A HUSBAND CAN NEVER RAPE HIS WIFE

A husband can never rape his wife. when a man marries a woman and pays her mahr, she becomes lawful for him. If she refuses conjugal relations in spite of being in his nikah and after having accepted the mahr, then the la’nat (curse) of Allah and the malaaikah descend on her. The laws of the kuffaar are satanic. A woman who denies conjugal relations to her husband is termed naashizah (grossly disobedient). She is not entitled to receive maintenance from her husband. The case of husband- rape in America is a reflection of the corruption and immorality of kufr society.

If a Muslim’s wife refuses to have conjugal relations with her husband without valid shar’i reason, e.g. she is not sick, then he is allowed to force himself on her. However, living in a kufr country one should be careful of being charged for statutory rape. If the woman is of such a low degree of imaan that she will not hesitate to report the matter to the police. If she is such a woman, then the best course would be to divorce her. When a wife refuses to fulfil the rights of the marriage and refuses to permit conjugal relations, then it is no use living with such a woman. This advice of divorce is given if it has become the practice of the woman to refuse conjugal relations. Howerer, if her refusal is an occasional thing, one should not take drastic steps.

Ahadith regarding certain evil qualities of Women

Question
Is this Hadith reliable?

إن الفساق هم أهل النار قيل: يا رسول الله، ومن الفساق؟ قال: النساء قال: رجل يا رسول الله، أولسن أمهاتنا، وأخواتنا، وأزواجنا؟ قال: بلى، ولكنهم إذا أعطين لم يشكرن، وإذا ابتلين لم يصبرن

Answer

Imam Ahmad and Imam Tabarani (rahimahumallah) have recorded this Hadith on the authority of Sayyiduna ‘Abdur Rahman ibn Shibl (radiyallahu ‘anhu) with reliable chains. Imam Hakim (rahimahullah) has also declared the Hadith authentic and ‘Allamah Dhahabi (rahimahullah) concurs.

(Musnad Ahmad, vol. 3 pg. 428. Refer: Majma’uz Zawaid, vol. 10 pg. 394 and vol. 4 pg. 73, Mustadrak Hakim, vol. 4 pg. 604)

Translation

Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:

“Certainly the ‘fussaq’ are the inhabitants of Jahannam. When Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was asked, ‘Who are the ‘fussaq’, He replied, ‘They are ‘Women’. A Sahabi then asked, ‘O Rasulullah, aren’t they our mothers, sisters and spouses’? Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied, ‘Certainly! However, when they are given something they do not appreciate and when they are put through a trial, they do not have patience.”

Another Hadith Regarding the Detrimental Characteristics of Women
Question

Kindly provide the correct Arabic wording and authenticity of the following narration:

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) has said: ‘The majority of those I saw therein [i.e. in the fire] were women who spread secrets when entrusted; when they are asked, they are stingy, and when they ask others, they do so in a demanding way.’

Husayn [ibn Muhammad, when narrating this Hadith] said [that Rasulullah – sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam – also added]: ‘And when they are given something, they are not appreciative.’

Answer

This is part of a lengthy narration which Imam Ahmad and others (rahimahumullah) have recorded on the authority of Sayyiduna Jabir (radiyallahu ‘anhu).

(Musnad Ahmad, vol. 3 pgs. 352-353; Also see: Majma’uz Zawaid, vol. 2 pgs. 87-88)

Imam Ahmad (rahimahullah) has recorded this narration with the following wording:

وأكثر من رأيت فيها النساء اللاتي إن ائتمن أفشين وإن يسئلن بخلن وإن يسألن الحفن- قال حسين: وإن أعطين لم يشكرن

Imam Hakim (rahimahullah) has recorded and authenticated a very similar Hadith [with identical wording] on the authority of Sayyiduna Ubay ibn Ka’b (radiyallahu ‘anhu). Imam Dhahabi (rahimahullah) has also concurred.

(Mustadrak Hakim with the Talkhis of Imam Dhahabi, vol. 4 pg. 605)

HADITH CAUTIONING WOMEN FROM SHOWING INGRATITUDE
Question

Please mention the Hadith which states that despite the husband taking care of the wife to the best of his ability, she complains and is ungrateful.

Answer

You are probably referring to the following Hadith recorded in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim:

Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas (radiyallahu ‘anhuma) reports that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “…I was shown Jahannam and most of its inhabitants were women who were practising kufr (disbelief/ingratitude).’ Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was asked, ‘Did they practise disbelief in Allah?’ He replied, ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and ungrateful when any good was done for them. If you were always good to one of them and then she saw something [that she disliked], she would say, “I have never seen any good in you at all!”

(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 29-1052-5197 and Sahih Muslim, Hadith: 907)

Note: These Ahadith have highlighted some causes for women entering Jahannam in general.

This does not denote that all women are doomed for Jahannam. Just as there are several Hadiths that warn men of Jahannam.

In fact, this should be considered a favour of Nabi (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam) in having informed women of what bad qualities to stay free from in order to attain salvation from Jahannam.

Approved by: Moulana Muhammad Abasoomar

Checked by: Moulana Haroon Abasoomar

Prohibited times for sexual relations

QUESTION

“Please see below and advise if this is valid or not.

Prohibited times for sexual relations

“It is makrooh to indulge in sex during 3 nights of each Islamic month – the 1st, last & the 15th night because on these nights shaytaan is (more) on the prowl. Therefore Tuesday night (i.e. after sunset on Tuesday which will be Wednesday night Islamically) and the 2 Eids must also be avoided.

It is also makrooh to have sex in the early part of the night because this will result in the possibility of staying in a napaak (impure) state the entire night.

Sexual intercourse on a full stomach is harmful due to medical and health reasons for both the woman and the man. Furthermore, the resultant child conceived will be a dull and backward.

Preferable times for sexual relations are:

Sunday night- the child will (probably) become a Qari.

Monday night- the child will be a generous big hearted child.

Wednesday night- the child will be an uprighteous, Allah-fearing, sagacious child.

Thursday night- the child will be sincere.

Friday before Jumuah- the child will be born with good fortune.

Always remember to recite the Masnoon dua at the time of commencing cohabitation and at the time of ejaculation. The dua should be ‘recited’ in the mind only, not verbally. Both husband & wife should ‘recite’ the dua. It is reported that if a person does not recite these duas, shaitaan becomes a participant and derives pleasure from his wife.

Shah Abdul Haq Dehlawi (rahimahumullah) states in this regard: If a Dua like this is not made at time of coitus, and only the sexual urge is fulfilled like animals, the child that is born out of such a union will not be saved from the evil influence of shaytaan. This is one of the main reasons that the morals of the present generation are immoral” (Rifaatul Muslimeen)

ANSWER

The acts and advices in the question are obscure and generally unknown to the Ulama. However, we cannot discount these issues as false. There is the strong probability of the advice and admonition being valid. These kinds of issues are to be found in reliable Kutub (books) such as the works of Imaam Ghazaali, Sayyid Abdul Qaadir Jilaani, Abu Taalib Al-Makk,i Shah Abdul Haq (Rahmatullah alayhim) and others. These personalities were illustrious Ulama who at the same time were Auliya of outstanding calibre.

The narrations of these Authorities of the Shariah may not be dismissed as fabrications as is the attitude of ulama who are spiritually barren. There is strong reason to believe that these illustrious Ulama had acquired these issues from Ahaadith of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) – such Ahaadith which are not found in the popular Hadith Kutub. But this is not reason for discounting narrations. The popular Hadith kutub embrace an extremely small percentage of the Ahaadith which the Muhadditheen had compiled and from which they had selected for inclusion in their kutub such as Saheeh Bukhaari, Saheeh Muslim, Sunan Abu Daawood, Sunan Nasaa’, Muwatta Maalik, Ibn Maajah and numerous other reliable Hadith kutub.

Imaam Buhkaari (Rahmatullah alayh) said: “I have memorised one hundred thousand Saheeh Ahaadith and two hundred such Ahaadith which are not Saheeh.” From this treasure of 300,000 Ahaadith, Imaam Bukhaari included in his Saheeh Bukhaari only 7,275 narrations, and after deducting the repetitions, there are only approximately 4,000 Ahaadith.

Further, the 200,000 Ghair Saheeh (not Saheeh) narrations are not fabrications to be discarded. They are technically not Saheeh in terms of the criteria formulated by Imaam Bukhaari for his high standard of authenticity. Numerous Ahaadith which are not Saheeh according to Imaam Bukhaari, are Saheeh according to other illustrious Muhadditheen. Thus, Ghair Saheeh should not be misconstrued to mean unauthentic, fabrications, forgeries, etc.

The Muhaddith, Imaam Abu Zur’ah Ar-Raazi (Rahmatullah alayh) had memorized more than 600,000 Ahaadith. He said that from these 600,000 he had memorized 100,000 Ahaadith in the manner in which Surah Ikhlaas (Qulhuwallaah) is memorized.

From this vast treasure trove of Ahaadith, the combined total of the Sihaah Sittah is approximately 10,000 narrations. Thousands of other authentic Ahaadith are scattered in innumerable kutub, and many of these kutub are no longer extant. Numerous Ahaadith were transmitted by reliable narration from generation to generation – from one Shaikh to the other down his Silsilah. It is therefore, moronic to deny the validity of advices and admonition which appear in the kutub of illustrious Ulama and Auliya such as Imaam Ghazaali, etc.

Regarding the issues mentioned in the question, it will not be sinful if not observed and not practically implemented. Nevertheless, wisdom dictates caution. It is in one’s best interest to observe the advices. And Allah knows best.

18 Muharram 1436 – 12 November 2014

SOME NECESSARY THINGS WHICH MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW

the points listed below were sent to me from the majlis ulama south africa after my nikah in 1997.

  1. Sexual intercourse in the anus is haraam.
  2. Sexual intercourse during the state of haidh is haraam.
  3. It is preferable to be covered with a blanket or sheet when indulging in sex. Total nudity, although not sinful, is discouraged in the hadith.
  4. During the sexual act abstain from speaking.
  5. While indulging in sex with one’s wife it is haraam to think of another woman.
  6. Sex should not be indulged in immediately after having eaten. Wait for about two hours. It is harmful for the health to engage in sex on a full stomach.
  7. During the state of haidh it is not permissible to touch or even look at that part of the wife’s body which is between the navel and the knees.
  8. If the wife’s monthly haidh period is less than ten days, then it will not be permissible to engage in sex immediately when her period ends. It is necessary to wait for her to take ghusl or at least one full salaat time passing.
  9. If after having had sex once, the husband wants to have sex the second time the same night, he must wash his private part and so should the wife. It is not permissible to engage in sex the second time without having washed the private part.
  10. It is preferable to take ghusl immediately after having had sex. But, this is not compulsory. It is not good to sleep the whole night in the state of impurity. The angels of mercy do not remain with one who is in the state of janaabat.
  11. When about to indulge in sex, recite the relevant dua which could be found in almost every dua kitaab.
  12. When about to reach climax recite the relevant dua in the mind without lip movement.
  13. Oral sex is not permissible.
  14. The husband can approach his wife during sex from any angle provided that he does not have sex in the anus.
  15. One should not indulge in sex at such a time which will bring about qadha of salaat or missing of the jamaat salaat.
  16. The husband should take into consideration the health of the wife and not indulge in excessive sex. Excessive sex is harmful physically as well as spiritually.
  17. During the wife’s haidh period, if the husband is craving for sex, it is permissible for him to find relief by his wife masturbating him. Self-masturbation is not permissible.

Marriage in Islam: Why is it an essential institution?

Marriage in Islam

The Role of a family in a society
Family is the basic unit of human society. A man and a woman when coming into contact and live together they lay the foundation of a family and a new generation. Families extend into a community and develop society. Therefore, the family as an essential institution leaves its legacy for the following generation to serve human civilization through their social duties.

Family as an institution functions as the custodian of human culture and development. A family wants to sustain its good image and envision its successors as a better replacement. So, family serves as the fundamental source and strength of human civilization which provides a breeding ground for evolution, progress, and development.

Islam, family, and marriage
Islam sees the family as an important social unit. Also, Islam provides a strong foundation for the establishment of a family. Therefore, Islam focuses on uniting a man and woman into a relationship through marriage. After marriage, the couple takes social responsibility and makes a family. Islam discourages irresponsible behaviour towards one’s family. Therefore it addresses the issue related to the very essence of human society.

Islam discourages all those acts in our society which can weaken the very foundation of a family unit. Note, Islam has proper regulations for Hijab, restrictions on free mixing of both sexes, pornography, adultery, vulgar movies, and music to protect a family from being shattered.

All these actions are targeted towards safeguarding and strengthening a family. Islam presents marriage as a noble and honourable act of worship. In a marriage, a man and women take the social responsibility of married life like their parents did before. So as to continue the evolution process of human history.

Islam wants to make marriage easy for every one
Islam firmly rejects all those practices, formalities, or constraints that make this important ceremony of marriage difficult to perform. It envisages a pure human society in which marriage is easier than adultery. Today, it’s the main cause of our moral degradation that access to sinful adultery has become easier than the sacred union of marriage.

Therefore, Islam has legalized marital relationships among Muslim men and women. Except for a few specified close relatives. It’s a very significant relationship that is conceived irrespective of race, color, caste, and territorial restrictions. Equivalent status of both man and woman and fixing a low amount of Mahr (dower) are desirable.

Marriage in Islamic society is the simplest ceremony which just requires two witnesses, a woman’s guardian, and better it is known to the people that a man and woman are going to live as a wife and husband.

The duties of husband and wife in a family
Islam has authorized man as a chief of a household to take care of the family and to maintain command and discipline.

In a family, Islam directs a wife to be obedient to her husband. She is required to take care of her husband’s comfort and to educate kids. Islam does not encourage a family which has no central authority or responsible head of the household to guide and lead the family members to prosperity and the right path. A disorganized family system leads to disturbance in society as it can’t produce responsible citizens.

Islam looks at the father as the suitable leader of the family to take over the responsibility. But the head of the household should not act like a dictator or tormentor to treat his wife and kids with oppression.

Islam promotes love in marital and family life. If the wife has to obey then he also has to treat her with affection and love. The husbands need to take care of all the rights of his wife and family members.

Remember, Islam tries to strengthen the marital bond. It encourages this relation as long as it can go smoothly with love and peace but if it is not possible for it to survive then Islam provides the right to divorce. This is an undesirable last option but when married life becomes big trouble then it’s better to part ways to save society from further disturbance.

May Allah strengthen our families. Ameen

Take it in Your Stride

Every person has some idea of their ideal life in mind. Ask a child in school, and even that child will have an idea of the ideal life that he wants to lead. Likewise, even a person opening a business will have an ideal outcome projected. Generate x-amount of income in y-period, thus allowing the business to expand over z-amount of time, and so on.

A place in which everything always unfolds according to the ideal is known as a ‘Utopia’ – and it simply does not exist in this world. Rather, in this world, we will be confronted by the unexpected, surprised by the unpleasant and shocked by the horrific. In mere seconds, a plan painstakingly formulated over years of careful deliberation and pondering can be derailed and rendered useless.

It is ONLY in Jannah that everything will be ideal and perfect, and we will have no unwanted surprises.

Every person, whether consciously or subconsciously, is aware of this reality and thus learns to adapt and compromise as they proceed through life. When the businessman suffers an unexpected loss (e.g. through a certain line not selling), he learns to compensate for it through other avenues (e.g. through increasing sales of another popular product).

In essence, the businessman takes the setback in his stride and learns to do the best that he can under the circumstance. Furthermore, he learns from his mistakes and setbacks, gaining valuable experience that enables him to make better decisions in future. Thus, over time, things will eventually improve and get better.

Marriage is exactly the same. Each spouse has their ideal life mapped out ahead of them – the children, house, grandchildren and so on. However, the reality is that the bed of roses they envision also contains concealed thorns which must be anticipated.

At times, the marriage is beset by financial difficulties, or in-law issues, or misunderstandings, or disobedient children, or illness or any other similar challenge. These challenges were obviously not expected and anticipated. However, the question is how the couple will react and respond when the planned, ideal life goes awry.

An intelligent couple will learn from their mistakes and take the setback in their stride. They will understand that everything in life suffers setbacks, and so they will be determined to ‘make the best of it’ rather than give up.

If the wife upset the husband by making him late, she will learn to be on time in future, and if the husband upset his wife by not informing her that he would not be coming for lunch causing her to prepare the food and wait for him, then he will also learn to be more considerate and inform her of his plans in future. If the wife had a misunderstanding with her sister-in-law, based on something she said that was misconstrued, then she will learn to be more guarded and cautious in her speech in future.

Similarly, if the rosy marriage with the baby carriage which they had planned does not materialise as they had anticipated, they remain positive. They continue trying and turn to Allah Ta‘ala, trusting in Him to make things work out in the end.

Everything in life has hurdles and setbacks, and marriage is no different. If we continue persevering and trying to improve, insha-Allah things will eventually improve and work out.

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THE DEVIL’S EYE

THE DEVIL’S EYE

A Sister whom Allah Ta’ala has saved by extricating her from the shaitaani clutches and traps of the sorcerers conducting ‘therapies’ under Deeni guise such as Body Talk, Aafiyah and the like, writes:

THE PINEAL GLAND & THE THIRD EYE.

When the CIA (Central Intelligence Agency of the U.S.A.) did a study of cults and secret societies they found that ONE THING common among these cults and secret societies from Kabbalah to Hermeticism, Free Masonry to Hellenism and even the deviated sufi cults, is their obsession with activating the Pineal Gland and Opening the third eye.

The third eye (also called the mind’s eye) is a mystical and esoteric concept of a speculative invisible eye, usually depicted as located on the forehead, which provides perception beyond ordinary sight. (Wikipedia)

So HOW does one do this?

I am listing these methods because many of them are trending and being practiced my Muslims. Often promoted by coaches and those in the pop psychology and modern spirituality industry.

  • yoga
  • hypnosis
  • meditation
  • guided meditation
  • breath work/ breathing with intention
  • opening one’s Chakras
  • spinning or shaking

……………………. (End of extracts from her letter)

OUR COMMENT

Iblees has harnessed these ‘therapists’ who are sorcerers and witches, into his conspiracy of converting people, especially Muslims, into Satanists. The immediate villainous consequence of these Body Talk/Aafiyah shaitaaniyat is enmity between husband and wife. The marriage completely breaks down. The Qur’aan Majeed, referring to this speciality of the Satanist sorcerers and witches, says:

“They learnt from the two (Haarut and Maarut) that which caused dissension between a man and his wife………. They learnt only that (i.e. (satanism) which harmed them, and did not benefit them.” (Al-Baqarah, Aayat 103)

Numerous Muslim women have become entrapped by Iblees into the sorcery cults practiced by the sorcerers and witches posing as ‘therapists’. We are aware of many cases of marriages breaking down as a direct consequence of wives having become ensnared in the devil’s tentacles via the agents of Iblees, the cultist ‘therapists’.

After being subjected to satanic brain washing and heart washing, the woman develops an intense hatred for her husband. This hatred is extended to other members of the family who are considered by the trapped woman to be deviates.

Muslims, especially women who have become easy prey for the villainous ‘therapists’, should beware. Do not approach near to these human devils. You will lose your Imaan and your family. Both your dunya and Aakhirah will be ruined by entanglement with the cults of Iblees.

Cults such as Body Talk and Aafiyah are HARAAM. These cults are traps of Iblees, so BEWARE!

8 Rajab 1442 – 20 February 2021

How to be an obedient wife (and why)

“If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise by whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.” – Narrated by Ahmad (1664)

The words of our Prophet, peace be upon him, are very clear. As believing women, we must obey our husbands. Indeed, this requirement is so important that the Prophet pbuh mentioned it alongside three of the most fundamental practices of Islam; i.e., the five daily prayers, fasting during Ramadan, and guarding one’s chastity.

In the world today, however, there is a general backlash against this teaching. ‘Why should wives obey husbands? Why is obedience necessary? Why can’t we have a marriage based only on equality and mutual love and respect? Why should I obey my husband, just because he is a man, and I’m a woman? Aren’t men and women equal?

In the following paragraphs, I shall attempt to answer these questions.

Why is obedience necessary?

Every institution, in order to function properly, needs a leader. You can’t have a body with two heads. You can’t have a school with two principals. You can’t have a company with two CEOs. The family is no different. When it comes to decision-making, it is best to have a single leader who has the last say on things; especially if, from time to time, decisions have to be made within a short time-frame.

The alternative is to argue endlessly: this happens when each person insists that they are right and is not willing to concede.

A family with a leader functions more efficiently than a family that doesn’t have a leader. Allah ta’ala says:

You who believe: Obey God and the Messenger, and those in authority among you.

The people in authority (husbands, parents, leaders) represent Allah’s authority; hence, we must respect and obey them.

Aren’t men and women equal?

As Muslims, when we say ‘Men and women are equal’, we mean that men and women are equal in matters related to salvation; but in other matters, Islam promotes equity, not equality. In many respects, men and women have the same rights rights. In some issues, women have more rights than men; in other issues, men have more rights than women. Of course, with more rights come more responsibilities. The Quran teaches that there is a hierarchal structure to the household,

‘Men are in charge of women’ (4:34)

Men and women are not the same. They have different physical and emotional needs. Islam acknowledges these differences.

One major psychological difference is that at their very core, men crave respect while women crave love. For women, the strongest psychological need is ‘to feel loved’: when we don’t feel loved and valued, we feel hurt. Men need to feel that others (especially, their wives) respect them. When a man doesn’t feel respected, he feels hurt and angry. When a woman respects her husband, he feels more masculine and powerful. This will make him want to take care of his wife, love her, and ensure her happiness. The more a woman respects her man, the more he will love her; and the more he loves her, the easier it becomes for her to respect and obey him.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that women don’t want to be respected, or that men don’t have a desire to be loved; but the strongest need is different for each.

When To Obey; and When Not to Obey

Being obedient doesn’t mean you always have to agree with your husband: When you disagree with him, you have every right to voice your opinion; but do so respectfully. If he insists that his decision is better, defer to his thinking. When you criticise or dismiss his ideas, (this can well happen in an argument) it’s always best to apologise; even when you know you’re right. Remember what the Prophet pbuh told a married woman:

Be mindful of how you are with him [your husband]. He is your Paradise and your hell.

(Sahih Al Jami’ 1509)

Muslim wives should follow their husbands’ leadership, except in the following circumstances:

  1. He wants you to do something that contravenes the commands of Allah ta’ala and his Messenger pbuh: One should not obey any creature, when this obedience involves disobeying the Creator; so, if your husband tells you to do something that is forbidden (for example, drinking wine) – you must not obey him.
  2. He wants you to do something that would harm you (or others) physically or emotionally. This is a basic principle of Islam, ‘La darar wa la darâr’ i.e., one should not harm oneself or others.

Being obedient doesn’t mean you should put up with abuse. It is also not a licence for husbands to abuse their wives; and act in an irresponsible and unkind manner. Love and kindness are essential components of a marriage:

Another of His signs is that He created spouses from among yourselves for you to live with in tranquillity: He ordained love and kindness between you. There truly are signs in this for those who reflect. (Quran 30:21)

(QURAN 30:21)

Final Thoughts

We’ve been made to believe that being obedient is demeaning to women: it’s not.

Obedience is a choice. The very fact that Allah taála and His Messenger enjoin us to obey our husbands means that that it’s possible not to obey. You can make a free conscious decision to either obey or disobey your husband; when you choose to obey, you will be rewarded with Paradise. 

When you obey your husband, you show that you trust your man and put your full confidence in him. It’s a sign of love and respect. By respecting him, you also respect yourself; you’re acknowledging that you made a wise choice to marry him. You are also ultimately respecting and obeying the Creator; Allah SWT says:   

Righteous women are those who are obedient,

Guarding in secret what Allah would have them guard.

(Quran 4:34)

this post taken from:https://firdawsjannah.wordpress.com/blog/

MISC. WOMEN’S ISSUES

VARIOUS QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS RELATED TO WOMEN FROM THE MAJLIS VOL 25 NO 10

Q. Is it permissible for a wife to take a job outside the home? Can the husband prevent her?
A. It is not permissible for the wife to take a job outside the home even with the permission
of the husband. It is not permissible for her to do any work even from home without the
permission of her husband. The maintenance is the responsibility of the husband. If he provides the maintenance, and he refuses permission for his wife to work and earn even from home, then it will not be permissible for her to undertake any job even from within the precincts of the home. The husband is under Shar’i obligation to prohibit and prevent his wife from leaving the house to work or to participate in any kind of function.

Q. My husband works in an office among females who are immodestly dressed. He says that he keeps his eyes cast down. He also says that Muslim doctors and even Ulama work with women. What is the Shariah’s law in this regard?
A. The doctors and even Ulama who do not observe proper Hijaab and who work with women are not the Shariah. Their activities and their mingling with women in their professions and occupations may not be presented as a valid basis. The only basis is the Shariah, not the practices of people even if they are great Ulama. If their practices are in conflict with the Shariah, it will remain haraam and not become halaal because they happen to be ‘great’ Ulama. It is not proper and not permissible for a Muslim male doctor to attend to female patients. He should divert them to female doctors. Only if there is a valid reason upheld by the Shariah may a male doctor attend to a female and vice versa. There are numerous non-Muslim female
doctors who can handle Muslim female patients. A Muslim doctor is not supposed to work in a hospital where he has to incumbently interact with females. Thus, their actions are not Islamic proofs for permissibility.
Your husband should himself make a sincere attempt to work elsewhere where he will not be in the company of women. He is bound to fall into the pit of zina. Shaitaan and the Nafs are deceiving him.


Q. Is it permissible to donate human milk?
A. Human breast milk is haraam. Breast milk is only halaal for under two year old infants. Donating or selling human milk or any part of the human body is haraam.

Q. Will a woman be a faasiq if she does not wear niqaab?
A. A woman who does not wear Niqaab in public is worse than a faasiqah. She is a faajirah (immoral).

Q. Will the wife be disobedient if she refuses to submit to her husband’s demand for oral sex?
A. The one who makes such a filthy satanic demand is worse than a pig. Oral or shaitaan sex is haraam. The wife should not submit to the swine-filth of the husband. She will not be disobedient. She is under Shar’i obligation to refuse the haraam instructions and haraam lusts of her husband. How can a human being who is termed Ashraful Makhluqaat (The Noblest of Creation) descend into such depths of swine-inequity?

Q. Is marriage to a Salafi girl valid?
A. Marriage with a Salafi girl is valid just as marriage with a Muslim prostitute is valid. However, such a marriage will be full of misery, hence inadvisable. There will be no compatibility and the marriage is likely
to break down and end in divorce. The Deeni differences and conflicts between Salafis and the Muqallideen of the Math-habs constitute an unbridgeable chasm.

Q. Does the period of breastfeeding differ for boys and girls?
A. The period of breastfeeding is two years for both boys and girls.


Q. My mother is extremely sick and complains a lot. What advice can I give her?
A. Be of service to her to the best of your ability. Tell her that it comes in the Hadith that sickness is a purifier. It cleanses us from all our sins provided that we do not complain. Complaining will not cure the sickness. On the contrary the sickness will become worse. Sickness is also a ni’mat (favour) of Allah Ta’ala. He purifies us here on earth with sicknesses and other difficulties so that we can enter Jannat fully purified. Advise your mother to keep her tongue constantly engaged in Thikrullaah. Maut can come at any moment. Therefore, the tongue should always be engaged in some Thikr to ensure departure from this dunya with
the Kalimah on the tongue.


Q. Is imitation jewellery permissible?
A. Imitation jewellery is permissible for women except rings. Rings must be of either gold or silver.

Q. Is it proper for a man to marry a second wife only for the sake of his lust?
A. Allah Ta’ala permits a man to marry four women. As far as ‘lust’ is concerned, everyone marries to satisfy his/her lust. The primary motive for marrying even one wife is to gratify lust. Initially people marry only to satisfy lust even if only one wife is taken. Allah Ta’ala has created lust in people, hence He is aware that men require more than one wife to satisfy their lust lawfully. Never voice yourself against any Law of Allah Ta’ala. Recite Istighfaar and make Taubah.


Q. Why is it not permissible for women to attend walimahs. During the time of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam), they would go to walimahs.
A. Just as it is not permissible for women to attend the Musjid even if there are separate entrances, so too is it forbidden for women to attend ‘walimahs’ nowadays. Furthermore, the ‘walimahs’ nowadays are farcical and bid’ah. In fact, it is not permissible for even men to attend the reception organized by the girl’s parents on the day of the Nikah. Such a reception is not the walimah. Women used to attend the Musjid for Salaat during the age of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam). However, this was unanimously banned later by the Sahaabah.
The same applies to walimahs and to all other merrymaking functions.

Q. How many holes may a lady pierce in her ears?
A. A lady may pierce her ears only with one hole in each ear. More than one is the style of the kuffaar.

Q. My husband has cheated on me. He has struck up adulterous relationships. My heart is broken. I don’t know what to do. My health is suffering. I want to run away. Please give me some advice.
A. Countless women are undergoing the same heart-breaking problems. When men lack Taqwa, they conduct themselves like atheists. They really do not believe that Allah Ta’ala is seeing them and that the Recording
Angels are writing their misdeeds. However, do understand well that your broken heart is a wonderful treasure by Allah Ta’ala. Allah Ta’ala, in His Own Words, said to Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam):
“I am with every broken heart.” Your grief will not be in vain. You will receive immense rewards for patiently bearing the grief. Focus more on Allah Ta’ala. Do not ruin your health on account of the shenanigans of your husband. Maintain your health and use it to gain nearness to Allah Ta’ala. Increase ibaadat. Life on earth is short. It is full of trials. May Allah Ta’ala grant you strength and steadfastness on the Deen. May Allah Ta’ala guide your husband and protect you.

Q. A man has two wives. The one wife lives with him while the other wife lives in her own house about 100 kilometres away. This wife demands equal nights. What is the Shariah’s rule?
A. In the scenario mentioned by you, if the wife who lives 100 kilometres away desires equal nights, then she has to reside in a house procured for her by her husband in the town where he lives. She cannot demand equal nights living in her own house 100 km from her husband.

Q. I do not allow my children to visit their grandparents – my parents and my wife’s parents.
They have televisions, and in general they do not observe the rules of the Shariah such as purdah, mushtabah / haraam food, etc. They are accusing me of breaking family ties. Am I breaking family ties?
A. In fact, it is not permissible to send your children to relatives who are not strict on the Deen. Refraining from sending the children does not mean that you are severing family ties. It is the Waajib obligation of parents to ensure that the Akhlaaq of their children are not compromised by relatives. Nowadays, the safest is to stay at home, and not to visit even relatives. We are trapped in an era of fitnah and fasaad. A home where the Deen is observed is a holy sanctuary visited by the Malaaikah of Rahmat. On the other hand, houses such as the homes of your parents are haunts for the shayaateen. These people lack the haziest idea of the meaning of family ties and what constitutes disruption of breaking of family ties. Furthermore, it is haraam to uphold
‘family ties’ when in conflict with the Shariah.

Q. Is there a special thikr or amal for anxiety and depression? When my evil past comes to mind, I develop anxiety and go into depression.
A. When anxiety develops, do not brood on the past. Do not entertain the thought which is the cause for the anxiety. Instead, lapse into Thikrullah. Perform two raka’ts Nafl and engage in Thikrullah. Shaitaan tries to derail a person by causing anxiety in this manner. A Mu’min equipped with the weapon of Thikr does not suffer depression. Anxiety is an assault of shaitaan, and its antidote is Thikrullah. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Shaitaan sits glued on the heart of man. When he (man) makes thikr, shaitaan
flees. When he (man) is oblivious (ghaafil), shaitaan casts his waswasah.”

Q. I have found out that my husband is conducting relationships with women via his cell phone. He refuses to give me the password. What should I do?
A. 99% of the men of this age, including molvis and sheikhs, are involved in cellphone zina and pornography. There is nothing you will be able to do in these circumstances. Men and women are drowning in deluges of moral filth – zina and porno – of the cellphone. Little children are also addicted to this device of shaitaan. The
entire Ummah across the board, is buffeted madly in this whirlpool of cellphone filth. People no longer have Imaan. They have become atheists. They are in entirety bereft of any concept of Allah’s Omnipresence. They
have become munaafiqs. Whilst they blabber with their mouths about the Recording Angels, they sin flagrantly in front of these Malaaikah and with Allah Ta’ala looking at them. But since they do not really believe in the Presence of Allah Ta’ala and His Malaaikah, they sin recklessly. You can only constantly offer good advice to your husband and adopt Sabr. If you are unable to bear his evil abuse with patience then your marriage will end. Thus, your choice is between Sabr and Talaaq.
Q. The separation between a husband and wife was in terms of Khula’. Is it correct that the Iddat of this woman is 30 days?
A. The Iddat of a woman whether separated by Talaaq or Khula is the same. It is three haidh periods if not pregnant. If pregnant, it ends with the delivery of the child.

A SECULAR COURT’S DIVORCE DECREE IS NOT TALAAQ

A BROTHER FROM ENGLAND WRITES:
“Your response to my question on civil divorce and talaaq has generated much discussion and debate. However, some scholars still insist that the fatwa of the local Mufti is correct (that is, a court’s decree of divorce is a valid Talaaq according to the Shariah). They proffer the following arguments:

  1. As the husband is asking the court to issue him a divorce, his intention is inconsequential.
  2. Although the defenders of the fatwa cannot escape the reality that a non-Muslim judge has no wilaayat over a Muslim, for the purpose of fatwa, they argue, the judge has to be divested of his position and duties as a judge, and be treated as an ordinary person who is being appointed a wakeel by the petitioner. And since the wikaalat of a non-Muslim is acceptable, the divorce issued by him is also valid. A further piece of sophisticated incoherence they employ is to argue that a wakeel does not have to know that he has been appointed as wakeel while he may be acting as one.
    There seems to be much confusion among the scholars who agree that a civil divorce results in talaaq. In
    the US, the position adopted is that a talaaq raj’i comes into effect, whereas in the UK the ruling is for a talaaq baa-in.
    Reliance on this ruling is causing considerable heartache to Muslims in the UK. Women are walking away from their marriages using the fatwa as justification. Innocent men are accused of ‘living in sin’ simply
    because they have ended their legal marriage registration. I would appreciate further comments and advice on the matter. (The initial question was discussed in The Majlis, Vol.19 No.2)
    COMMENT:
    It is truly surprising that Ulama fail to grasp the simple reality of a secular court’s divorce decree not being a Shar’i Talaaq. The arguments they are proffering are like an attempt to squeeze blood from a stone.
    (1) The argument that “in divorce matters the spoken word or written word takes precedence over any interpretation the speaker or writer may attach to his words” has absolutely no relevance to the issue
    of a husband seeking annulment of the legal registration of his marriage. The argument
    presented here pertains to Talaaq, while the court application pertains to an entirely different matter. It does not relate to Talaaq. It pertains to cancellation of a secular registration by a secular court. Thus the
    argument is fallacious because what is being said applies to Talaaq while the application to court does not remotely relate to Talaaq.
    (2) The argument of Wikaalat (Agency) in this context is obnoxious and downright stupid. Neither does the husband appoint the judge to be his Wakeel nor does the judge accept that he is a Wakeel of the husband nor does he issue verdicts in the capacity of a wakeel of anyone,.
    (3) The judge cannot be treated as an ordinary person who has been appointed a wakeel.
    To imagine that the judge sitting in his court as a judicial official executing his judicial obligation is not a judge but an ordinary man who has been appointed the wakeel by a man who denies having appointed
    him the wakeel, is to defy reason, logic, brains and reality. If this type of corrupt and utterly baseless imagination could be regarded as valid for the extrapolation of Ahkaam (Shar’i laws), then one may employ such corrupt, stupid and baatil imagination to imagine that a prostitute is one’s wife and the
    relationship with her is lawful. There is no scope in the Shariah for the formulation of laws on the basis of imagination.
    (4) The petitioner denies appointing the judge as his wakeel. Reality totally precludes the operation of Wikaalat in the judicial procedure. And, if by some bizarre assumption it should be stupidly accepted that the judge is a wakeel, then too, the husband denies appointing him as his wakeel, and he denies the assignment of Talaaq to the judge who is imagined to be the wakeel. There must necessarily be some semblance of reality before one could ever entertain the idea of Wikaalat.
    (5) While the wikaalat of a non -Muslim is valid, the issue here is that a non-Muslim has not been appointed the wakeel. No one has been appointed the husband’s wakeel for issuing Talaaq on his behalf. Should we momentarily descend into the dregs of stupidity and assume that the judge is the husband’s wakeel, then too, it is binding on the wakeel to execute only the task which has been assigned to him by his Muakkil (principal). If a man appoints a wakeel to purchase for him a horse, the wakeel may not buy a donkey. If he
    does buy a donkey, it will be for himself, not for the muakkil. Now, if we should stupidly accept that the judge is the wakeel, then he has to act according to the instructions of the husband who has ordered
    him to cancel the secular registration of his marriage. If the wakeel who has not been appointed to administer Talaaq, issues talaaq to the man’s wife, such talaaq will not be valid. If a man appoints another person to strike his wife a few shots with a whip, and he (the wakeel) instead of giving her a beating issues Talaaq, such talaaq will not be valid for the simple reason that he did not act in accordance with the terms of his wikaalat.
    (6) The averment that a wakeel’s act will be valid even if he is unaware of his appointment as the wakeel, has no relevance here. The contention applies to an instance of ‘appointment’. But, in the matter under discussion there is no appointment. The husband flatly denies any appointment of a wakeel. This argument
    germane to our context is ludicrous. It is absurd.
    (7) The confusion among the scholars on this simple issue is the product of unprincipled reasoning. The matter is simple and conspicuous. There is no ambiguity. But because they have not applied their minds,
    they stumble in incongruities. The scenario is as simple as follows:
    A. The husband wants, for example, that after his death his estate should devolve to his heirs according to the Shariah. In a secular state he has to leave an Islamic Will to ensure conformity with the Shariah. However, in certain secular marital property regimes, an Islamic will is not valid. Or he requires cancellation of the secular registration for some other reason.
    B. To achieve this objective, he instructs an attorney to apply to the secular court for the cancellation of the
    registration. For accomplishing this, there is a secular legal procedure to follow. The attorney adopts this legal procedure, and makes the application to the court.
    C. The judge in his own right as the judge of the court decides and issues an order to cancel the registration.
    Now regardless of what the secular process is for achieving this objective, it is never Talaaq. The husband has not uttered Talaaq to his wife nor has he appointed the attorney or the judge to administer Talaaq
    to his wife. He only requires cancellation of the haraam registration.
    (8) Women who regard the kaafir court’s verdict as a Talaaq should understand that their Nikah remains valid. They cannot get Islamically married to any other man. Any subsequent mock ‘nikah’ with
    another man will be an adulterous relationship. It is therefore, imperative for the Muftis at your end to exercise caution and fear. They will be plunging people into the cauldron of zina with their highly erroneous fatwa.
    Furthermore, we do not understand how “women are walking away from their marriages, using the fatwa as justification”. Although the fatwa is highly erroneous and has no validity in the Shariah, as preposterous as it is, it nevertheless, has been issued for a case where the husband makes the application for cancellation of the registration. The fatwa does not bring within its scope a court’s decree of divorce applied for by a woman. If the wife makes the application, we are sure that the Muftis at your end, despite their inability to have comprehended the judge’s role and the husband’s petition, do not extend their
    idea to a case where the woman applies for ‘divorce’ regardless of whether the husband defends or does not defend the application. Thus, the issue of ‘women walking away from their marriages’ is incomprehensible to us.