Happily Ever After – Ebook

Marriage is a journey that is meant to last a lifetime. While the journey is generally smooth and enjoyable, there are the occasional gravel patches, pot holes and speed bumps that cause a bumpy ride.

To safely navigate this road, the correct guidance and directions are required. It is hoped that this 205 page book, entitled “Happily Ever After – A Muslimah’s Guide to a Blissful Marriage”, comprising of four chapters (the A – Z of marriage, articles, stories and Q&A), will serve as a basic GPS to protect the marriage from danger and steer it into Jannah safely, where the couple will live ‘happily ever after’.


A Response by The Millennial Muslimah
As a public figure who has genuine concern for my followers, it is my MORAL OBLIGATION to speak out against this scandalous abomination that has left our community shocked and disgusted. I didn’t feel the need to say anything previously as many had commented however, The sheer hypocrisy and blatant lies shared by her daughter who resorted to defamatory slander of our illustrious scholars on a public platform has convinced me that this is indeed necessary.
Let me begin by refreshing the memories and recalling what transpired in February 2020 when we exposed this vile woman for teaching courses which she was not trained to do by plagiarizing content from various energy healing modalities which are rooted in Kufr and Shirk!
She lures people with FALSE ADVERTISING by claiming her courses are in alignment with Islamic Aqeedah and that they have been checked and approved by respected Islamic scholars. She uses her role and title as an Islamic teacher to convince people of her adherence to and respect for Islamic principles and to lull them into a false sense of security, leading them to trust that the knowledge they gain from her is in adherence with Islam. This was PROVEN to be untrue repeatedly over the course of many years.
These modalities included “THE JOURNEY”
Having been trained in many of these modalities during my days of ignorance, I was able to recognize and identify exactly where these modalities were incorporated into her courses and how they were camouflaged. I drew parallel with my own course notes from these modalities. This information was sent to Ulema together with her modules which we received from ex students together with their testimony against her.
The claim of her daughter that ulema “don’t want to read her content” is a blatant lie in fact, just last month we sent out some copies of manuals as we received a query from ULEMA , we included notes adivising on the various pagan therapies. So the insinuation that ulema are just saying this because they are vindictive and petty and have nothing better to do with their lives so they unanimously decided to gang up on this one random person because she empowers women, is so ludacris its laughable!
Any conscientious Muslim who finds themself in opposition with numerous ulema bodies would be forced to pause and introspect, to really evaluate their behavior and life choices. Not respond with arrogance and get others to do their bidding by attacking anyone who speaks out. The daughter claims she doesn’t use her names on the books she publishes as Ulema have told her not to, but her name is on all her adverts and social media, she even has a website which is her name…
These ulema have publicly called on her to STOP her harmful courses which she blatantly refuses to do! Why the selective compliance? Could it be the hundreds of thousands of Rands that are at stake?
“Oh, but people benefit”
Even HELLO DARLINGS took scores of people on world class holidays, that doesn’t change the fact that it is A SCAM that fleeced people of MILLIONS!.
Unlike the daughter, this is not some naive little girl who is misguided, this is a qualified and highly experienced Apa who should know better. She has even set up her own online Islamic university and claims to be an “islamic professor” yet she has been called out time and time again to stop her practice as it is causing harm in the community.
Dozens of people came forward last time, women who had ruined their marriages by following her advice people who became suicidal , living in regret of ever getting involved and being robbed of their lifesavings. Women who sent in screenshots of people describing, in detail, their intimate relations with their husbands, this was shared on a watsapp group, for dozens others to see!
Men who admitted enjoying the attention of their wives at first but then spoke of a total personality change leading to their wives requiring professional help. Men desperately trying to save their wives from this coven for the sake of their kids.
Girls who were encouraged to question their faith and religion and were taken to interfaith gatherings! Reports of girls who lost their modesty and left the fold of Islam after attending her courses.
We assisted individuals with counseling, many requiring RUQYA to recover from their ordeals.
This woman charges thousands of Rands to do a course on JIHAD UN NAFS, using imam Ghazalis name in her advert. Now she advertises a raunchy course on seduction in an EXPLICITLY WORDED advert that is devoid on an iota of hayaa! A course that, in her own words, is all about sensual pleasure!
How does such obvious hypocrisy fly over the heads of her adoring fans?!
Almost as if they are mesmerized under a spell…
According to her daughter, it’s “just an advert, so it must be exciting “
NO ! That’s not OK! Actions have consequences that can’t just be explained away!
AS an apa does she not know the hadith of Nabi saw is very clear that hayaa (modesty) is a branch of faith. And if you have to lose your hayaa to hold on to your man, girl, your priorities are upside down! If this is what she as an apa is teaching students, and as a mother is teaching her daughter, we should all shudder in horror at the level of depravity we are witnessing!
You can NEVER rescue halal by indulging in Haraam
In an age where porn addiction is claiming families enmasse this behavior only fuels such momentum.
The advert is deliberately worded and Designed to entice while making women who don’t have what she claims to offer feel like they are missing out!
A “tutorial on how different movements affect sensations” an “almost step by step tutorial” to chase after physical pleasure? With her daughter in attendance? Nowhere in her advert does she claim its an “educational course for women with intimacy issues!” (As one student claimed) Even if it were, and 100% legit and halal (which clearly isn’t the case)
let alone charge money for doing so!
This “apa” has taken something that Allah ta ala has ordered to be concealed and portrayed it as a cheap, smutty circus show! 🎪 talk about red flags this is the whole carnival!
Having someone tap into your psyche to tweak it against your fitra, turning you into a dominatrix! Naoozubillah! I am convinced that these are nothing short of training camps for the army of Dajjal! We seek Allah’s Divine Protection!
There is NO “EMPOWERMENT” here!
This woman who took great offense to an article I wrote entitled “the dark side of life coaching” sending hateful comments in her groups about it, now feels that people speaking out against her immoral, dishonest, criminal behavior is unjustified! Oh, the irony!
The cultish onslaught by her droves of flying monkeys on individuals who reacted with shock and disgust at her public advert is inexcusable! Harassing people and resorting to cyber bullying to defend the head of their coven. Women who forked out tens of thousands of Rands, scrambling to save face and hold on to a shred of credibility! Makes you wonder at they type of training they have received since they clearly cannot keep a hold of their own emotions.
They did the same last time as well, painting her as a victim who was simply “misunderstood”. While behind my back they attempted to smear my name with slander and when that didn’t work they tried to silence me by threatening legal action!
She even had the nerve to send me a hate filled email bashing a very personal post where I explained how I found out that the modalities I had studied were rooted in paganism! the email was written in the third person and was clearly for the benefit of pacifying her minions, so I didn’t dignify it with a response. I will happily share this email should anyone choose to deny its existence and we can all marvel at the malicious vitriol that festers beneath the facade. May Allah protect us all.
We have been hearing about this “simple misunderstanding” with ulema for years
As we said then, we repeat now, I will gladly avail myself and my legal team, fly to jhb at my own expense if need be, to clarify on behalf of the concerned public any issues between this Apa and Ulema pending receipt of the following proof of her own claims which we have been waiting on for YEARS!

  1. The name of the Ulema who she claimed checked and approved her course material.
  2. Proof that she is qualified to teach the modalities she teaches.
  3. Proof that she is qualified to train people in the modalities she offers training.
    For those who choose to DEFEND her please provide these PROOFS BEFORE you attempt such. Without proof of the claims she herself made in her own words, she is nothing but a liar and a con artist who preys on the vulnerable and continues to scam people out if their hard earned cash. This is the opposite of empowerment! I will not entertain private messages in her defense as I’ve been down this road before and have no interest in talking to the “middle people” (She knows exactly where to find me)
    Anyone who was harmed or threatened, or requires legal assistance or counseling with regards to this particular individual, please contact me PRIVATELY we will attempt to assist in sha Allah
    You will be kept anonymous

Qalamul Haq

Fatema Loonat is a no Ego practioner and runs an abundance course, this she gained from new age philosophy of Brian brains and Deepak Chopra who didn’t believe in a formally religion.
She takes their philosophy which leads mankind to themselves and recognizing their own power (which stems from new age garbage of Man himself being God) she tries to cover it up with Islamic terms, this of course has disastrous consequences for one’s Imaan, this is why it has lead to immodesty and feminism.
We stated that we will provide evidence for her courses being gleaned from Kufr ideologies. So here we present some of it for you to look at.
We leave it to the reader to use Aql (intelligence and common sense) to decide if this is coincidence or if the Appa and the Kufaar who designed such courses provide the same teachings-teachings which are based in Kufr and steeped in Imaani danger.

the majlis


Worse than the worst kuffaar prostitutes, and worse than the worst lesbians is a so-called ‘aapa’ who has initiated the vilest, most disgusting school of prostitution for such prostitutes who masquerade as ‘muslims’. Her objective is to teach more effective arts of prostitution. The sexual filth she promotes is the worse form of immoral satanism unheard of even in kuffaar circles of prostitution, lesbianism and the like.

This vile she-devil is the type of woman mentioned in the Hadith, who will be hung up by her breasts naked in Jahannum. There is no worse agent of Iblees in the sphere of immorality than this miserable Rubbish Prostitute who masquerades as a Muslim. It is imperative for the Azaadville Ulama and the Azaadville community to drive this vile witch and abominable wretch of filth out of their town.

A Muslim woman who participates in the filthy shaitani programs of this Rubbish Prostitute/Lesbian loses her Imaan. This type of she-devil and those who join her rubbish class of immoral filth are fuel for Jahannam (Wuqoodun Naar). They were born for Jahannam. Not even Iblees is capable of the type of sexual filth which this Rubbish Prostitute is promoting.

May the La’nat of Allah Azza Wa Jal destroy this vile she-devil who is without the slightest vestige of doubt the worst and the vilest and the most immoral woman on earth. History has never witnessed such a vile creature whose brains and hearts are vermiculated with immorality and obscenity of the worst kind.

18 Rabiul Awwal 1444 – 15 October 2022

Liberalism Destroys Love and the Sharia Promotes It

By Daniel Haqiqatjou -September 20, 2022

Liberalism destroys love. This is because loving relationships require duties and accountability.

The duty children have to obey parents and the duty parents have to provide for their children creates a strong bond of love.

The duty wives have to be faithful to their husbands and the duty husbands have to provide for their wives creates a strong bond of love.

The duty the community has to respect and follow a righteous amir and the duty the amir has to protect the community creates a strong bond of love.

The duty we have to worship Allah and the mercy Allah has in providing us everything that we have creates a strong bond of love.

This love that is generated in these relationships is natural. That is how our minds and hearts work. Feelings of dependence and reciprocal accountability that come from these hierarchical relationships naturally generates love.

But liberalism says that duties are oppressive, hierarchies are oppressive, and that we should always strive for freedom from all duties and equality of all.

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Children shouldn’t be “slaves” to their parents.

Wives shouldn’t be “slaves” to their husbands.

Community members shouldn’t be “slaves” to their amirs.

Humans shouldn’t be “slaves” to God.

All should be equal and independent.

This has the effect of destroying the very duties and accountability that are the basis for loving relationships.

This is why liberal societies are falling apart and depression is at epidemic levels. All these people feel alone and isolated. That is the result of the freedom which has sundered all the meaningful bonds that give life purpose.

Islam, on the other hand, strengthens these bonds by formalizing the hierarchical relationships and the duties required from all to one another. This is the Sharia and it is taught via the Islamic sciences: Fiqh, aqida, tazkiya, etc.

The Sharia promotes love.

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Female Muslim Scholars: Past vs. Present (Alimahs, Zalimahs, and Lazymas)

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
My wife is an ‘alimah.
For the major part of my life I had assumed that her humility, respect, patience, tolerance, love, piety, attachment to the Qur’an, the quality of her khidmah towards myself and my parents, her wonderful rearing of our children, the support she gave me and the great advice and guidance that she offered when it was needed was all a result of her studies in becoming an ‘alimah.
It was only much later on in life that I realised my monumental mistake and profound error.
You may have noticed how I mentioned nothing about my wife’s cooking. This is because, of her many great qualities, I associated her ability to cook good food and make a great cup of tea to the home she came from.
I had been living with a false perception:
I believed I was blessed and fortunate because I had married an ‘alimah.
But this isn’t the case. After 20 years of being married, I now realise that my fortune in having a good marriage is not because my wife is an ‘alimah. Certainly not.
I am fortunate, Alhamdulillah, because my wife came from a good home.
She came from a home where she learnt to have respect for her husband and to look after his family; where she learnt humility; how to carry out khidmah and how to run a home properly with no complaints and demands; to be grateful for everything she has; and to be capable of enduring the hard times which are inevitable within any marriage.
She hadn’t picked them up from madrasah. She went to madrasah with these qualities already present within her. Having gained these qualities from her home and with her tarbiyah having been carried out well, this meant that her studies served as an enrichment and amplification of her already good character, piety and personality.
Her love for Qur’an, her din, her salah, her good character—it was all acquired at home from her parents: from my mother in-law and my father in-law. And I have now come to realise that I am so greatly indebted to both of them for the excellent care and upbringing of their daughter; the mother of my children.
May Allah ﷻ reward them immensely and fill their graves with nur (light). Amin.
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Wondering How I Came to Such a Realisation?
The answer is simple:
I got my son married to a girl who I thought was an ‘alimah, but it turned out that she was actually a zalimah, and a lazyma.
Yes, I had seen many red flags with her family, but I stupidly thought:
She’s an ‘alimah so she’ll be different. She won’t take after her mother. She’ll maintain a good relationship with her in-laws. She’ll serve her husband, look after him well, respect him and be obedient towards him.
I thought that since she had studied Qur’an and Sunnah, her akhlaq would be in accordance to what she had learnt in the Madrasah.
Oh how how very foolish I had been to have assumed that, just because she’d studied to become an ‘alimah, she would have shed the upbringing that she’d received at home and the things that she’d been taught there!
That was my fault, and I admit that I am to blame for this much. And this is precisely the reason I am writing this; so that others do not make the same mistake, especially young ‘ulama’ who are graduating and are keen to marry, possibly thinking that an ‘alimah should be their greatest aspiration for marriage.
To them I will simply say: Don’t be fooled.
Forget focusing on finding an ‘alimah. Look instead for a simple girl from a good and religious home where they are regular in salah, where she has learnt and become accustomed to cooking and cleaning—a home where she remained sheltered from the outside world and where her tarbiyah had been carried out properly.
Such a home will engender within a woman modesty, humility, respect for her husband, as well as the qualities of khidmah and sabr (patience and endurance). This is what you really need; not someone whose ego is so inflated with pride that it has morphed her into an ‘alimah with horns, i.e, a “zalimah,” or someone so “busy with studies” and so averse to work that she has become a complete “lazyma.”
Don’t for a single moment assume that her studying to become an ‘alimah somehow guarantees that her tarbiyah and islah has been carried out effectively. And that’s even if the madrasa is well-known. Often the madrasah is not sufficient for the tarbiyah of the students. The tarbiyah of a woman is usually done within her home, and the greatest influence upon her will be her mother. So look carefully at the family. Examine their relationships with their in-laws and it’ll provide you with some insight as to what your future may be like with such a woman at your side.
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Do your homework. Don’t be naive. Don’t take anything as a given.
Be careful! Be careful! Be careful!
I would actually go even further and say that if she did study all those kutub (books), then make sure you be extra careful in assessing her character, personality and dini maslak (religious affiliations and leanings)—more than you would a normal girl who didn’t study all those kutub.
Because ‘ilm, particularly the very high level of ‘ilm that is taught within a darul ‘ulum, can be a trial for some people and possibly a double-edged sword. It can either imbue in someone humility and obedience towards Allah, or shaytan can deceive them and use it to breed arrogance and pride.
And because a woman by her very nature is prone to becoming crooked, if her tarbiyah has not been effectively carried out within her home, it is more likely that she will become arrogant, proud and argumentative. She will then distort and misapply her Islamic knowledge in order to appease her nafs and ego.
That is why countless senior ‘ulama’ today say that it is preferable for a girl to learn the Qur’an and the basic knowledge of din and to then remain at home, having their tarbiyah and islah done, rather than going out to the girls’ madaris. Even though my wife has studied, we both agree upon this point, and we have decided that we won’t be sending our daughters out to learn. Our daughters will learn at home, as is also the practice of many of our senior Muftis today with regard to their daughters.
Another reason for this outcome is that the girl who is becoming an ‘alimah is also overpampered at home and becomes spoilt. She is allowed by the parents to sleep and abdicate her duties within the home. The parents believe they are doing a service to din by making her life easy so she can study, whereas in reality they are actually setting her up to become a lazyma who will often, because of her lazy habits, be the primary cause for a failed or troublesome marriage. She goes on to expect the same lifestyle when she is married, always making excuses to abdicate her responsibilities within the home, feigning sickness and tiredness from all the dini work she is doing.
She will then accuse her husband of being “too demanding” or “too strict” when he expects only what any man would expect from a marriage and from an “‘alimah,” not realising that he married a zalimah or lazyma instead of a real ‘alimah who has her priorities straight.
So what exactly did they learn that made them this way?
Selective Huquq (rights) and entitlement is the most fitting answer.
This means they focus on learning only their own rights and what others, especially their husbands, “owe” them.
When a girl whose tarbiyah and islah has not been effectively done at home goes to madrasah, in spite of everything that is taught there, they seem to only be capable of focusing on learning how to do the bare minimum.
That is why their catchphrase and life slogan becomes:
‘Its not my duty to __________.’
‘Its not fard upon me to ___________.’
You can fill in the above blanks with numerous things that actually contribute towards a meaningful stable marriage and create unity and love within families such as:
Cooking for her husband;
Keeping the home clean and tidy;
Visiting in-laws;
Serving his parents like her own out of love for him;
Visiting grandparents;
Taking her grandchildren to visit their grandparents;
Devoting her time to her husband and children;
Expressing love;
Being thankful;
Being a close friend and confidant to her husband;
Taking and showing an interest in his interests;
Being appreciative;
Listening to him;
Being supportive; etc.
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They have selective forgetfulness when it comes these type of ahadith:
Once, during a khutba, Allah’s Messenger ﷺ addressed the women and instructed them to give sadaqah (optional charity) as he had seen how they made up the majority of the inhabitants of jahannam. When a woman stood up and asked why this was, the Prophet ﷺ replied:
لأنَّكُنَّ تُكْثِرْنَ الشَّكَاةَ، وَتَكْفُرْنَ العَشِيرَ
Because you complain a lot and are ungrateful towards your husbands.
(Bukhari 961, Muslim 885)
Under the explanation of this hadith, the muhaddithin (expert hadith scholars) have stated:
أي: تُنْكِرْنَ فضْلَ أزواجِكُنَّ، وتَجْحَدْنَ حُقوقَهم عليكُنَّ
‘I.e., you reject the authority of your husbands, and you dispute with them regarding their rights over you.’
The system of Allah is that He has made fard what is absolutely essential, i.e., the bare minimum without which the primary maqasid (objectives) of marriage would not be realised. This is the reason why a woman cannot refuse a man’s intent for relations and vice versa, since this (fulfilling the desires in a halal manner) is a primary maqsad (objective) of nikah.
But there is more to a marriage than only this. There are the sunan (prophetic actions and mannerisms), the mustahabbat (encouraged recommendations) and the adab (etiquettes). Of course when it comes to the zalimah, she doesn’t seem to recognise any of this unless it is of some direct benefit to her.
Yes, there are some things that a woman does not have to as a fard obligation, as the zalimahs perpetually remind us, but do they stop to think for a moment what this means? Does this mean that she has to live her married life only doing the bare minimum from what is her duty and nothing else?
This is akin to saying that in salah you don’t have to concentrate, since it’s not a fard of salah, or saying men only have to cover their satr (nakedness) from their navel to their knees when performing salah. This is the bare minimum for salah to be deemed salah but it doesn’t in any way imply that you should be performing salah in this manner all your life.
In the same way, marriage is not just about fulfilling the bare minimum duties (fara’id).
In salah and other ibadat (acts of worship), the greater the effort you make (in terms of the sunan, mustahabbat and adab), it will be borne of love for Allah and your desire to please Him. And it is also for your own protection, because those who skirt on the boundaries of fard and obligatory duty only are bound to lapse at times and prone to cross the limits into haram.
In the same way, a woman—even if she be labelled as a so called “‘alimah” despite only being concerned about doing the bare minimum fard obligations—will often become a zalimah, crossing the boundaries into neglecting her duties and committing haram.
More importantly, her behaviour will expose lack of love towards her husband and his family, which then will eventually be reciprocated. Whereas she could have easily lived a happy life full of love and contentment had she realised that there is more to marriage than just the bare minimum “duties.”
Non-‘alimahs find this easier to understand.
Marriage is not just about doing the bare minimum. It is about going above and beyond for your husband, your in-laws, and your kids. It is about doing more than just what you have to, out of love and appreciation. This creates a loving environment, fosters good relationships and leads to a happy life, in both the dunya and akhirah.
Zalimahs forget that the anger of the husband invites the anger of Allah. Yet when these matters come up, spurned by their stubbornness and argumentative nature, they make grand statements and claims such as:
“My Allah ﷻ is with me.”
No, dear zalimah, Allah is not with you when your husband is displeased with you.
What is extremely strange with regard to these zalimahs, is that despite of crying “duty, duty” when it comes to their husbands (being inclined to sleeping most of the time, neglecting and delaying their responsibilities within the home until it all piles up, etc.), they are often very regular in nafl (supererogatory) ibadat and nafl fasts. Here they do not consider only what their bare minimum duties are. The double standards they extract from whatever they learnt in madrasah are indeed shocking when the masa’il (rulings) are clear when it comes to a wife needing the permission of her husband to observe nafl fasts and to engage in nafl salah when he is present.
This itself is sufficient to convey the immense right that Allah ﷻ has given to the husband.
If only they would wake up and stop following the mindset and ways of the modern day feminist shayatin (devils) while donning the garb of supposed “‘alimahs.”
By this point, those of you who are loyal to feminism will be fuming with anger because this goes against your teachings of “tame the husband” and all the other anti-Islamic slogans that you peddle. This doesn’t bother me in the least. It is exactly the kind of behaviour, thinking and shaytani (satanic) philosophy that we expect from you. It destroys good marriages and results in the worldwide crisis of failed marriages and broken homes—something we see wherever feminism is pushed.
Those of you whose loyalty is to Islam, and to whom Allah ﷻ and His Rasul ﷺ are more beloved than anything else in the world, will be ready to accept the truth when it is presented before you, and you abandon any prior inclination that you may have had towards the shaytani feminist agenda.
I am writing this piece for this second group, in the hope that boys and their parents would wake up and not make the same mistake that I had made. But I am also hopeful that girls and their parents will learn from this so that this state of affairs can change.
And If you are reading this as a girl who herself studied kitabs or is currently studying, then take stock of yourself. Are you an ‘alimah, a zalimah or a lazyma?
Don’t take offense at these words. They are intended to make sober people and to bring them out of their foolishness, something for which strong medication is needed. If you are able to reflect and introspect and see if any of these undesirable qualities are present within you, then this realisation will serve to be the first step towards changing yourself.
Let the ‘ilm of din humble you and imbue within you the qualities of a good wife. Then you can live a rewarding and contented life in both this life and the next.
Take the example of Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) and how she did khidmah of her husband, the Prophet ﷺ. She was sent salam by Allah ﷻ and Jibra’il (peace be upon him) when she was bringing food to the Prophet ﷻ at the cave of Hira’—not the false concocted perception of an “independent businesswomen” which the feminists seek to portray her as. She was not out and about like the businesswomen of today are.
Take the example of ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who was a model of modesty; and that of Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her); and the other Ummahat al-Mu’minin (mothers of the believers) who embodied the qualities of simplicity, humility, khidmah for their husband ﷺ, generosity in giving charity, remaining concealed within their homes, and occupying themselves in their free time with household chores and ibadat.
Take the example of Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) who developed callouses on her hands because from doing chores.
Don’t take the example of the modern feminists—especially the Muslim ones who shaytan is using to spread immodesty and shamelessness in the ummah.
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Then you will be a true ‘alimah.
But if you are a zalimah or a lazyma and you’re not willing to change your ways and your ideology, then you will have none but yourself to blame for the life of misery that will follow.
May Allah ﷻ grant us all hidayah (guidance) and the tawfiq (ability) to be humble and to accept and follow good, sincere advice. Amin.

Unfit Imams Attack Muslim Marriage – Their New Strategy

By Daniel Haqiqatjou -August 28, 2022

Unfit and incompetent Imams are spreading a new type of deviance. They are encouraging Muslim women to force men to sign contracts before marriage vowing not to marry additional wives and to grant divorce upon the woman’s request.
No Muslim man should agree to such stipulations. The fact that she would propose such things is a red flag indicating that this is a person who doesn’t care to follow the rulings of Islam.
The fact is, marriage in Islam does not grant equal power and authority to husband and wife (nor does it require equal responsibility).
But feminists want to nullify this Allah-ordained imbalance in power by creating these kinds of pre-nikah stipulations in the marriage contract.
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This is because they are not satisfied with the ruling of Allah and they desire to change this sacred institution of marriage in the image of feminism.
These imams will defend themselves by saying, “But this type of stipulation is allowed in some schools of fiqh.” Ok, if such stipulations can be made, then maybe Muslim women should also sign binding contracts pre-nikah that they will forego secularized court systems if there is any problems in the marriage. And they will accept the minimum mahr. And they will not fight for custody of children in case of divorce. And… and…
Would any of these feminists agree to that?
The problem is, even if she does agree, no secular court will uphold such a contract. This is because the secular court systems severely disadvantage men as far as family law, divorce, and custody are concerned. This is the oppressive reality, and many Muslim women take advantage of this while disregarding the Sharia and basic Islamic ethics.
Unfit imams are so ignorant about this oppressive reality that they want to go even further and make sure to destroy even the last-remaining vestiges of privileges that Islamic marriage gives to men. They think that they know better than Allah and His Messenger ﷺ.
These are the kinds of things that are destroying marriage for the Muslim community today. Let’s not forget the role of Unfit Imams.
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A Wife’s Rebellion Against Her Husband

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Please note that the below text is an excerpt from the book “The Seventy Major Sins” by Imam Dhahabi (RA). I wish the readers look at the broader picture without opening doors to shaitan and negative thoughts. Know that Allah SWT is the Most Merciful and the Most Just. 

Allah, Most High says,

{As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them first. Next refuse to share their beds and lastly beat them (lightly). If they return to obedience, seek not means against them (of annoyance); for Allah is Most High, great (above you all).} (An-Nisa’: 34)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

When a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come, if he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

Another version from Al-Bukhari and Muslim is,

“When a woman does not spend the night in her husband’s bed, and refuses him then He who is in heaven (i.e. Allah) remains displeased with her, till her husband has reconciled with her.” (Muslim)

Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) related,

“There are three people whose prayers will not be accepted by Allah, nor do any good deed of theirs risen up to heaven: a fleeing slave until he returns to his master and helps him, a woman whose husband is angry with her until he is pleased with her, and a drunkard until he becomes conscious.” (Ibn Hibban)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“The first things a woman is called to account for on the Day of Judgment are her prayers and her (relations with her) husband.” (As-Suyuti in Al-Jami Al-Kabir)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“It is not lawful for a woman to fast (voluntarily) when her husband is present, except by his permission nor permit anyone into his house except with his permission.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Had it been permissible that a person prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife prostrate herself before her husband.” (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah and Ahmad)

Hussain Ibn Muhsan’s aunt mentioned her husband to the Prophet (pbuh) who said,

“Evaluate yourself concerning your husband for he is you Paradise or Hell-Fire.” (Ahmad and Al-Hakim)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Allah will not look at a woman who is ungrateful to her husband, while she is unable to do without him.” (Al-Hakim)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Whoever leaves her husband’s house (without his permission), the angels curse her until she returns or repents.” (Al-Mundhiri in At-Targhib wa At-Tarhib)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter paradise.” (Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Al-Hakim)

Thus, it is obligatory for a woman to respond to her husband anytime and anywhere unless she has a legal excuse, menstruation or the like.

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“When a man sends for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be occupied in baking bread (cooking food).” (Tirmidhi)

It is unlawful to approach a woman during the time of her menstruation as stated by Allah:

{Keep away from women in their curses, and do not approach them until they are clean} (Al-Baqarah: 222)

The Prophet said,

“Whoever has intercourse with a woman during her period has disbelieved in what has been revealed upon Muhammad.” (Reported before)

“He who has intercourse with a woman during her period or sodomizes her is accursed.” (Reported before)

This also applies to post natal bleeding.

A woman should keep in mind that there are some rights towards her husband she should observe. She should not spend of his money, or do anything without permission. She also should not revile or disgust him.

Al-Asma’i recounted, once I was passing by a desert and as met a very beautiful woman who had an ugly husband. I asked her, how did you accept him a husband? She said, give me your ear! He might have kept a good relation with Allah and thus He made me a reward to him. On the other hand, I might have disobeyed Allah and thus he made him my punishment.

‘Aishah said, “O women, had you known your husbands’ rights, any woman among you would have wiped dust from her husband’s shoes on her face”

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Your heavenly wife is the kind who, when her husband hurts comes close to her husband, puts her hand in his and says, I’ll never sleep until you are pleased.” (Al-Haithami)

A woman should also be: loyal before her husband, lower her gaze before him, keep silent when he speaks, stand when he comes, or leaves, offer herself when he sleeps, perfume herself, brush her teeth (with Siwak), be adorned in his accompany, leave aside what annoys him in his presence like slandering or in absence like treachery in bed, property or home, honor his family and kinsmen, and be content of what he brings however little.

A woman who fears Allah should do her best to obey Allah and her husband and seek his pleasures because he himself is her paradise or hell fire. The Prophet said,

“If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter paradise.”

“If a woman performs the five (prayers), fasts the month (of Ramadan) and obeys her husband, she will enter paradise from any gate she wants.” (Ahmad)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Birds in the sky, whales in the water, angels in the heaven, the sun and the moon will all ask Allah to forgive women who obey their husbands so long as they are pleased with them. If a woman disobeys her husband she entails the curse of Allah, the angels and all people. If a woman makes her husband frown, Allah’s wrath is upon her until she makes him laugh and pleased. If a woman leaves her husband’s house without his permission, the angels curse her until she returns or repents.”

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“There are four women in Paradise and they are: a chaste and an obedient one to Allah and her husband, patient, content, coy, and reproductive who guards her husband’s property and herself in his absence and holds her tongue in his presence. A widow who devotes her life for her children and does not marry lest they fail. As for the four women of Hell -fire.” “The woman who has a shrew tongue and is vulgar towards her husband, who does not guard herself in his absence and injures him with her tongue in his presences. The one who charges her husband burdens greater than he can bear. The one who shows herself to men and goes out doors displaying her beauty. The one who does not concern herself except with food, drink and sleep. Further she is not eager to pray or to obey Allah and her husband, such a woman who in addition to that, leaves her husband’s home without his permission is accursed by the people of fire until she repents to Allah.” (Bukhari)

He also said,

“Having had a look at the fire, I found that most of its people are women. This is because, they do not always obey Allah, his Messenger and their husband’s and display their beauty to other than their husbands.” (Reported before)

“A woman is Awrah. Whenever she goes outdoors, Satan receives her.” (Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban and Abu Dawud)

The closer a woman is to Allah, the longer she stays in her home.

The Prophet said,

“A woman is privacy. Thus, hold her at home. Because, if she is about to go out door, and her kinsmen ask where are you going? She says, ‘I’ll visit a patient, or I’ll attend a funeral. Satan keeps on tempting her until she leaves the house. Thus, if a woman seeks Allah’s pleasure, it is better to her to stay home, worship Allah and obey her husband.” (Ibn Hajar Al-Haith ami in Majma’ Al-Zawa’id)

Ali said to his wife, Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with them both), “O Fatimah, what is the best thing for a woman? She answered, “not to see men or be seem by them”. Ali also said, “Do you not grow jealous! When you let your wives walk among men and see each other!”

Once’ Aishah and Hafsa were sitting with the Prophet (pbuh) when Umm Maktum who was blind came there.

“The Prophet (pbuh) said, “Cover yourselves from him.” They replied, “We submit, O Messenger of Allah! Is he not blind and cannot see to recognize us. On this the Prophet (pbuh) said, But you are not blind and can see him.” (Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi and Ahmad)

Thus, both men and women should not look at each other except because of necessity. Once there was a woman who used to display her beauty when she went outdoors. After her death, her kinsmen saw her in a dream standing before Allah dressed in transparent clothes. Then the wind blew and exposed her.

Accordingly, Allah rejected her and said take her leftward to the Hell-Fire since she was displaying her beauty to the world.

Ali Ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) said,

“1 came to the Prophet accompanied with Fatimah but We noticed him weeping vehemently. I said, “I sacrifice you with my father and mother, Messenger of Allah. Why do you weep?” He said, “O Ali, in the night Journey (Isra) when I was taken up to the sky, I saw some women of my nation suffering some types of torture. Therefore, I wept because of their sever tortures. I saw a woman who was hanging from her hair and her brain was boiling. Another Woman was hanging from her tongue and a boiling fluid was being poured into her mouth. Another woman whose legs were tied to her breasts and her hands to her forehead and another who was hanging from her breasts. Another whose head was like a pig’s and body like a donkey and suffered million types of torture, and another woman who had the shape of a dog while the fire pierced her month until it left her body from the anus and the angels were also Scourging her with lashes of fire. Upon hearing that, Fatimah asked. O darling and the pleasure of my eyes, what were they doing to Suffer such torture? Then the Prophet said; daughter, as for the woman who was hanged from hair, she would not cover her hair from men. The woman who was hanged from her tongue used to bring harm to her husband; the one who was hanged from her breasts cumulated her husband’s bed. The woman whose legs were tied to her breasts and hands to forehead and suffering from serpents and scorpions would not clean her body from major impurity or menstruation, and neglected prayer. The woman whose head was like a pig’s and had a donkey’s body was a talebearer and lair. As for the last one, she used to remind recipients of her charity to them and was envious. O daughter, woe to her who disobeys her husband.”

Muadh Ibn Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) related that the Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Whenever a woman causes annoyance and torture to her husband in this world, his mate from among the hour is of Paradise says to her: may Allah ruin thee, do not cause your husband annoyance, for, he is only your guest, and will soon leave thee to join us in Paradise.” (Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban, Ahmad and Ad-Dailami)

Similarly, a husband is commanded to treat his wife kindly and tenderly. He should also be patient if she mistreats him. Food, clothes and kind treatment are also binding for a man to give to his wife. Allah the Almighty says,

{But consort with them in kindness} (An-Nisa’: 19)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“Listen! Treat women kindly, they are like prisoners in you hands. Beyond this do not use anything from them. If they are guilty of flagrant misbehaviors, you can remove them from your beds and beat them but do not inflict upon them any severe punishment. Then, if they obey you, you do not have recourse to anything else against them. Listen! You have your rights upon your wives and they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they shall not allow anyone you dislike to trample your bed and do not permit them to enter your home.” (Tirmdhi and Ibn Hibban)

The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“The best of you is whoever treats his wife kindly.” (At- Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban and Ibn Majah)

The Prophet (pbuh) used to treat women very tenderly. He (pbuh) said,

“Whoever remains patient with regards to the misbehavior of his wife, Allah will give him a reward as great as Ayub’s for his affliction. Likewise, if a woman keeps patient with regards to the misbehavior of her husband, Allah will give her a reward as great as ‘Aishah’s Bint Muzahim, (the Pharaoh’s wife).” (Al-Hakim in Al-Mustadrak)

Once, there was a man who came to ‘Umar to complain about the misbehavior of his wife. While he was waiting for ‘Umar by the door, he heard ‘Umar’s wife speaking to him indecently but ‘Umar was keeping silent. Thereupon, the man went back and said, “If this is the case of ‘Umar who was decisive and he was also the Commander of the Believers what about me?” Then ‘Umar went out and noticed him leaving. He called him and said, “What do you want?” The man said, “O Commander of the Believers, I came to complain about my wife’s misconduct and her indecency towards me but when I heard your wife I went back and said what about me?” ‘Umar then said, “O brother, I endured her misbehavior for some rights upon me to her: she cooked my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes and suckles my babies. She is not required to do such work. Furthermore, my heart is repelled from the unlawful because of her. Thereby, I endured her. “So is my wife, Commander of the Believers” the man said


How the Womenfolk of the Sahabah Would Address Their Husbands

By Muslim Skeptic Team -July 21, 2022

This is a guest post from Ustadh Ebn Hussein.

How did the best generation of Muslims, and those who followed them in goodness, address their husbands?

In al-Durr al-Mukhtar fi Sharh Tanwir al-Absar (a treatise of the Hanafi legal school) by Imam `Ala’ al-Din al-Haskafi (may Allah have mercy upon him), we read:

وَيُكْرَهُ أَنْ تَدْعُوَ الْمَرْأَةُ زَوْجَهَا بِاسْمِهِ

“It is reprehensible (makruh) for a woman to address her husband by his name.”

We read in renowned the commentary of this book, Radd al-Muhtar ala ‘l-Dur al-Mukhtar by Imam Ibn `Abidin (may Allah have mercy upon him):

لَابُدَّ مِنْ لَفْظٍ يُفِيدُ التَّعْظِيمَ كَـ: يَا سَيِّدِي وَنَحْوِهِ

“It is necessary [for the wife] to use forms of address which convey reverence such as ‘my master’ (sayyidi) and similar to that…”

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He then proceeds to cite supportive evidence (with weakness in its chain):

وعَنْ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ عَطَاءٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ: قَالَتِ امْرَأَةُ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْمُسَيَّبِ:مَا كُنَّا نُكَلِّمُ أَزْوَاجَنَا إِلَّا كَمَا تُكَلِّمُوا أُمَرَاءَكُمْ: أَصْلَحَكَ اللهُ، عَافَاكَ اللهُ

“The wife of Sa`id ibn al-Musayyib said: ‘We (i.e. the womenfolk of the Sahabah) used to address our husbands as we addressed our rulers: may Allah rectify your affairs, may Allah give you good health.’”

However, it is undoubtedly established in sahih (authentic) reports that Umm al-Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with her) used to say the following words whenever she narrated a hadith from her husband Abu ‘l-Darda’ (may Allah be pleased with him):

“My master (sayyidi) narrated to me…”

Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah be pleased with him) says in his commentary (sharh) on the Sahih of Imam Muslim:

قال النووي في شرح مسلم قوله: (حدثتني أم الدرداء، قالت: حدثني سيدي) تعني زوجها أبا الدرداء، ففيه جواز تسمية المرأة زوجها بسيدها

“Umm al-Darda’ narrated to me; she said: ‘my master narrated to me…’

Here she is referring to her husband Abu ‘l-Darda’ and from this, it can be deduced that it is permissible for a wife to address her husband as sayyidi (my master).”

This custom is not alien to the Qur’an either:

وَأَلْفَيَا سَيِّدَهَا لَدَا ٱلْبَابِ

{They encountered her master (i.e. husband) by the door. (Qur’an, 12:25)

And here is the icing on the cake regarding the sublime position of the patriarch (husband) in Islam:

حَدَّثَنَا أَزْهَرُ بْنُ مَرْوَانَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ الشَّيْبَانِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي أَوْفَى، قَالَ لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذٌ مِنَ الشَّامِ سَجَدَ لِلنَّبِيِّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ ‏”‏ مَا هَذَا يَا مُعَاذُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَتَيْتُ الشَّامَ فَوَافَقْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ وَبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ فَوَدِدْتُ فِي نَفْسِي أَنْ نَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ بِكَ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏”‏ فَلاَ تَفْعَلُوا فَإِنِّي لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِغَيْرِ اللَّهِ لأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ لاَ تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا وَلَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ

`Abdullah ibn Abi Awfa said: “When Mu`adh ibn Jabal came from Sham, he prostrated to the Prophet (ﷺ) who said: ‘What is this, O Mu`adh?’ He said: ‘I went to Sham and saw them prostrating to their bishops and patricians and I wanted to do that for you.’ The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman can fulfill her duty towards Allah until she fulfills her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.’” (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Check yourself before you wreck yourself!

Of course, it is not outright forbidden (haram) for a wife to call her husband by his name because there is no evidence to indicate such. This is the view of many scholars of Islam. People’s customs and traditions should be taken into account regarding this matter. However, this is beside the point of this brief piece whose purpose is to raise the question:

Do you, as a Muslim, feel uncomfortable reading about how it was common for Muslim women to address their husbands with titles such as ‘my master’? If so, know that the problem lies with you and not with the Salaf’s understanding of authentic Islam, which philosophical liberalism, feminism, and other anti-Islamic isms seek to eradicate and replace with a castrated version of Islam.

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يُرِيدُونَ لِيُطْفِـُٔوا۟ نُورَ ٱللَّهِ بِأَفْوَٰهِهِمْ وَٱللَّهُ مُتِمُّ نُورِهِۦ وَلَوْ كَرِهَ ٱلْكَـٰفِرُونَ

{They want to extinguish the light of Allāh with their mouths, but Allāh will perfect His light, although the disbelievers dislike it. (Qur’an, 61:8)}

There is no doubt that authentic Islam (which is to be found in the tradition of the righteous Salaf and with the Imams who faithfully and accurately conveyed their teachings throughout the centuries⁠—not in the mental diarrhea of ​​some post-modern heretic) poses a nightmare and danger to every ‘modernist’ (deformist); especially psycho-feminazis and other such degenerates.

The quoted statements of the scholars and the Sahabah could serve as a kind of Ruqyah for these people. A sincere and just authority could put them in a room and get them to listen to and read so-called ‘misogynistic’ excerpts from the Qur’an, the Sunnah, and the sayings of the Salaf until the cows come home.

What is certain is that authentic Islam will always trigger the enemies of Islam. It will inevitably make them screech, whether they are open enemies of the Din or (even worse) wolves in sheep’s clothing (i.e., hypocrites).

But rest assured, the “reformation” (distortion) of Islam will never succeed. Not as long as millions upon millions of the ideological heirs of the Sahabah⁠—the Ahl al-Sunnah⁠—roam the earth.

لا تَزالُ طائفةٌ من أمَّتي يقاتِلونَ على الحقِّ ظاهِرينَ علَى من ناوَأَهُم حتَّى يُقاتلَ آخرُهُمُ المسيحَ الدَّجَّالَ

Imran ibn Husayn (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “There will always be a group from my Ummah that will fight on the truth, triumphant against those who oppose them, and the last of them will fight the Dajjal.” (Sunan Abi Dawud)

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And why will it not be so? Imaam Ghazaali (Rahmatullah alayh) said that when a man becomes emotionally involved with a woman then 80% of his brain cells become inoperative.

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) expressed surprise for the ability of Naaqisaatul Aql (women of deficient intelligence) of overwhelming the brains of males who are supposed to have kaamil aql (perfect intelligence relative to the female’s deficient intelligence).

A father of a girl who attend the Madrasah of a Mufti, complains:

“Assaamualaikmum hope Mufti Saaheb is well, I am writing this message to you because it seems that communities only take practical steps to solve issues when the issue becomes exposed to the public.

Mufti Reverend Kalb Gupta is the principal of a Madrasah. Senior members of the community have now become aware that the Madrasah has been registered under his and his wife’s name as a business and they have been collecting funds duping the public into believing that its an NGO.

He has performed Janaza upon the absent on few occasions as well despite being a Hanafi

Worse than this, is that he has been caught numerous times trying to lure women into becoming his second wife. He was dismissed from another Madrasah due to this very reason. This has been verified and the asaatidha of the Madrasah may be contacted for further verification.

After being dismissed he opened up his own Madrasah and eventually made a girl’s Madrasah that is attached to and part of the boys Madrasah.

Last year he had received a hiding from the parents of a girl that he proposed to from the Madrasah due to directly engaging the girl. He promised to step down as principal, but when the issue died down he carried on as if nothing happened. Currently again he was caught luring/seducing a female student. The parent wrote out a complaint, yet again all he promises is that the girls section will now only be dealt with by females. He says that the issue has been resolved amicably when probed. But this is a lie.

I will also send the complaint of the parent in the next email, Insha-Allah. Could mufti Saaheb please speak about this so that he may be stopped from running at least the girls Madrasah. JazakAllah”

(End of letter)

Both the mufti and the parents are blameworthy for this evil, immoral and haram episodes which occur at all similar institutions. Where there is contact between girls and male ustaadhs, there is almost 100% certitude for zina shenangigans. There is also haraam contact between male ustaadhs and the Apas. It is an inflammable, highly combustible, shaitaani scenario.

It is haraam to have Madrasahs where girls have to interact with male ustaadhs. These ustaadhs at such institutions dwell in self-deception or deliberately imposed self-deception that they will be safe from zina shenanigans. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has warned: “Women are the snares of shaitaan.”

In the light of the Qur’aan and Hadith how is it ever possible for male ustaadhs to repose confidence on the nafs and to dwell in the deception of remaining pure in mind, heart and limb when they are daily in contact with females? The cases of sexual misdeamenour occurring in these types of institutions are numerous.

One Ustaadh quite honestly said that he becomes emotionally (i.e. sexually) stirred even looking at the dainty shoes/slippers of the girls outside the classroom. That is why the Fuqaha have decreed that it is not permissible to even look at the garments of a specific female nor should a man drink from a glass if he is aware that a woman had used the glass. Everything has an athr (effect).

Most of the shaitaaniyat is swept under the carpet and the rot is perpetuated. The sweeping under the carpet and the total abstention from solving the evil in terms of the Shariah are the effects of fear for society: What will the people say if the filth of the molvis is exposed? They do not fear Allah Ta’ala. In this regard, the Qur’aan Majeed says:

“They conceal from the people while they do not conceal from Allah while He is with them when they plan their talks (shenanigans) during the night time.”

The molvis operating these girls madrasahs as well as the community are all culpable and blameworthy for the rotten shenanigans being enacted in institutions where the Qur’aan Majeed is being taught. While in the first instance, girls madrasahs are an aberration and should never be established, the situation is aggravated manifold by the presence of male ustaadhs on the same premises.

Then, there is further aggravation of the immoral state of the madrasahs when the rascal principal and the rascal male teachers sit in meetings with the Apas. All of them collectively become scoundrels. They plaster their immoral villainy with a veneer of ‘deen’. They delude the moron parents with deeni appearances. The stupid parents labour under the impression that since the Qur’aan Majeed is being taught and since there is ‘purdah’ being observed, everything is fine, above board and pious. But all of this outward display of Deen and piety does not deter the bestiality of the perpetrators. Allah Ta’ala is furthest from their minds when the nafs asserts its bestial demands for sexual gratification. They become like atheists, totally oblivious of the Ever Presence of Allah Azza Wa Jal and of the Recording Malaaikah standing at their sides.

Males must be incumbently banned from setting foot in a venue where there are females. The principal must be a female. Male ustaadhs must never be allowed to interact with the Apas under Ta’leemi guise. Such interaction is satanic and bestial shenanigans. The niqaabs which the Apas don are red herrings to detract attention from the reality of their haraam interaction with the male teachers. It is the Waajib obligation of the community whose daughters are attending a madrasah to ensure that male ustaadhs do not venture near to the madrasah.

16 Zul Hijjah 1443 – 16 July 2022

Patience: Islamic Guidance for Enduring Clashing Personalities

Everyone is different. It’s natural for us to mesh with some people better than with others.

When two people who are very different are thrown together in the same space, it sometimes can be draining and hard to tolerate. For both of them. Personality differences in interpersonal relationships can seem almost impossible to deal with.

Whether with friends, siblings, parents, or children – differences in personality types will inevitably arise and will often lead to fights, resentment and tension.

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When ‘Umar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb became the Khalīfah of the Muslim ummah after the death of Abū Bakr al-Ṣiddīq, this is what he said in his first official address to the public; his first khuṭbah as Khalīfah:

“اللهم إنى شديد فَلَيِّنْى، وإنى ضعيف فقونى، وإنى بخيل فَسَخِنِى»، وتابع بعدها: «إن الله ابتلاكم بى، وابتلانى بكم…”

“O Allāh! I am stern so make me softer; and I am weak so strengthen me; and I am miserly so make me generous.”

He started off by making this du‘ā’ – listing some things he perceived as his personality traits. May Allāh be well pleased with him.

Then he continued:

“O people! Certainly Allāh has tested you with me, and tested me with you…”

The khuṭbah continues, but this opening section deserves deep thought:

“Allāh has tested you with me, and me with you…”

We are all a test for one another. The people around us are a test for us and we are a test for them. They are tested by having to deal with us, and we are tested by having to deal with them.

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Allāh says in the Qur’ān:

وَجَعَلْنَا بَعْضَكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ فِتْنَةً أَتَصْبِرُونَ ۗ وَكَانَ رَبُّكَ بَصِيرًا

“And We have made some of you [people] as trial for others – will you have patience? And ever is your Lord, Seeing.” (Sūrat al-Furqān, 20)

In the tafsīr of Ibn Kathīr, we find under the explanation of this āyah:

وفي صحيح مسلم عن عياض بن حمار ، عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ” يقول الله : إني مبتليك ، ومبتل بك ” .

 It has been narrated in Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim from ‘Iyāḍ ibn Ḥimār, that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Allāh has said: ‘I am testing you, and testing others through you.’”

This idea of two-way testing – of people simultaneously being a test for you while you are also test for them – is something truly profound.

In the tafsir of Al-Qurṭubī, we read under the explanation of this same āyah:

قوله تعالى : وجعلنا بعضكم لبعض فتنة أتصبرون أي إن الدنيا دار بلاء وامتحان ، فأراد سبحانه أن يجعل بعض العبيد فتنة لبعض على العموم في جميع الناس مؤمن وكافر ، فالصحيح فتنة للمريض ، والغني فتنة للفقير ، والفقير الصابر فتنة للغني . ومعنى هذا أن كل واحد مختبر بصاحبه ، فالغني ممتحن بالفقير ، عليه أن يواسيه ولا يسخر منه . والفقير ممتحن بالغني ، عليه ألا يحسده ولا يأخذ منه إلا ما أعطاه ، وأن يصبر كل واحد منهما على الحق ; كما قال الضحاك في معنى أتصبرون : أي على الحق . وأصحاب البلايا يقولون : لم لم نعاف ؟ والأعمى يقول : لم لم أجعل كالبصير ؟ وهكذا صاحب كل آفة

This part of the āyah is an indication that this dunyā is a place of tests and trials. Allāh has willed that He make some of His slaves a test for other slaves, in general as a population, as in the believer for the kāfir, and the kāfir for the believer. And the healthy person is a test for the sick, and the rich person is a test for the poor, and the patient poor one is a test for the rich.

And the meaning of this is that each person is tested with his companion: so the rich is tested with the poor – he has to console him and not scorn him. And the poor is tested with the rich; he has to not envy him (ḥasad) and not take from him more than he has given. And each of them must persevere upon the Ḥaqq.

Just as Al-Ḍaḥḥāk has said, regarding the meaning of “Will you be patient?”: i.e., upon the Ḥaqq.

So the people with diseases say, “Why weren’t we made healthy?” And the blind man says, “Why can’t I be like the seeing?” And thus is the case with everyone who has a problem.”

The point of this is, as Allāh tells us in the āyah:


“Will you have ṣabr?”

Will you have ṣabr and remain steadfast? Will you be patient? Will you persevere and endure the issues? Will you refuse to give up and throw in the towel? Will you cling on, even when things get hard? Will you stay upon the Ḥaqq, have faith in Allāh, and not complain about your situation or compare it to someone else’s?

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And in the end, we must give serious consideration to how this āyah finishes:

“And your Lord has always been All-Seeing.”

Allāh sees what you do to others, and what others do to you. Allāh sees what you have that others weren’t given. And what others have that you weren’t given. And how you handled that difference.

May Allāh put barakah in our interpersonal relationships and grant us ṣabr. Āmīn.

by umm Khalid for Muslim Skeptic