation between a husband and wife was in terms of Khula’. Is it correct that the Iddat of this woman is 30 days? A. The Iddat of a woman whether separated by Talaaq or Khula is the same. It is three haidh periods if not pregnant. If pregnant, it ends with the delivery of the child.
Muhtaram Mufti Saheb,We have come across a video by Zakir Naik wherein he gives a lengthy discussion with regards to masturbation.After reviewing the video, one is left with the strong impression that masturbation is permissible. Till now, the youth knew it to be Haram. However, this has created doubts in their minds and hearts and left them confused. Surely, such a ruling would open a door that was best left closed till now. The youth till now refrained or at least tried to refrain from this act due to the sin involved with it. If a fatwa were to remove the sin associated with this act, the youth would surely fall into this tempting trap of Shaytaan. We request Mufti Sahebs ruling on the matter. Furthermore, what is Mufti Sahebs opinion about Zakir Naik? We would appreciate your Fatwa in this matter. Jazakallah
Zakir Naik is a well-known personality famed for his skill in comparative religion studies. Alhamdulillah, he has served and continues serving that important field with much dedication. Having said that, the field of Fiqh and Iftaa is vastly different to comparative religious studies. The field of Fiqh and Iftaa contains many intricacies which an untrained, undiscerning eye will not easily identify. Therefore, it is necessary upon an individual seeking a Fatwa to refer to reliable qualified Muftis who have years of experience in this field. Nevertheless, in the video in reference, Zakir Naik says that there are 3 opinions regarding masturbation. 1. The overwhelming majority of Scholars who say that it is Haram to masturbate. This view is deduced from the following verse of the Holy Quran, وَالذِينَ هُمْ لفُروجِهِمْ حَافظونَ إلََّّ عَلى أزوَاجِهِمْ أوْ مَا مَلكَتْ أيْْانُُمْ فإنَُّمْ غيُْْ مَل وِمينَ )المؤمنون: 5، 6 (Translation: “Those (will have succeeded) who safeguard their private parts except with their wives and what their right hand possesses.”It is clear from the verse that all forms of satisfying one’s desires are prohibited. However, two exceptions have been made i.e. marriage and bondswomen. This implies that anything besides these two exceptions reverts to the default position of prohibition. Therefore, masturbation is prohibited. One cannot claim that the verse is silent with regards to masturbation. Clearly, the verse has initially outlawed every means/method of satisfying one’s sexual desires (this includes masturbation) and then makes only two exceptions to the rule. This shows that everything besides these two exceptions reverts to the default position of prohibition. The second proof cited is the following hadith, عَنْ عَبْدِ الَّلَِّ، قالَ قالَ لنا رسُولُ الَّلَِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم : يََ مَعْشَرَ الشَّبابِ مَنِ اسْتطاعَ مِنكُمُ ال بَاءةَ فَ لْيَ تَ زَوجْ فإنهُ أغضُّ للْبصَرِ وَأحْصَنُ للْفَرجِ وَمَنْ لََْ يسْتطِعْ فَ عَليْهِ بِِلصَّوْم فإنهُ لهُ وجَا ءTranslation: “Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, 0 young men, those amongst you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains the eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one fromimmorality; but he who cannot afford it should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.”Once more, one cannot claim that this hadith too is silent regarding masturbation. The fact is that the purpose behind the hadith is to stop young men from falling into the temptation of zina and Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has offered practical solutions to overcome that temptation. The first solution is marriage, and the second is to fast as fasting is known to curbs one’s desires. It is well known that ejaculation via masturbation will completely lower one’s desires but despite that, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) did not offer it as a solution. This implies that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) deliberately ignored masturbation as it is prohibited and hence, cannot be a solution. Those who state masturbation is ‘makruh’. Firstly, it is important to understand the definition of the term ‘makruh’. Whenever the Fuqaha, especially within the Hanafi school, have utilized the word ‘makruh’, it refers to Makruh Tahrimi. Makruh Tahrimi are those acts whose prohibition is accepted and proven, however, due to other reasons, it will not be given the label of Haram.In simpler terms, this group too agrees that masturbation is prohibited, however, it will not be called Haram due to other reasons. Therefore, this group and the first are in agreement with regards to the prohibition of masturbation. This only leaves an extremely fringe group as the third opinion. An extreme minority who permit masturbation. The one scholar relied upon for this view is Ibn Hazm (Rahimahullah) who is known for his radical views on numerous issues which non besides him have accepted. To base a ruling, despite the clear proofs of an overwhelming majority of scholars throughout history, on an irregular (Shaadh) opinion of Ibn Hazm (Rahimahullah) is succumbing to one’s desires. Furthermore, to permit masturbation is to give free reign to the assortment of vices that accompany masturbation in today’s time. It is virtually impossible to find an individual who will masturbate without the use of pornography or at the very least, illicit thoughts regarding other women. It is worth mentioning that the youth are expected to avoid any such act that will aggravate their desires. They should lower their gazes, avoid mixed gatherings, avoid reading immoral literature, etc. On the contrary, to issue a ruling of permissibility of masturbation to youth who aggravate their desires and lead their passion to unavoidable situations lacks foresight and will prove detrimental in the long run. The major consequence of issuing such a ruling is that firstly, we have given the youth who have indulged in this abominable practice an excuse to vindicate themselves. Prior to such a ruling, they atleast acknowledged the act to be sinful, leaving room for Tawbah in the future.However, by telling them it is permissible to masturbate, we have permitted them to indulge in this practice without a care. Secondly, such a ruling will impact those youth who have so far protected themselves from this act. By removing this abhorrence towards the act, we have removed the fear of sin and the sanctity of purity and chastity from their hearts. We therefore categorically state that masturbation is not permissible and has long lasting negative implications. This is also the view of the vast majority of our Fuqaha. This act is abominable in the eyes of men and is said to have been a practice of the people of Sodom and Gomorrah who had incurred the wrath of Almighty Allah. Almighty Allah destroyed the nation by upending the land on them and burying them deep in the earth. The dead sea is a manifestation of the dead values of Sodom and Gomorrah. And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best