Should a woman change her name to her husband’s when she marries or keep her fathers/maiden name?

Question:

Should a woman change her name to her husband’s when she marries or keep her fathers/maiden name?

ANSWER:

ASSALAMU ALAIKUM

10 Safar 1431 (26-01-2010)

Respected Brother,

Your e-mail pertaining to the maiden name of a woman refers.

While there is no Shar’i incumbency for a woman to adopt the surname of her husband, it is not prohibited. There is also no Shar’i incumbency on a woman to go through a kaafir legal process and spend a large sum of money to have her adoptive (husband’s surname) changed.

In this era, more especially in non-Muslim countries where we live, a woman takes to her husband’s surname merely as a convenience in the same way as we make use of the Christian calendar. In fact, it is haraam to expunge the Islamic calendar. It is Waajib for Muslims to keep alive the Islamic calendar. Many important Shar’i masaa-il are linked to the Islamic calendar. Yet most Muslims even the anonymous author calling for the compulsory cancellation of the husband’s surname, do not use the Islamic dates.

Non-Arab Muslims all over the world from the very early epoch of Islam did not adopt the Arab custom of naming themselves , e.g. Abdullah Ibn Muhammad ibn so and so…, despite the fact that it was Rasulullah’s style and the style of the Sahaabah. There is no incumbency to adopt an Arab style which the Shariah does not impose on us.

If we are going to write only Islamic dates on cheques and other legal documents in the kuffaar country, it will create serious problems. Despite Islamic dates being Waajib, circumstances constrain us to adopt the Christian calendar. In a single city there may be 10 families, all having the same surname, e.g. Ahmad, since Ahmed was their father. In every Ahmed family there is a Maryam, Aisha, Faatimah, etc. Every Maryam thus is ‘Maryam Binti Ahmed’. We have therefore ten women with the name ‘Maryam Binti Ahmed’. Now when one of them dies, if it is announced only that Maryam Binti Ahmad has passed away, no one will know to whom the reference is made. Thus, circumstances constrain us to say: “The Maryam Binti Ahmed died who is the wife of Abdullah Qaasim. Instead of saying or writing on the notice board, ‘Maryam Binti Ahmed, the wife of Abdullah Qaasim, there is no Shar’i restriction to stating the same long sentence in an abbreviated form such as ‘Maryam Qaasim’. Everyone in the town/neighbourhood will know exactly who this particular Maryam who has died is.

Instead of each time when there is a need, to say “Aishah Binti Abdullah, the wife of Husain Patel”, the abbreviation, Aishah Patel is used. This merely conveys the information that Aishah is Husain Patel’s wife, and nothing more. If ‘Aishah’ Patel’ is haraam, then saying ‘Aishah is the wife of Husain Patel’ will likewise be haraam. But just as this is drivel, so too is the former drivel.

With regard to the wife adopting the husband’s surname, it was never ‘eagerness to copy the West’ which led to this. Copying the West on this issue is the furthest from the minds of Muslims, even modernist Muslims. Yes, dress-styles, eating from tables, with knives and forks, shaving the beard, kuffaar hair styles and many other practices which Muslims have adopted are undoubtedly in imitation of the kuffaar West, hence haraam.

It is a pity that the writer of the article has selected to remain anonymous. If he reveals himself then we could direct a number of questions to him to ascertain the degree of his adoption of western life styles. From the style of his writing and thinking it is almost certain that he is a Salafi. If so, then his permanent practice will be to strut around with a bare head in public. They don’t believe in Rasulullah’s headgear. Salafis have adopted the western haraam practice of shunning headgear. Another salient practice of almost all Salafis is to dress exactly like kuffaar with jeans, T-shirts and the like. While they turn a blind eye to such haraam, futile and destructive practices which they have copied from the West, they harp on non-issues which have been adopted for convenience without the intention of emulating the west.

It is not contended that Islam requires a woman to change her name at marriage. By the same token, Islam does not prohibit a woman from adopting her husband’s surname. The imagined prohibition is a figment of someone’s mind. While there may be “nothing in the Sunnah to indicate that a woman should take her husband’s name after she gets married”, there is also nothing in the Sunnah to indicate that we should ride or not ride in cars and planes, and use or not use phones and adopt and use or not the innumerable amenities and practices which have become part of life. Is there anything in the Sunnah to indicate that Muslims should not wear headgear and strut around in public with bear heads like the kuffaar?

The absence of an indication in the Sunnah is not a principle for prohibition. There are principles in Fiqah – in the Shariah – on which the ahkaam are formulated. Wildly fluctuating personal opinion has no share in formulating Shar’i rulings.

Adopting the husband’s surname was simply not a practice among the Arabs. This is not a basis for prohibition. The objector should produce a Shar’i daleel for prohibition.

When a woman adopts her husband’s surname, she is not concealing her lineage. She is not denying that a certain man is her father. The entire community is fully aware of her lineage. Her lineage is not lost by adopting her husband’s surname.

The Qur’aanic verse cited by the anonymous objector has no reference to a woman adopting her husband’s surname. It pertains to an adopted child. In this regard there is an imperative need to retain and publicize the adopted child’s surname to avoid confusion. If this is not done, the child could end up marrying his own sister or sister marrying her own brother. Since concealing the child’s lineage leads to confusion, deception and possible haraam, it is essential to declare the child’s lineage. But there is no such concealment and confusion in the case of a woman adopting her husband’s surname.

The adoption of the husband’s surname is not motivated by any idea of ‘honour’. It is simply an issue of convenience like the adoption of the Christian calendar, nor is it an expression of love as the objector reads into the issue.

While originally she is the daughter of so and so, we shall go further and say that she forever remains the daughter of so and so. But, at the same time she has become the wife of so and so. There is no prohibition in saying that she is the wife of so and so. This is the reality.

When her husband dies or she is divorced and marries another man, what Shar’i prohibition is there to prevent her from taking the new surname? This question of the objector is superfluous.

The rulings to which the objector refers, are not attached to her name as he alleges. The rulings are related to her physical being. Her name change brings no change to the rulings pertaining to inheritance, her mahram, etc. Everything remains exactly the same despite her assumption of her husband’s surname. It is palpably drivel to say that “taking her husband’s name overlooks all that”. It overlooks nothing at all.

The claim: “Besides, the husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife’s father.” , is erroneous. The husband has much which makes him better than her father with regard to her. After marriage, her greater obedience shifts from her parents to her husband. In relation to the wife, the husband has greater say and authority over her than her father. She is subservient to her husband to a far greater degree than to her father. Now when her entire being is subordinate to her husband, what wrong is there if her name too becomes subordinate to her husband? What Shar’i argument is there to prohibit the subordination of her name?

The fact that we shall be called by our father’s name in the Hereafter is no prohibition for adopting the husband’s surname. Some prohibited things in this world will become permissible in Jannat. And, some permissible things of the Hereafter are prohibited for us here in this world.

The argument of the objector is without merit. It is permissible for a woman to adopt her husband’s name. Such adoption is devoid of emulation of the West or any other haraam factor. And Allah knows best.

Was-salaam

A.S. Desai

For

Mujlisul Ulama of S.A..


O Allah, make us the ones who guide aright & are guided aright, who are neither misguided nor do they lead others astray. At peace with Your friends, at war with Your enemies. Loving with Your love those who You love. Despising with Your antagonism those of Your creatures who oppose You. O Allah, this is the supplication & it is up to You to grant it. This is the effort & the reliance is on You.

Muslim women resemble pearls and Americans are mere prostitutes.

American writer Joanna Francis says:
Muslim women resemble pearls and Americans are mere prostitutes.
 
The American writer and journalist Joanna Francis expressed admiration for Muslim women, reminding them of their strength, beauty, decency and happiness.

The author noted in an article entitled:
“If you are curious about having sex before marriage,”
Muslim women lead a normal life, as women have always lived since the beginning of life.

Joanna Francis criticized American women and life in the West.
“Everything comes from Hollywood but a collection of lies, a distortion of truth, smoke and mirrors.
They view sex as natural as an indestructible entertainment because they aim to destroy the moral fabric of societies by directing them to their audiovisual programs.

She called on Muslim writers not to follow foreigners in their way of thinking and to stay away from anything related to the West.
“They will try to entice you with the tapes and music that tickle your bodies, with us falsely portraying us as happy and satisfied and proud of our dress that is like a prostitute and convinced that we have no families.
In fact most women are not happy, believe me.
Millions of us take antidepressant drugs, we hate our actions and weep at night.

They want to destroy your families and try to persuade you to have a few children. They do this by portraying marriage as a form of slavery, that motherhood is a curse, and that decency and purity are obsolete.
They want but rejection and loss of faith.
They are like a snake who seduced Eve with an apple, so don’t bite off. ”

In the same vein, the American writer believes that the dress of Muslim women modest is more attractive than any Western costume, because, according to them, surrounded by ambiguity, respect and confidence, saying that the sex appeal of women should be protected from trivial eyes, and this attraction should be the gift of women to the man who He loves and respects her for the purpose of marriage, likening Muslim women to precious gems. “
In my eyes you are as precious gems, pure gold or “high value pearl”.

Joanna Francis warned Muslim women not to imitate the West, saying:
“I noticed that some Muslim women go beyond the borders and try to imitate the West as much as possible and even wear the hijab (showing some of their feelings).
Why should we imitate women who regret their lost virtue or will soon lose it?
There is no compensation for that loss. You are flawless diamonds. Do not allow them to cheat on you and turn you into worthless stones, because all you see in Western fashion magazines and Western television are lies.
It is the trap of Satan or Satan.
It is a false gold. ”
She added:
“But we American women have tricked us into making us believe that we will be happier with jobs, owning our own homes and living alone, and the freedom to give love to anyone we choose… this is not freedom, nor is it love. A woman’s body and heart feel safe by giving love only within the marital safe haven. Do not settle for anything less, and the matter is not worth it otherwise, and you will not like it, but will not be satisfied with yourself later.

The American writer concluded by saying:
“My sisters don’t be deceived, don’t let them deceive you, and keep women chaste and clean. We Christians need to see life as it should be for women. We need you to set an example for us because we got lost. If you stick to your purity, remember that toothpaste cannot be returned inside the tube.
Therefore, women should take care of this paste with care. ”

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RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND DO NOT GIVE RISE TO BARBARISM

THE RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND DO NOT GIVE RISE TO BARBARISM AND ANIMALISM

A Sister in distress on account of her husband’s inordinate sexual demands, writes:

“I’ve been having some problems with regard to the conjugal aspect of marriage. It’s been getting worse and so I decided to seek some advice. I have a low desire whereas my husband’s is much higher. The very first time was a very painful experience and I feel that it’s what messed things up. For days afterwards I suffered a bad urinary tract infection, and that has been a recurring occurrence till now, almost 6 years later. I get an infection almost every month or so. According to a doctor, some women are just more prone to these infections and there’s nothing I can do to completely prevent it.

Nevertheless, I went along with what my husband wanted – relations everyday, every second day. Most of the time I wasn’t in the mood for it but I didn’t object, even if it was more than once a day. This was until I gave birth to our first child. I needed to be stitched up afterwards and that took some time to heal.

Throughout the 40 days after baby was born my husband kept asking if my nifaas had ended. It only ended at 40 days and even then I still bled for another 2-3 weeks. As soon as the 40 days had ended my husband wanted to have relations. I was hesitant as I felt that my body had not yet fully healed from giving birth. But I gave in and it was extremely painful and I just had to bear it. For the next few months I did avoid him as much as possible. It took about a year for my body to stop experiencing pain where I had gotten stitches.

After the second baby, it was a similar experience except that he waited until I had completely stopped bleeding. Again it took a year to stop experiencing pain. It’s been almost 8 months now since the birth of our third baby and things are no different. I still experience a lot of pain during and afterwards for a couple of days. But I try my best to see to his needs once a week. I simply cannot manage more than that.

Sometimes we’re not at home which means that we sleep together with the children and in my understanding it’s not correct to have relations with even sleeping children around especially where they can easily see if they happen to wake up. But my husband doesn’t seem to understand that and says I’m just making excuses.

Yes, it is very difficult to put myself there knowing that I’m not going to get anything out of it except pain but I try, even though I’m never in the mood due to being exhausted after seeing to the house and kids all day without him helping me and fearing the pain. And he knows but doesn’t care about it as long as I meet his demands he is fine. If I refuse he flies into a terrible rage.
Even when I injured my hip joint giving birth to my second baby, my husband did not give me a break to heal. Through my 3rd pregnancy the hip was troubling and I felt awful, but all he kept talking about was his rights and that I am duti-bound to fulfil his rights. Does a wife not have any rights in these circumstances when she is sick, tired or in pain, etc.? I am in desperate need of advice and help? If Moulana can give some advice on what can I do, it will be much appreciated.” (End of the Sister’s letter)

This is not the first letter of its kind received by us. It is not the second nor the tenth letter. We have received innumerable similar letters seeking advice regarding the inordinate demands of the husbands for sexual gratification regardless of the ill-health of their wives. Husbands invariably justify their callous demands by brandishing the whip of Huqooq or Rights which the Shariah has granted them, and also by the emphasis on the wife’s subservience stated by Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in many Ahaadith.

While the Rights of the husband are in place and correct, and while the wife’s subservience to her husband is correct and necessary, callousness, cruelty and injustice are never within the scope of the husband’s Huqooq. The idea of having an unfettered right to even torture the wife is a satanic deception. Rights do not give rise to barbarism and animalism.

The husband’s attitude as depicted in the letter is crass barbarism befitting only donkeys and pigs. It is haraam for the husband to injure his wife on the pretext of him having such a right – the hallucinated right of excessive indulgence in sexual gratification regardless of the condition and health of his wife.

In the type of circumstances experienced by wives as explained in this letter, the solution is a second wife. The husband should take a second wife, and his first wife should support him since she is unable to satisfy his inordinate cravings.

Furthermore, husbands should understand that the consequences of excessive indulgence in sex are harmful. It brings about physical and spiritual ruin. In later life, husbands of the type described in the letter will suffer serious health problems, and long before the physical harms become manifest, they will become spiritually depleted. Moderation in all spheres of worldly life is an imperative command of the Shariah.

16 Safar 1443 – 24 September 2021

Bursting the Bubble​

As exhausted as she was, she put in the extra effort. “Never mind if I’m tired, I’ll do it for my hubby,” she thought to herself. She wore attractive clothing and jewellery, applied perfume, prepared his favourite meal and dessert and even lit candles, hoping to please her husband by making it a ‘special evening’. Sadly, as soon as he entered, let alone appreciate and admire, and let alone a simple smile and a hug – he didn’t even spare her a second glance! He walked in, glued to his phone, absolutely oblivious to the loving wife who had eagerly awaited him all day. At that moment, her bubble burst and her heart was broken…

After reading the above, most people would be quick to condemn the husband’s behaviour and classify him as insensitive, callous and uncaring. Now, consider the following:

“Mommy! You know what aapa told us today?” Faatimah excitedly exclaimed as she ran in from madrasah. “Not now Faatimah! I’m busy!” her mother snapped while frantically typing on her phone.

“Daddy! See what I made for you with my blocks!” Muhammad said, hopping with happiness. “Can’t you see that I’m on the phone?” his father scolded in irritation.

In all the cases above, a person turned to someone that they love, hoping and expecting to receive warmth, love, attention and acceptance, and were instead brushed off abruptly and painfully ignored. Just as a wife feels hurt when her husband treats her indifferently, children similarly feel hurt when their parents treat them in this way. If the husband is guilty, the parents are also guilty and deserving of condemnation.

In such a child’s eyes, his parents love their phones more than him as they cannot even put it down for a few minutes to give him attention and love. When the child sees that his parents have bonded with their phones more than with him, it is unsurprising that he develops a fascination with the phone and also wishes to acquire one to bond with. If it is not the phone occupying the parents, then regardless of what it is, it causes hurt and pain to the child – especially when it happens on a continuous basis.

As fathers and mothers, we need to understand that parenting is not an eight-to-five occupation where we can knock off for the day, thereafter ignoring all responsibilities of the work place until the next morning. As parents, we can never feel, “I gave my children enough attention today, now it’s my turn to relax and I do not want them to disturb me or bother me.” We are on duty 24/7, and whenever our children come to us, we must show them warmth, love and attention. Failing to do so creates a serious complex in the child, affecting their emotional wellbeing and causing them to develop a dangerous craving for attention.

When the wife is displeased with her husband for ignoring her, then due to her intelligence and age, she will be able to express herself with words or even tears. In the case of the child, he does not know how to communicate his need via words. Instead, when he desperately craves the attention and love of his parents, he looks for other ways to gain it – or he will seek the love from outsiders.

Children are simple souls and do not understand diplomacy and tact. If a child wants a toy from another child, he will often snatch it without thinking twice. Likewise, when the parents do not give the child the attention that he wants, he tries to ‘snatch’ it from them. This often manifests in the form of naughty behaviour such as breaking things, tantrums, etc., as the child knows no other way to draw his parents’ attention. 

How sad that the child has to resort to this behaviour simply to make his parents look at him!

Unfortunately, this plan backfires. The child is given attention – but in the form of scolding, punishment, etc., and this further entrenches the complex and craving within the child. The parents then lament and complain about the behaviour of their children, failing to realise that it is actually a shout for help from a child who is starving for love and knows no other way to express himself.

The next time our child comes to us, even if it may be to show us a flower they picked in the garden, or a ‘picture’ that they scribbled with crayons, or to tell us something silly that their friend told them, or to show us their toy, let us not burst their bubble and break their hearts. Let us take out a few moments to give them our undivided love and attention. 

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A MADRASAH APA’S LAMENT

A MADRASAH APA’S LAMENT
“I have seen in The Majlis your criticism of girls madrasahs. I have recently started at girls madressa and have experienced many ups and downs.
I hated the fact that there was no spirituality at my madressa, everyone spoke about birthdays. Proper Islamic dress code was not enforced, not even by the seniors. The male teachers would talk directly to the females even though from behind a screen. The conversation was not about work. During Ramadhaan there was no time allocated for ibaadat or so on. It really bothered me. I felt as though the little spirituality that I had worked so hard on was dying. Then I also had a friend who had disturbed my peace. As much as we were friends we were just not good for each other. We would engage in idle talk, despite both our efforts to be better Muslims. I then decided to rather leave madressa so that I could attend to my house and my husband and my family. I had hoped that I could continue learning at home, but it was very difficult. I left madressa for about 2 months and after not learning much I started to feel bad, so I decided to return to madressa. It’s been one week since I’m back. I love learning but I still don’t feel content with being at the madressa. It feels like it takes up too much of my time that could be spent doing other things for my home and ultimately for my Aakhirah. Please advise.” (End of the Apa’s lament)
OUR ADVICE

Just get out of the madrasah and stay at home where Allah Ta’ala wants you to be. Life is short. Maut stalks us at every moment. Don’t waste your time at these worldly, deceptive girls madrasahs. Shaitaan has carved out these institutions to divert Muslims from the Deen and to ruin the Haya of Muslim women. The only place for a Muslim woman is her home. You will gain the status of shahaadat by remaining at home occupied in your domestic duties.

FROM THE MAJLIS VOLUME 26 NUMBER 01

WOMEN AND DRIVING

Q. Will it be permissible for my wife to learn driving? In times of emergency her driving could save a life. She will drive only if ever an emergency develops. Is there any scope in the Shariah for her to learn to drive?


A. There is no such scope. The argument of ‘emergency’ is shaitaani deception. There are thousands of men and women where you live, who do not own cars and who cannot drive. There are billions of men and women on earth who cannot drive and who do not own vehicles. What will they do in times of emergency? And, what will happen during an emergency if the engine malfunctions and the car does not start? What will happen in an emergency if your wife is not present, and what will happen during the imaginary emergency if your wife is bedridden? There are numerous mishaps which could develop during the hallucinated emergency which could prevent your wife and even yourself from driving the vehicle. The problem is that due to Imaani deficiency and engrossment in the dunya, people are forgetful of Allah Ta’ala. They lack tawakkul (trust) in entirety , hence shaitaan adorns for them negative thinking and mirages. A Muslim should not be negative in his thinking and attitude. Daily make dua for aafiyat (protection). Be obedient to Allah Ta’ala, then Insha-Allah, there will be no such emergencies for which there will be no arrangement. Muslims should not be like the kuffaar whose brains gravitate to haraam and najaasat for fulfilment of needs. Just for acquiring a driving licence a woman has to subject herself to zina. How can a husband ever tolerate the pillaging of his wife’s haya and purdah? Only a dayyooth is bereft of ghairah (honour). Supplicate to Allah Ta’ala and stay far away from whatever the Shariah has forbidden. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Whatever is by Allah is obtainable only by way of obedience.”

FROM THE MAJLIS VOLUME 26 NUMBER ONE

FOR MORE ON THIS SUBJECT SEE THIS ALSO FROM THE MAJLIS: https://jaalhaque.com/2020/01/27/women-in-the-driving-seat/

COVID KUFR

COVID KUFR
Q. A person takes a Covid test. The test shows positive. Either they are symptomatic or asymptomatic. There are 4 questions that arise:
(A) They, in accordance with government guidelines, isolate for the stated period in the belief of indiscriminate contagion. What is the state of such a person’s Imaan and Nikah?
(B) Some argue, that Islam teaches us to take reasonable precautions and this constitutes a reasonable precaution. This in reality is a disingenuous argument to cover for their belief in contagion contrary to the explicit teaching of Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam. What is the state of such a person’s Imaan and Nikah?
(C) Persons in above 2 categories then tell others that they should test themselves and isolate if need be. In other words they are pushing their ideology on to others. How should a Muslim deal with such requests which are constant? (D) There are many “Muslims” who hold such beliefs. Does this mean a whole swathe of them exit the fold of Islam? I would appreciate if you would kindly address each question specifically.


A. 1) If the isolation is self-imposed, not forced by the zaalim government , and if this person has been informed that disease is not contagious, then his belief based on what the atheists inform him, is kufr. He should renew his Imaan as well as his Nikah.
2) While Islam advises laymen such as us to adopt reasonable, lawful precautions, it NEVER advises adoption of kufr. Kufr is not a precaution. It is satanism. If these protocols of the atheists are valid precautions, Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and the Sahaabah would have adopted same on the command of Allah Ta’ala. However, the Qur’aan and Sunnah emphatically negate these acts of shaitaan being precautions. Please read the numerous articles and booklets we have published on this subject. All are available on our website.
3) Their ideology and advice to others are kufr with the same consequences mentioned in No.1 above.
4) Most certainly it “means that a whole swathe of them exit the fold of Islam.” And, this is not surprising because Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) had predicted this type of kufr which cancels Imaan. Hadhrat Abdullah Bin Amr (Radhiyallahu anhu) narrated the following Hadith:
“An age will dawn when the people will gather in their Musaajid and perform Salaat whilst not a single one will be a Mu’min.”

THE MAJLIS VOLUME 26 NUMBER O01

LAME EXCUSES OF WIVES WILL NOT BE ACCEPTABLE

In a lengthy Hadith Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) described a scene in the Divine Court on the Day of Qiyaamah. A woman who will be ushered into the Divine Presence, will be asked about her neglect of Salaat (and also about her other violations of the Shariah). This woman will say in her defence that her obligations to her husband and children, and her household duties did no permit her the time to regularly perform Salaat. She will also present the excuse of her husband’s foul temper which had instilled fear in her. She was therefore constrained to be at his beck and call, hence she was unable to fulfil her Deeni obligations. Allah Ta’ala will then command that Hadhrat Aasiyyah (rahmatullah alayha) be ushered into His Presence. It will then be said to the woman. “Was your husband a greater oppressor and worse than her husband, Fir’oun?” The woman will reply: “O Allah! No one was a greater oppressor and more evil than Fir’oun.” It will then be said to this woman: “Despite Aasiyyah having been the wife of such a cruel and evil tyrant, she was never neglectful of her ibaadat nor forgetful for a moment of Allah’s remembrance. If the oppression of any husband could have prevented any wife from Salaat and her Deeni obligations, then most certainly, Aasiyyah would have been prevented. O woman! The excuse of your husband is baseless. You, of your own accord was neglectful of the Deen. You did not fear My punishment, hence you disobeyed My commands, and rebelled against the teachings of My Rasool. Today you shall taste of My chastisement.” Allah, Rabbul Aalameen will then command the Angels to cast her into Jahannum. May Allah Ta’ala save us from such disaster. Wives should understand that the first allegiance of every Muslim is to Allah Ta’ala, not to the husband. Furthermore, in almost all cases, the excuse of the husband is a smokescreen presented to deceive others and to perpetrate self-deception. Obedience to the husband in any act which results in disobedience to Allah Ta’ala is haraam. While the wife is required to fulfil her obligations to her husband, it is strictly prohibited for her to present the excuse of her husband’s orders and wishes to justify her commission of haraam. In fact, if her husband intransigently requires her to disobey Allah Ta’ala, she should opt for separation, leave the marital home and take refuge in the home of her parents. On the Day of Qiyaamah, the lame excuses tendered in selfdefence and in justification of sins will not avail.

AWAKE: RAMADHAAN / SEPTEMBER 1429 / 2008

“WOMEN-LED WEDDINGS”

THE KUFR OF “WOMEN-LED WEDDINGS”

QUESTION

What is the Shariah’s view regarding “women’s-led weddings”? Is it permissible for a woman to officiate at a Muslim Nikah ceremony? She also recites the Nikah khutbah and conducts the ceremony in the same way as an Imaam does? Please comment in detail on this new development.

ANSWER AND COMMENT

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“Never ever will prosper the affair of people who entrust their affair to a woman.”

“Relegate them (women) to the background as Allah has relegated them into the background.”

When it is haraam for a woman to recite audibly even the Qiraa’t during Salaat even in privacy, by what stretch on intelligent logic and Shar’i comprehension will it ever be permissible for her to recite audibly a nikah khutbah and have it broadcast for all the kuffaar, fussaaq and fujjaar of the world to hear? When it is haraam for her to recite even the Talbiyah audibly, how can it ever be halaal for her to recite a khutbah audibly for an audience consisting of a variety of devils?

The issue of a stupid woman stupidly ‘officiating’ at a Nikah ceremony is not of technical or academic concern. It is related to the practical domain of the Shariah – to the Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and the Salafus Saaliheen. It is an issue which has to be viewed in the light of the Sunnah practice of the Ummah – the Practice inherited from the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu anhum) who were the first and the chief proponents and exponents of the Sunnah. And, obedience to the Sunnah is Waajib by the Command of Allah Azza Wa Jal repeatedly mentioned in the Qur’aan Majeed: “Obey (and follow) Allah and His Rasool.” This is the recurring theme which permeates the entire Qur’aan Majeed.

Any practice which is in conflict or in negation with the standard Sunnah is a satanic act stemming from the emporium of Kufr operated by the zanaadqah and the munaafiqeen who masquerade as Muslims. While these munaafiq modernists set themselves up as exponents of the Shariah, and proponents of the Deen, they are bankrupt in every equipage necessary for the validity of even Imaan.

Every Muslim with even the intelligence of a chicken can readily comprehend that a Nikah conducted by a woman is in diametric conflict with the Sunnah and as such stands condemned and haraam in the Eyes of the Shariah. There is absolutely no scope for this kufr accretion in Islam. Never was there such a kufr practice in Islam from its very inception. Did the greatest female Aalimah, Hadhrat Aishah (Radhiyallahu anha) ever encroach on this issue which belongs exclusively to the male domain?

This new, stupid, kuffaar-emulated practice has no relationship with Islam. It is a haraam innovation. This type of ‘wedding’ is not permissible. A couple who has suffered the satanic calamity and misfortune of having been duped into this shaitaani bid’ah should have a proper Shar’i Nikah performed.

Only women who are lesbians or confirmed prostitutes can possess the shaitaani temerity of ‘officiating’ a nikah ceremony. This office is designed divinely exclusively for males. A nikah at which a lesbian-type woman officiates is Mal-oon (Accursed).

QUESTION

Also comment on a ‘recent trend’ of women preferring to represent themselves at their wedding ceremonies instead of being represented by their Walis (Male Representatives, e.g. father, brother, etc.). Is this trend permissible?

ANSWER

This is another haraam trend. Firstly, even technically and in terms of Islamic Legality, such a marriage is not valid according to THREE of the four official Math-habs of the Sunnah, viz., Maaliki, Shaafi and Hambali. Although in terms of the Hanafi Math-hab, there is slight leeway for legal validity, it is HARAAM for a woman to bypass her male Wali and arrange for her own nikah. Thus, there is Ijma’ (Consensus) of all Math-habs, and of even deviate groups such as the Salafis, that such a nikah is HARAAM.

Again, only women whose modesty has been rent apart, who in all probability are no longer virgin due to fornication, who will have such satanic brazenness to arrange for their own marriages – to represent themselves in 100% denial of the Law of the Wali ordained by Allah Azza Wa Jal.

These lewd women are just like the Carrion Cartel such as SANHA and MJC who maintain that their certified carrion chickens and carrion meat are ‘halaal’ despite their entire killing system, packing system and mock supervisory system being haraam from A to Z. Despite the entire system being 100% In conflict with the Shariah and emphatically Haraam, these vile carrion purveyors dupe the public into the capital LIE that their meat and chicken products are ‘halaal’. In like manner are these immoral women and their Munaafiq male handlers who goad them on to perpetrate haraam and ruin their morality, their Imaan and their Aakhirat. Despite their shaitaani perpetrations being brazenly and flagrantly HARAAM, they seek legal mirages to cloak their haraam acts with a vestige of permissibility.

QUESTION

A modernist says that although Islam requires spouses to marry with a contract, this is neglected in the Muslim community. Is this claim Islamically valid?

ANSWER

The claim is a satanic invalidity. The chap who ventured this stupidity is undoubtedly a zindeeq, a munaafiq and a murtad. Islam does not require what the zindeeq moron alleges. While a contract is permissible, it is not a requisite of the Nikah nor is it a Sunnah practice. It is an isolated act which never was encouraged by the Sunnah.

The claimant is most probably a supporter of the lesbian women’s lib. movement, hence he has made this preposterous claim. The Islamic practice of more than fourteen centuries rejects this stupid notion of the lesbians and the zindeeq male handlers of these immodest women who are in entirety lacking in haya (shame and modesty) about which Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Haya is a branch of Imaan.”

These lesbian-orientated semi-women are so shameless that they advertise their zina relationship on the internet for all and sundry to see and know. They are not Muslims. They are such kuffaar who are worse than even Iblees himself, and their male handlers are even worse.

CONCLUSION

Epistasis and infusoria of this filthy, kufr type will be on the increase. Lewdness and immorality are integral to the introductory stage of Qiyaamah. According to the Hadith such satanically immoral specimens of humanity will still be literally transfigured into apes and pigs. The first stage of this process is the transformation of the hearts and brains. The hearts and brains of these immoral epistasis specimens of the human race have already been figuratively transformed into the brains and hearts of pigs and apes. The literal or physical transformation and disfigurement are yet to occur on the doorstep of Qiyaamah.

17 Zul-Qa’dh 1442 – 28 June 2021

A MAULANA AND A LADY

QUESTION
I am the uncle of a lady involved or was involved in a love saga with a Maulana. The Maulana is a well known pious figure in the community, and he is my close friend. The lady is about 30 years old and the Maulana about 50 years. Both are married and have children. The husband of the lady is a close friend of the Maulana. He always seeks advice from the Maulana. He has implicit trust and confidence in his friend, the Maulana. Whenever the Maulana comes to the town where the lady lives with her husband, he (the husband) is the host at whose home the Maulana stays for the duration of his visit. Every morning the husband leaves to attend to his business. Sometimes the Maulana is alone at home with only the lady present, the children also having left for school. In this scenario, a relationship developed between the Maulana and the lady (my niece). They developed a strong mutual love. Everything except actual zina was committed. After some time, a couple of years, the Maulana came to his senses, and I believe the lady as well. They have realized the evil of their relationship, have made Taubah and are very remorseful. No one besides myself and of course, Allah Ta’ala, is aware of this sordid saga. I told both that in my opinion, their Taubah is not sufficient to atone for their conduct. The evil is of such a nature that it requires more than Taubah. Am I right? Both have presented some excuse for their evil conduct. The Maulana says that it was in a moment of weakness that he succumbed to his nafs; that he did not plan to develop a relationship with his friend’s wife. It was never even in his dreams. He therefore feels confident of having been forgiven by Allah Ta’ala. He has also profusely apologized to the lady via myself. The lady contends that she was young at the age of 30 and she simply became infatuated with the Maulana who was 20 years senior to her. Her excuse, in her own words: “As a young lady I was totally overwhelmed by the Taqwa, knowledge and wisdom of the middle-aged man, and simply fell in love. This led to my treacherous, erratic and out-of character behaviour.” Both are persons of the Deen. Are their excuses valid? What else should they do besides Taubah to expiate for their very evil conduct and haraam relationship. Please comment and offer us advice which will benefit others as well. I might add, that numerous people are involved in similar and worse haraam sagas. Jazaakallah!

ANSWER AND NASEEHAT
At the outset, in order to contain the explosion in us, and to avoid being judgmental – judgement which in our emotional opinion demands the assignment of this absolutely disgusting treacherous couple to everlastingly burn in Hell Fire, our brains constrain us to mellow our disgust and wrath with the following Aayat of Allah Ta’ala:
“Say (O Muhammad!) to My servants who have oppressed their souls that they should not despair of the Rahmat (Mercy) of Allah, for verily, He forgives all sins. Verily, He is the OftForgiver, The Most Merciful.”

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said that no matter how numerous and how great the sins committed may be, Allah Ta’ala forgives the sincere repenters. Therefore, even if the sins are as numerous as the bubbles on the ocean and as huge as the Himalayan mountains, the remorse in the heart wipes out all these sins even before the verbal Taubah has been made. The soul of Taubah is regret in the broken heart of the sinner, i.e. if his heart is truly broken by the absolute villainy and notoriety of the callous, treacherous and unforgivable misdeed perpetrated. ‘Unforgivable
from our perspective, not from the perspective of Allah Who is Ghafoor and Raheem – Whose mercy and ghaffaariyat are boundless and always available to the sinners. But this does not and should not detract us from the reality and notoriety of the misdeed. Allah’s boundless Rahmat is never a license for adopting a lackadaisical attitude towards sin in general and in particular towards the disgusting treachery committed by this devil Maulana and this vixen, traitorous woman. This Maulana has cruelly, deceitfully and most treacherously stabbed his friend in the back, seduced his wife and deracinated from his heart and brains the ‘knowledge’, ‘wisdom’ and ‘taqwa’ which this vixen had imagined, and presents as an excuse for her infidelity. Her presentation is a trick of her nafs to minimize the villainy of her treachery. The excuses of both are totally invalid. Their excuses are being presented to soothe their own conscience which rebels against their treacherous conduct, and to minimize the utter villainy and disgust of their treachery. This attitude – their subconscious minimizing of the gravity of their notoriety – is a dangerous trap of shaitaan to pollute their Taubah. Taubah, according to the Qur’aan must be Taubah Nasooh, i.e. a Repentance raised on the bed of raw Ikhlaas (Sincerity and Remorse). They should not present even the slightest vestige of cover or minimization of their absolutely unacceptable treachery. Just imagine! A trusting friend – a loving and caring husband is brutally stabbed in his back by his ‘trusted’ Maulana friend and his ‘faithful’ wife for whom he labours and loves so dearly. This ‘friend’ is a dacoit, a fraud, a deceit of the most treacherous kind, and this ‘faithful’ wife is an immoral vixen. Both should drown themselves in the cesspool of inequity and treachery which they have prepared for themselves. We wonder if after this treacherous brutality, did this Maulana ever have the guts to look his friend in the face? Did this treacherous woman ever have the guts to look her husband straight in the face? If yes, it indicates that they have not understood the absolute disgust of their treachery. They are banking on their Taubah. They should remember that they are dealing with a Being Who does not forget – with Allah Azza Wa Jal. Tomorrow is the Day of Qiyaamah. If Allah Ta’ala has not accepted their Taubah, they will stand there in the multitudes in the Divine Court facing the Friend/Husband. This miserable couple should ponder, in fact, meditate – engage in Muraaqabah – on that scene which could transpire on the Day of Qiyaamah. We reiterate that Allah Ta’ala is All-Forgiving and All Merciful. The Doors of Taubah never close. But the Taubah must be genuine. From the excuses proffered we discern deficiency in their Taubah. They must renew their Taubah afresh. They must refrain from presenting straws of extenuation. They must fully, fully realize their villainy and understand that they are rotten inside and outside – rotten to the core. Then with this attitude should they drown themselves in tears and cry their hearts out seeking forgiveness from Allah Ta’ala. It took the Maulana extremely long to come to his senses. If the relationship was perpetuated for years, the gravity of the villainy and treachery is multiplied manifold. The Maulana’s excuse of having succumbed in a moment of weakness to his nafs is false. The perpetuation of the haraam affair for years was not enacted in a “moment of weakness”. The continued affair has all the paraphernalia of plan and contemplation which are aggravating factors to damn and condemn the Maulana. Remaining at home alone with the lady is also indicative of planning. What happened to his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa? He is not ignorant of the Hadith Warning: “Never ever be alone with a woman, for verily the third one present is shaitaan”. His knowledge, wisdom and taqwa should have dictated that he should never have cast himself into such a dangerous combustible situation. A man and woman alone, especially when they were no longer strangers, are the ingredients for a sudden flare-up of the nafs. Did his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa not remind him that Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan Majeed: “Do not approach near to zina.”
But here this Maulana threw all of these Qur’aanic and Hadith warnings out of the window. The knowledge, wisdom and taqwa which do not protect a man in such combustible situations are fake. Our Mashaaikh say: “Verily, Allah loves a penetrating gaze when doubt settles on a person, and He loves a kaamil (perfect) aql (intelligence) when lust devours him.” In such dangerous situations, if the intelligence is employed to restrain and subdue the nafs, then it will be a kaamil aql, and the struggle will be more meritorious than the struggle in the physical battlefield. For a man who utilizes his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa to maintain the purity of his body, mind and heart, i.e. overwhelm his nafs by beating down his concupiscent desires to prevent himself from indulgence in haraam, Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) presented the following glad tidings: “He who falls in love (with a woman), and remains pure (in body and mind), then dies, verily he has become a Shaheed.” As for the vixen: her claim of being a ‘young woman overwhelmed’ by the moron Maulana’s imaginary integrity, is utterly baseless. She was at that stage a mature woman of 30, a mother of children, and she had a loving caring husband to attend to her desires, yet she betrayed him in such a cruel manner. Does she not know that from the age of buloogh – the age of 15 or even before – the person is an adult in Islam and is held liable by Allah Ta’ala for his/her deeds? Does she think that she is absolved of punishment for her misdeeds because of her age of 30? Does she not know that she can be stoned to death for adultery regardless of being 30 or 15? In fact, the enormity and villainy of the crime of this wicked Maulana and this vixen lady are of such egregious proportions that they should believe that they are fit for Rajm (Stoning to Death). With such a sincere attitude totally bereft of any vestige of self-vindication, they can have much hope in Allah’s Infinite Mercy and that they are or will be forgiven. What a silly, self-deceptive excuse is this “30 year old young lady” story? The lady should not delude herself with self-complacency to later find, on the Day of Qiyaamah, her treachery around her neck like a dead albatross for all and sundry to behold. Both of them should feel themselves to be dirty – filthy. The attainment of purity from their filth is no easy task. It requires repeated Taubah and self imposition of penances. But then too, effacement from memory of the treachery is well nigh impossible. Only Allah Ta’ala can help in this situation. The Maulana’s apology to the lady is stupid and baseless bunkum. What is there to apologize to her when she is the co-partner in the wickedness. Forgiveness must be sought from only Allah Ta’ala. We fail to understand this stupid concept of apology to the one with whom adultery was committed. Both are zaanis (adulterers) in the crime. They have no option other than to repeatedly renew their Taubah. A scrambled egg cannot be unscrambled. The damage is done. Now remains only regret, Istighfaar, hope and struggling to gain greater proximity to Allah Ta’ala. This is what particularly the Maulana should do, using his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa, and the lady should simply drench her musalla with tears of blood. May Allah Ta’ala have mercy on both and on us all. No one is safe from the enemy- nafs and shaitaan. Our castigation is not from a pedestal. It is not to make them despair of Allah’s mercy. It is to jolt them into realizing what they have perpetrated. It is clear to us that they have as yet not fully understood the villainy of their treachery. Their self-diagnosis is wholly deficient, and this contaminates their Taubah.
Again we say that it is not contempt which underlies our reprimand. The one who offers naseehat from a high pedestal is worse than this treacherous couple. He is a veritable shaitaan giving vent to his takabbur. The naasih who proffers advice should always bear in mind what Hadhrat Nabi Yusuf (Alayhis salaam) said:
“I do not proclaim my nafs to be pure, for verily, the nafs is a great commander of evil except the one on whom Allah has mercy.” (Qur’aan)
Our harshness is only to jolt the two miscreants. It is for their own goodness in this dunya and the Aakhirah. If they misconstrue it, the consequences for them on the Day of Qiyaamah are too ghastly to contemplate. May Allah Ta’ala forgive us all and save us from the evil of our nafs and the snares of Iblees.