From Make-up to Niqab: The Journey of a Muslim Woman

By Muslim Skeptic Team -September 28, 2022

This is a guest post by Bint Kashmir.

For many young women, their desire to wear make-up usually starts in high school. As young women, we often see our friends doing something that is considered “cool” or “grown-up” and just follow suit. However, this change is usually much to the dismay of our parents, who look on in horror at the innocent face of their little girl now coated in layers of chemicals.

Wherever you look today—whether it’s social media, TV, advertisements, etc.—there are images all over the place with woman adorned with flawless make-up. Men mindlessly ogle at these images believing this is the standard for what their wives should look.

Unbeknown to them (and also to many women too) is the ridiculous amount of cosmetics and the numerous hours of photoshop retouching that goes into producing these images.

Young women see these images and then gaze upon their natural beauty in the mirror, and they’re simply unable to understand why they too don’t have the same silky-smooth skin, dazzling eyes and voluminous locks.

The more you scroll, the more insecure you become. Even the most confident women can easily become a victim to this. I was one of those women, and honestly I still struggle whenever such an image pops up on my screen.

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My personal make-up journey started in high school. Prior to this I was blissfully oblivious regarding the vast array of products that are available. My friends were the pretty girls who always looked their absolute best, and I wanted to be just like them.

As a young and naïve teenager, I drifted into the trend of striving every day to look like some kind of supermodel. During my last year of high school, as well as the years that followed, I had significantly upgraded my make-up.

It was no longer just foundation, blush and mascara. Now there was also concealer, eyeliner, eyeshadow, highlighter, bronzer and gloss. These products, which contained numerous harmful chemicals, messed with my skin and caused it to break out and become more inflamed than ever before.

And thus began the vicious cycle.

I would cover up my acne with make-up, only for it to suffocate my skin and cause further breakouts.

As shameful as it is to admit, I couldn’t even leave the house without wearing make-up. I was so insecure about my natural looks due to the constant bombardment of pictures of these so-called “flawless” and “perfect” celebrities.

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It was only after I moved abroad and witnessed women casually wearing the niqab that I also started wanting to wear it. You can either cover yourself with make-up, as society dictates, or you can cover yourself with niqab as enjoined by Islam.

For me personally, the niqab is a shield which protects me against the stares of random men with vile thoughts and also against the glances of envious women.

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their veils all over their bodies. That is most convenient that they should be known and not molested.” (Surah Al-Ahzab, 59)

As soon as I came across this verse and studied its meaning, everything just seemed to make sense. The reason I lacked confidence was because I hadn’t been following what Allah Almighty had commanded. I’m not here to put my beauty on display, but rather to conceal it and only reveal it to my husband.

That inner peace that we all desperately seek can only be discovered submitting fully to Allah Almighty. I am witness to this truth. The moment you let go of the Haram (unlawful), Allah Almighty blesses you in ways you’d never imagined.

The beauty and personal care industry is one of the largest and most unregulated industries in the United States. It is currently valued at $534 billion.

These products may include hormone disrupters which can lead to birth defects in children as well as components that can lead to cancer. These businesses also support unethical sourcing and inhumane working conditions.

Our bodies are not our personal property. They belong to our Creator, Allah—The Lord of all that exists. It is our responsibility to take care of our bodies and ensure that we do not misuse or abuse them.

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Make-up products are infamous for causing severe allergic reactions, making the skin age prematurely and blocking natural sunlight. For centuries, sunlight has been used to treat several skin conditions such as acne, eczema and psoriasis. With its antibacterial properties, 10-20 minutes of sunlight a day could be all the skincare that you need.

I’d like to conclude with three valuable tips that have greatly aided me in overcoming my previous negative thoughts:

  1. Be grateful for the beautiful face that Allah, The Most Beautiful, has blessed you with. He chose your features specially for you. So give thanks to your Lord profusely.
  2. Delete all social media which triggers insecure thoughts and unfollow all influencers who push unrealistic beauty standards.
  3. Know that your worth is not measured by how beautiful you are perceived to be by society; but rather by how beautiful you are in the sight of Allah, your Creator.

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet ﷺ said:

”Allah does not look at your bodies or at your forms, rather He looks at your hearts and deeds.” (Sahih Muslim)

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“Why are they wearing shorts?” – The Question That Shook Pakistan

Journalist Rafiq Khan faced a fierce backlash for asking about Pakistani women’s football team’s kit

“This is the Islamic Republic of Pakistan,” Rafiq Khan stated. “And you are playing in shorts. Please tell me, is it not possible to play in leggings, and if you can play in that, what is the problem?”

This single question prompted an outburst of criticism on mainstream media channels and went as far as abuse being hurled at the journalist on social media.

News articles derided the question as “regressing “, “irrelevant”, “humiliating” and even “disturbing”.

Whilst on Twitter, Pakistani celebrities heaped on the outrage. Squash player, Noorena Shams, asked if Khan had “ever bothered to ask when money is stolen?”. TV host, Anoushey Ashraf, blasted the question as “cringe worthy” whilst referencing the Quran that “there is no compulsion in religion”.

Other comments called for Khan to be sacked and banned from reporting.

Double-Standards Overlooked

It is noteworthy that those hurling harsh criticism seem to overlook the double-standards of their stance. They call for women to be given the “freedom” to wear whatever they like, but at the same time, they attempt to take away the freedom for others to even question it.

Whereas the Islamic position implies the reverse: it is not permitted for men or women to expose such parts of their bodies (‘awrah), and we are all commanded to enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong. There ought to be more journalists like Rafiq Khan, who have the courage to speak out about un-Islamic practises being adopted and normalised in Muslim lands.

Sharp Decline

It is also remarkable how the unfortunate decline of Islamic norms—including dress codes—in Muslim lands such as Pakistan have occurred so rapidly. Only a single generation ago, such revealing outfits would be regarded as “embarrassing”, “regressing” and “disturbing”. Now, only a few years later, the very same clothing has been embraced to such an extent that these very words are being used for merely questioning it.

Coach Adeel Rizki’s response tells its own story.

Definitely, we understand that we are an Islamic nation, and our values are very strong,” he acknowledged. “But it is imperative to be progressive in sports.”

This remark suggests that Muslim women exposing their legs is progressive. Does that imply covering legs is regressive? This mindset is arguably more troubling than the issue itself. These comments are even more nonsensical when we consider that other players such as those from the Maldives women football team adopt a full body kit and manage to compete at an international level.

Progress ≠ Imitating Westerners

In Surah Nur, Allah (swt) says:

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze, and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.”[1]

To frame this debate as an argument on progression, completely disregards the problem that is being brought up. When did subverting Islam, and Allah’s command equate to being progressive? Modesty is not a question of being free it’s a question of being committed to one’s values. Both men and women have awrah that they must cover themselves according to Allah’s command, to safeguard us all from the absolute chaos that has become of lands and societies that lack such values.

tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.”[2]

It is not about restricting one’s rights, or specifically women’s rights, it is about following the guidelines given to us so we can stay upon the right path and so we can protect ourselves from sin. Both men and women have restrictions, believing that subverting them is a sign of ‘progression’ is nothing more than falling into the deception of the shayātīn.

Verily, every way of life has a character, and the character of Islam is modesty.”[3]

We should take pride in following Islam; we should not see Allah’s commands as burdens but as wisdom that is there to protect us. Dressing in a manner outside of what has been declared halal may seem appealing, but it is nothing more than a dangerous desire. This life is a test, and it is easy to be distracted and forget, but we must try our hardest to remind ourselves of why we are here and what our purpose is. And in those moments of weakness, we should turn to Allah and ask for forgiveness and guidance, for Allah says in Surah al-Zumar:

My servants, you who have transgressed against yourselves, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Truly Allah forgives all wrong actions. He is the Ever-Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” [4]


References:

[1] 24:31

[2] 24:30

[3] Musnad Ahmad

[4] 39:53

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Female Muslim Scholars: Past vs. Present (Alimahs, Zalimahs, and Lazymas)

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
My wife is an ‘alimah.
For the major part of my life I had assumed that her humility, respect, patience, tolerance, love, piety, attachment to the Qur’an, the quality of her khidmah towards myself and my parents, her wonderful rearing of our children, the support she gave me and the great advice and guidance that she offered when it was needed was all a result of her studies in becoming an ‘alimah.
It was only much later on in life that I realised my monumental mistake and profound error.
You may have noticed how I mentioned nothing about my wife’s cooking. This is because, of her many great qualities, I associated her ability to cook good food and make a great cup of tea to the home she came from.
I had been living with a false perception:
I believed I was blessed and fortunate because I had married an ‘alimah.
But this isn’t the case. After 20 years of being married, I now realise that my fortune in having a good marriage is not because my wife is an ‘alimah. Certainly not.
I am fortunate, Alhamdulillah, because my wife came from a good home.
She came from a home where she learnt to have respect for her husband and to look after his family; where she learnt humility; how to carry out khidmah and how to run a home properly with no complaints and demands; to be grateful for everything she has; and to be capable of enduring the hard times which are inevitable within any marriage.
She hadn’t picked them up from madrasah. She went to madrasah with these qualities already present within her. Having gained these qualities from her home and with her tarbiyah having been carried out well, this meant that her studies served as an enrichment and amplification of her already good character, piety and personality.
Her love for Qur’an, her din, her salah, her good character—it was all acquired at home from her parents: from my mother in-law and my father in-law. And I have now come to realise that I am so greatly indebted to both of them for the excellent care and upbringing of their daughter; the mother of my children.
May Allah ﷻ reward them immensely and fill their graves with nur (light). Amin.
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Wondering How I Came to Such a Realisation?
The answer is simple:
I got my son married to a girl who I thought was an ‘alimah, but it turned out that she was actually a zalimah, and a lazyma.
Yes, I had seen many red flags with her family, but I stupidly thought:
She’s an ‘alimah so she’ll be different. She won’t take after her mother. She’ll maintain a good relationship with her in-laws. She’ll serve her husband, look after him well, respect him and be obedient towards him.
I thought that since she had studied Qur’an and Sunnah, her akhlaq would be in accordance to what she had learnt in the Madrasah.
Oh how how very foolish I had been to have assumed that, just because she’d studied to become an ‘alimah, she would have shed the upbringing that she’d received at home and the things that she’d been taught there!
That was my fault, and I admit that I am to blame for this much. And this is precisely the reason I am writing this; so that others do not make the same mistake, especially young ‘ulama’ who are graduating and are keen to marry, possibly thinking that an ‘alimah should be their greatest aspiration for marriage.
To them I will simply say: Don’t be fooled.
Forget focusing on finding an ‘alimah. Look instead for a simple girl from a good and religious home where they are regular in salah, where she has learnt and become accustomed to cooking and cleaning—a home where she remained sheltered from the outside world and where her tarbiyah had been carried out properly.
Such a home will engender within a woman modesty, humility, respect for her husband, as well as the qualities of khidmah and sabr (patience and endurance). This is what you really need; not someone whose ego is so inflated with pride that it has morphed her into an ‘alimah with horns, i.e, a “zalimah,” or someone so “busy with studies” and so averse to work that she has become a complete “lazyma.”
Don’t for a single moment assume that her studying to become an ‘alimah somehow guarantees that her tarbiyah and islah has been carried out effectively. And that’s even if the madrasa is well-known. Often the madrasah is not sufficient for the tarbiyah of the students. The tarbiyah of a woman is usually done within her home, and the greatest influence upon her will be her mother. So look carefully at the family. Examine their relationships with their in-laws and it’ll provide you with some insight as to what your future may be like with such a woman at your side.
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Do your homework. Don’t be naive. Don’t take anything as a given.
Be careful! Be careful! Be careful!
I would actually go even further and say that if she did study all those kutub (books), then make sure you be extra careful in assessing her character, personality and dini maslak (religious affiliations and leanings)—more than you would a normal girl who didn’t study all those kutub.
Why?
Because ‘ilm, particularly the very high level of ‘ilm that is taught within a darul ‘ulum, can be a trial for some people and possibly a double-edged sword. It can either imbue in someone humility and obedience towards Allah, or shaytan can deceive them and use it to breed arrogance and pride.
And because a woman by her very nature is prone to becoming crooked, if her tarbiyah has not been effectively carried out within her home, it is more likely that she will become arrogant, proud and argumentative. She will then distort and misapply her Islamic knowledge in order to appease her nafs and ego.
That is why countless senior ‘ulama’ today say that it is preferable for a girl to learn the Qur’an and the basic knowledge of din and to then remain at home, having their tarbiyah and islah done, rather than going out to the girls’ madaris. Even though my wife has studied, we both agree upon this point, and we have decided that we won’t be sending our daughters out to learn. Our daughters will learn at home, as is also the practice of many of our senior Muftis today with regard to their daughters.
Another reason for this outcome is that the girl who is becoming an ‘alimah is also overpampered at home and becomes spoilt. She is allowed by the parents to sleep and abdicate her duties within the home. The parents believe they are doing a service to din by making her life easy so she can study, whereas in reality they are actually setting her up to become a lazyma who will often, because of her lazy habits, be the primary cause for a failed or troublesome marriage. She goes on to expect the same lifestyle when she is married, always making excuses to abdicate her responsibilities within the home, feigning sickness and tiredness from all the dini work she is doing.
She will then accuse her husband of being “too demanding” or “too strict” when he expects only what any man would expect from a marriage and from an “‘alimah,” not realising that he married a zalimah or lazyma instead of a real ‘alimah who has her priorities straight.
So what exactly did they learn that made them this way?
Selective Huquq (rights) and entitlement is the most fitting answer.
This means they focus on learning only their own rights and what others, especially their husbands, “owe” them.
When a girl whose tarbiyah and islah has not been effectively done at home goes to madrasah, in spite of everything that is taught there, they seem to only be capable of focusing on learning how to do the bare minimum.
That is why their catchphrase and life slogan becomes:
‘Its not my duty to __________.’
Or:
‘Its not fard upon me to ___________.’
You can fill in the above blanks with numerous things that actually contribute towards a meaningful stable marriage and create unity and love within families such as:
Cooking for her husband;
Keeping the home clean and tidy;
Visiting in-laws;
Serving his parents like her own out of love for him;
Visiting grandparents;
Taking her grandchildren to visit their grandparents;
Devoting her time to her husband and children;
Smiling;
Expressing love;
Being thankful;
Being a close friend and confidant to her husband;
Taking and showing an interest in his interests;
Being appreciative;
Listening to him;
Being supportive; etc.
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They have selective forgetfulness when it comes these type of ahadith:
Once, during a khutba, Allah’s Messenger ﷺ addressed the women and instructed them to give sadaqah (optional charity) as he had seen how they made up the majority of the inhabitants of jahannam. When a woman stood up and asked why this was, the Prophet ﷺ replied:
لأنَّكُنَّ تُكْثِرْنَ الشَّكَاةَ، وَتَكْفُرْنَ العَشِيرَ
Because you complain a lot and are ungrateful towards your husbands.
(Bukhari 961, Muslim 885)
Under the explanation of this hadith, the muhaddithin (expert hadith scholars) have stated:
أي: تُنْكِرْنَ فضْلَ أزواجِكُنَّ، وتَجْحَدْنَ حُقوقَهم عليكُنَّ
‘I.e., you reject the authority of your husbands, and you dispute with them regarding their rights over you.’
The system of Allah is that He has made fard what is absolutely essential, i.e., the bare minimum without which the primary maqasid (objectives) of marriage would not be realised. This is the reason why a woman cannot refuse a man’s intent for relations and vice versa, since this (fulfilling the desires in a halal manner) is a primary maqsad (objective) of nikah.
But there is more to a marriage than only this. There are the sunan (prophetic actions and mannerisms), the mustahabbat (encouraged recommendations) and the adab (etiquettes). Of course when it comes to the zalimah, she doesn’t seem to recognise any of this unless it is of some direct benefit to her.
Yes, there are some things that a woman does not have to as a fard obligation, as the zalimahs perpetually remind us, but do they stop to think for a moment what this means? Does this mean that she has to live her married life only doing the bare minimum from what is her duty and nothing else?
This is akin to saying that in salah you don’t have to concentrate, since it’s not a fard of salah, or saying men only have to cover their satr (nakedness) from their navel to their knees when performing salah. This is the bare minimum for salah to be deemed salah but it doesn’t in any way imply that you should be performing salah in this manner all your life.
In the same way, marriage is not just about fulfilling the bare minimum duties (fara’id).
In salah and other ibadat (acts of worship), the greater the effort you make (in terms of the sunan, mustahabbat and adab), it will be borne of love for Allah and your desire to please Him. And it is also for your own protection, because those who skirt on the boundaries of fard and obligatory duty only are bound to lapse at times and prone to cross the limits into haram.
In the same way, a woman—even if she be labelled as a so called “‘alimah” despite only being concerned about doing the bare minimum fard obligations—will often become a zalimah, crossing the boundaries into neglecting her duties and committing haram.
More importantly, her behaviour will expose lack of love towards her husband and his family, which then will eventually be reciprocated. Whereas she could have easily lived a happy life full of love and contentment had she realised that there is more to marriage than just the bare minimum “duties.”
Non-‘alimahs find this easier to understand.
Marriage is not just about doing the bare minimum. It is about going above and beyond for your husband, your in-laws, and your kids. It is about doing more than just what you have to, out of love and appreciation. This creates a loving environment, fosters good relationships and leads to a happy life, in both the dunya and akhirah.
Zalimahs forget that the anger of the husband invites the anger of Allah. Yet when these matters come up, spurned by their stubbornness and argumentative nature, they make grand statements and claims such as:
“My Allah ﷻ is with me.”
No, dear zalimah, Allah is not with you when your husband is displeased with you.
What is extremely strange with regard to these zalimahs, is that despite of crying “duty, duty” when it comes to their husbands (being inclined to sleeping most of the time, neglecting and delaying their responsibilities within the home until it all piles up, etc.), they are often very regular in nafl (supererogatory) ibadat and nafl fasts. Here they do not consider only what their bare minimum duties are. The double standards they extract from whatever they learnt in madrasah are indeed shocking when the masa’il (rulings) are clear when it comes to a wife needing the permission of her husband to observe nafl fasts and to engage in nafl salah when he is present.
This itself is sufficient to convey the immense right that Allah ﷻ has given to the husband.
If only they would wake up and stop following the mindset and ways of the modern day feminist shayatin (devils) while donning the garb of supposed “‘alimahs.”
By this point, those of you who are loyal to feminism will be fuming with anger because this goes against your teachings of “tame the husband” and all the other anti-Islamic slogans that you peddle. This doesn’t bother me in the least. It is exactly the kind of behaviour, thinking and shaytani (satanic) philosophy that we expect from you. It destroys good marriages and results in the worldwide crisis of failed marriages and broken homes—something we see wherever feminism is pushed.
Those of you whose loyalty is to Islam, and to whom Allah ﷻ and His Rasul ﷺ are more beloved than anything else in the world, will be ready to accept the truth when it is presented before you, and you abandon any prior inclination that you may have had towards the shaytani feminist agenda.
I am writing this piece for this second group, in the hope that boys and their parents would wake up and not make the same mistake that I had made. But I am also hopeful that girls and their parents will learn from this so that this state of affairs can change.
And If you are reading this as a girl who herself studied kitabs or is currently studying, then take stock of yourself. Are you an ‘alimah, a zalimah or a lazyma?
Don’t take offense at these words. They are intended to make sober people and to bring them out of their foolishness, something for which strong medication is needed. If you are able to reflect and introspect and see if any of these undesirable qualities are present within you, then this realisation will serve to be the first step towards changing yourself.
Let the ‘ilm of din humble you and imbue within you the qualities of a good wife. Then you can live a rewarding and contented life in both this life and the next.
Take the example of Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) and how she did khidmah of her husband, the Prophet ﷺ. She was sent salam by Allah ﷻ and Jibra’il (peace be upon him) when she was bringing food to the Prophet ﷻ at the cave of Hira’—not the false concocted perception of an “independent businesswomen” which the feminists seek to portray her as. She was not out and about like the businesswomen of today are.
Take the example of ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who was a model of modesty; and that of Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her); and the other Ummahat al-Mu’minin (mothers of the believers) who embodied the qualities of simplicity, humility, khidmah for their husband ﷺ, generosity in giving charity, remaining concealed within their homes, and occupying themselves in their free time with household chores and ibadat.
Take the example of Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) who developed callouses on her hands because from doing chores.
Don’t take the example of the modern feminists—especially the Muslim ones who shaytan is using to spread immodesty and shamelessness in the ummah.
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Then you will be a true ‘alimah.
But if you are a zalimah or a lazyma and you’re not willing to change your ways and your ideology, then you will have none but yourself to blame for the life of misery that will follow.
May Allah ﷻ grant us all hidayah (guidance) and the tawfiq (ability) to be humble and to accept and follow good, sincere advice. Amin.
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Unfit Imams Attack Muslim Marriage – Their New Strategy

By Daniel Haqiqatjou -August 28, 2022

Unfit and incompetent Imams are spreading a new type of deviance. They are encouraging Muslim women to force men to sign contracts before marriage vowing not to marry additional wives and to grant divorce upon the woman’s request.
No Muslim man should agree to such stipulations. The fact that she would propose such things is a red flag indicating that this is a person who doesn’t care to follow the rulings of Islam.
The fact is, marriage in Islam does not grant equal power and authority to husband and wife (nor does it require equal responsibility).
But feminists want to nullify this Allah-ordained imbalance in power by creating these kinds of pre-nikah stipulations in the marriage contract.
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This is because they are not satisfied with the ruling of Allah and they desire to change this sacred institution of marriage in the image of feminism.
These imams will defend themselves by saying, “But this type of stipulation is allowed in some schools of fiqh.” Ok, if such stipulations can be made, then maybe Muslim women should also sign binding contracts pre-nikah that they will forego secularized court systems if there is any problems in the marriage. And they will accept the minimum mahr. And they will not fight for custody of children in case of divorce. And… and…
Would any of these feminists agree to that?
The problem is, even if she does agree, no secular court will uphold such a contract. This is because the secular court systems severely disadvantage men as far as family law, divorce, and custody are concerned. This is the oppressive reality, and many Muslim women take advantage of this while disregarding the Sharia and basic Islamic ethics.
Unfit imams are so ignorant about this oppressive reality that they want to go even further and make sure to destroy even the last-remaining vestiges of privileges that Islamic marriage gives to men. They think that they know better than Allah and His Messenger ﷺ.
These are the kinds of things that are destroying marriage for the Muslim community today. Let’s not forget the role of Unfit Imams.
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LISTENING TO THE TALKS OF YASMIN MOGAHEAD

BY MUFTI MOHAMMED DESAI DB

Question:-
I would like to find out if we are allowed to listen to talks by Yasmin Mogahed or read her books?
Answer:-
We don’t have much information pertaining to Yasmin Mogahed of Almaghrib Institute. However, it is quite clear from her profile that she is a modernist female who doesn’t don the Purdah, appears on You-Tube channels, and travels around the world to deliver ‘motivational lectures’ at various venues. We understand that both males are females are her audience and listen to her lectures. The above profile is sufficient to prove that she doesn’t adhere to the Shariah and, in fact, openly violates the laws of Allah and His messenger Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Sinning causes the heart to be blackened, and consequently the flowery and motivational words of the speaker will bear no effect whatsoever. Yes, the simple-minded audience will outwardly praise her lectures, but its effect will drive them away from Deen, instead of it bringing them closer to their Creator. She is continuously under the curse of Allah Ta’ala due to openly displaying herself in public, and over the internet.
Imaam Raaghib Isfahaani Rahimahullah has written in Mufradatul Quraan that, the curse of Allah actually means that one is distant from the mercy of Allah Ta’ala. When a person is distant from the mercy of Allah Ta’ala, they cannot be saved from the evil of the Nafs. It is only the one who is enjoying the mercy of Allah Ta’ala that will be protected from the evil of the Nafs.
When Yasmin Mogahed is deprived of the mercy of Allah Ta’ala and is spirituality dead, then how will she guide others towards Allah Ta’ala. She is, in actual fact, treading the path of misguidance and taking others in the same direction. She is just another agent of Shaytaan who is attracting the masses towards herself with her flowery words, which are actually, thorns.
When Shaytaan planned to drive Adam Alaihis Salaam out of Jannah, he attained his objective and goal by influencing Hadrat Hawa Alaihas Salaam. Similarly, on another occasion, Shaytaan passed by Ayub Alaihis Salaam (when he was inflicted with his lengthy illness) in the form of a physician. The wife of Ayub Alaihis Salaam requested him to treat her husband, to which Shaytaan replied, “I shall treat him without charging you for the treatment and medicines. However, when he is cured, I want you to say that I cured him.” She agreed to do so. When she mentioned this to Ayub Alaihis Salaam, he became angry because, accepting the condition of treatment entailed uttering words of Shirk since Allah Ta’ala is the only One Who can cure. Again, Shaytaan influenced the woman. The great Abid of the Bani Israeel whose Duas would be readily accepted in the court of Allah Ta’ala, Bal’am Bin Ba’oora, was also influenced by his wife to accept the gifts or rather bribes presented to him by the Amaaliqah people and in turn, curse Moosa Alaihis Salaam and his army. He fell prey to their request on the insistence of his wife and made Dua against the Nabi of Allah. Consequently, he was also misguided and lost all the treasures of Deen which he was blessed with, which included the ‘Ism-Aa’zam.’
Therefore, we shouldn’t be deceived by this agent of Shaytaan. The Hadith Sharif warns us, “Fear Dunya and fear (the Fitnah of) women, for verily the first Fitna of the Bani Israeel was of women.” [Muslim]
In conclusion, her programmes should not be attended, nor should she be entertained by any institute or organization, nor should one read any of her books. There is ample, authentic literature available, which have been written by our righteous and pious Ulama, which can be studied to reform our lives.
ALLAH TA’ALA KNOWS BEST!
ANSWERED BY:
Mufti Mohammed Desai
Date: 15 Muharram 1444 / 14 August 2022

How the Womenfolk of the Sahabah Would Address Their Husbands

By Muslim Skeptic Team -July 21, 2022

This is a guest post from Ustadh Ebn Hussein.

How did the best generation of Muslims, and those who followed them in goodness, address their husbands?

In al-Durr al-Mukhtar fi Sharh Tanwir al-Absar (a treatise of the Hanafi legal school) by Imam `Ala’ al-Din al-Haskafi (may Allah have mercy upon him), we read:

وَيُكْرَهُ أَنْ تَدْعُوَ الْمَرْأَةُ زَوْجَهَا بِاسْمِهِ

“It is reprehensible (makruh) for a woman to address her husband by his name.”

We read in renowned the commentary of this book, Radd al-Muhtar ala ‘l-Dur al-Mukhtar by Imam Ibn `Abidin (may Allah have mercy upon him):

لَابُدَّ مِنْ لَفْظٍ يُفِيدُ التَّعْظِيمَ كَـ: يَا سَيِّدِي وَنَحْوِهِ

“It is necessary [for the wife] to use forms of address which convey reverence such as ‘my master’ (sayyidi) and similar to that…”

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He then proceeds to cite supportive evidence (with weakness in its chain):

وعَنْ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ عَطَاءٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ: قَالَتِ امْرَأَةُ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْمُسَيَّبِ:مَا كُنَّا نُكَلِّمُ أَزْوَاجَنَا إِلَّا كَمَا تُكَلِّمُوا أُمَرَاءَكُمْ: أَصْلَحَكَ اللهُ، عَافَاكَ اللهُ

“The wife of Sa`id ibn al-Musayyib said: ‘We (i.e. the womenfolk of the Sahabah) used to address our husbands as we addressed our rulers: may Allah rectify your affairs, may Allah give you good health.’”

However, it is undoubtedly established in sahih (authentic) reports that Umm al-Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with her) used to say the following words whenever she narrated a hadith from her husband Abu ‘l-Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him):

“My master (sayyidi) narrated to me…”

Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah be pleased with him) says in his commentary (sharh) on the Sahih of Imam Muslim:

قال النووي في شرح مسلم قوله: (حدثتني أم الدرداء، قالت: حدثني سيدي) تعني زوجها أبا الدرداء، ففيه جواز تسمية المرأة زوجها بسيدها

“Umm al-Darda’ narrated to me; she said: ‘my master narrated to me…’

Here she is referring to her husband Abu ‘l-Darda’ and from this, it can be deduced that it is permissible for a wife to address her husband as sayyidi (my master).”

This custom is not alien to the Qur’an either:

وَأَلْفَيَا سَيِّدَهَا لَدَا ٱلْبَابِ

{They encountered her master (i.e. husband) by the door. (Qur’an, 12:25)

And here is the icing on the cake regarding the sublime position of the patriarch (husband) in Islam:

حَدَّثَنَا أَزْهَرُ بْنُ مَرْوَانَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ الشَّيْبَانِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي أَوْفَى، قَالَ لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذٌ مِنَ الشَّامِ سَجَدَ لِلنَّبِيِّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ ‏”‏ مَا هَذَا يَا مُعَاذُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَتَيْتُ الشَّامَ فَوَافَقْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ وَبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ فَوَدِدْتُ فِي نَفْسِي أَنْ نَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ بِكَ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏”‏ فَلاَ تَفْعَلُوا فَإِنِّي لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِغَيْرِ اللَّهِ لأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ لاَ تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا وَلَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ

`Abdullah ibn Abi Awfa said: “When Mu`adh ibn Jabal came from Sham, he prostrated to the Prophet (ﷺ) who said: ‘What is this, O Mu`adh?’ He said: ‘I went to Sham and saw them prostrating to their bishops and patricians and I wanted to do that for you.’ The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman can fulfill her duty towards Allah until she fulfills her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.’” (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Check yourself before you wreck yourself!

Of course, it is not outright forbidden (haram) for a wife to call her husband by his name because there is no evidence to indicate such. This is the view of many scholars of Islam. People’s customs and traditions should be taken into account regarding this matter. However, this is beside the point of this brief piece whose purpose is to raise the question:

Do you, as a Muslim, feel uncomfortable reading about how it was common for Muslim women to address their husbands with titles such as ‘my master’? If so, know that the problem lies with you and not with the Salaf’s understanding of authentic Islam, which philosophical liberalism, feminism, and other anti-Islamic isms seek to eradicate and replace with a castrated version of Islam.

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يُرِيدُونَ لِيُطْفِـُٔوا۟ نُورَ ٱللَّهِ بِأَفْوَٰهِهِمْ وَٱللَّهُ مُتِمُّ نُورِهِۦ وَلَوْ كَرِهَ ٱلْكَـٰفِرُونَ

{They want to extinguish the light of Allāh with their mouths, but Allāh will perfect His light, although the disbelievers dislike it. (Qur’an, 61:8)}

There is no doubt that authentic Islam (which is to be found in the tradition of the righteous Salaf and with the Imams who faithfully and accurately conveyed their teachings throughout the centuries⁠—not in the mental diarrhea of ​​some post-modern heretic) poses a nightmare and danger to every ‘modernist’ (deformist); especially psycho-feminazis and other such degenerates.

The quoted statements of the scholars and the Sahabah could serve as a kind of Ruqyah for these people. A sincere and just authority could put them in a room and get them to listen to and read so-called ‘misogynistic’ excerpts from the Qur’an, the Sunnah, and the sayings of the Salaf until the cows come home.

What is certain is that authentic Islam will always trigger the enemies of Islam. It will inevitably make them screech, whether they are open enemies of the Din or (even worse) wolves in sheep’s clothing (i.e., hypocrites).

But rest assured, the “reformation” (distortion) of Islam will never succeed. Not as long as millions upon millions of the ideological heirs of the Sahabah⁠—the Ahl al-Sunnah⁠—roam the earth.

لا تَزالُ طائفةٌ من أمَّتي يقاتِلونَ على الحقِّ ظاهِرينَ علَى من ناوَأَهُم حتَّى يُقاتلَ آخرُهُمُ المسيحَ الدَّجَّالَ

Imran ibn Husayn (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “There will always be a group from my Ummah that will fight on the truth, triumphant against those who oppose them, and the last of them will fight the Dajjal.” (Sunan Abi Dawud)

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WOMEN AND GRAVEYARDS

Question
I was searching online for the mas-alah regarding women being prohibited visiting graveyards but couldn’t find much.  I thought I may find it on the old masaa-il of marhoom Mufti Ebrahim Desai, as their old masaa-il were normal in those days. However I didn’t. Then I came across the following:
“From Ask Imam:
The Hadith you refer to is as follows:
“The Messenger of Allah cursed women who visit graves, those who built mosques over them and erected lamps (there).”
However, this refers to the time when the prohibition of visiting the graves was for everyone; male and female. This was later abrogated by the following Hadith:

“I prohibited you from visiting the graves, but (now) you may visit them.”
Women are permitted to visit a graveyard on condition: They are accompanied by a mahram. The accompanying of a mahram is meant to curb any possible fitnah.
The visit is a means of remembering death and conscientizing oneself of life after death and preparing for it.
Abdul Mannan Nizami, Student Darul Iftaa Chicago, IL, USA
Checked and Approved by Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
(End of fatwa)
Please advise and comment.
Answer
The fatwa is incorrect. The Hadith which the Chicago student cited and interpreted and which his teacher confirmed as correct, does not apply to both men and women. The Hadith states with clarity that women who visit graveyards are cursed. Although men were initially prohibited from visiting graves, the specific hadith discussed here refers to only women. The prohibition and curse are directed in this Hadith to only women.
The later abrogation applies to the prohibition which had extended to men. This abrogation did not apply to women. When women were unanimously prohibited by the Sahaabah from attending the Musjid for Salaat, then by what corrupt stretch of logic can their visiting graveyards ever be permissible.
Ponder well! Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) had permitted women to come to the Musjid. At no stage did he prohibit them. Yet, the Sahaabah deemed it later imperative to prohibit them, hence the new practice of prohibition became the Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam).
But as far as females visiting the graveyard, leave alone any initial permissibility, Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) proclaimed the severe stricture of LA’NAT (CURSE) settling on women who visit the Qabrustaan. In view of the severity of the punishment, it is HARAAM for women to visit the Qabrustaan. The fatwa issued by the student is corrupt and baatil.