A Sister proffers the following sombre observations and advice:

“Assalamu alaikum

It is with deep sadness that I read the article Ibaadat and Taa’at. Very late in life with the Qabr in front of me, have I realized that the Quranic order for women to ‘stay glued in your homes’ is the best order by our Raheem (Merciful) Rabb. Going out to visit relatives, cousins, friends, neighbours, shopping, bazaars, and now malls, even visiting parents and married children too much bring only the curse of Allah Ta’ala, restlessness and ungratefulness. It also destroys the haya (Imaani modesty) and creates animosities.

The women of yester years never left their homes. They never complained. They did not work from homes. They bore every thing even zulm of husbands and in-laws with great and much Sabr. They did not run to Aamils, Sheikhs and Buzurgs. The only kitaab of Wazeefas in most homes was A’maal-e-Qur’aani. They drowned all their grief and sorrows in tilawat of the Quran Shareef.

Talking to na-mehrams is extremely dangerous, especially the sheikhs and buzurgs. A lady said that she sometimes spoke to her sheikh, after a while she realized that he would laugh in a sinister manner. She got scared and left him. I wonder if our Akaabireen ever talked to their women mureedahs even from behind a curtain.

All these sheikhs and buzurgs are not at all trustworthy. They are ever ready to talk to women, more then with their male mureeds. They never advise women to cling to tilawat and to their homes. Don’t call them. Call Allah Ta’ala.

Maulana Sahab, these times are full of fitnah. With all the social media in every hand. One who breathes his/her last on Kalima with Imaan is the most fortunate Muslim on earth.  Wassalam”

(End of the Sister’s advice)

Even genuine Buzrugs will emit the type of ‘sinister laugh’ the sister had experienced with her sheikh. When the carnality of the nafs asserts itself, the intelligence of even a Buzrug becomes blighted and his spiritual eyes are blinded. He succumbs to the dictates of his lust because he failed to observe the prescribed limits of Allah Ta’ala. A trader’s abrupt talk restricted to the sale with a woman, is a far lesser evil than the ‘spiritual’ talk and advice which the Shaikh proffers to his mureedah without due observance of valid and proper Purdah/Hijaab. Nowadays, a mere screen is inadequate.

The voice of the female exercises a sexual attraction which even the Buzrugs at times fail to resist. As far as all these bogus ‘buzrugs’ and bogus ‘sheikhs’ of today are concerned, they are human devils who should never be trusted. In this day, a true Buzrug should not converse with females even from behind a screen. The lust and carnality are ever present. It constitutes a satanically combustible scenario.

Few buzrugs are able to keep their talk and their desires fully within the limits of the Shariah when speaking with females. That is why the Auliya say:

  “Allah loves a penetrating gaze at the time of the incidence of shubuhaat (doubtful issues), and He loves a kaamil (perfect) intelligence at the time of the hulool (infusion) of shahawaat (lusts).”

Imaam Ghazaali (Rahmatullah alayh) said that when a man is affected by lust stemming from female entrapment, 80% of his brain cells become inoperative. In fact Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) expressed surprise at the domination of women who are naaqisul aql, over men who are supposed to have kaamil aql. Buzrugs are in greater need to observe stricter purdah than others.

Mureedahs should not acquit themselves with so much gullibility that they become traps for the Shaikh and he too becomes a snare for them. Seek the protection of Allah Ta’ala against the evils of the nafs and the snares of Iblees.

24 Sha’baan 1444 – 17 March 2023



A Sister writes and advises as follows:

Assalaamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakathuhu

I have read the article about social media. Without doubt the cellphone is a useful tool, but without doubt the majority of Muslims, Deeni and modern are caught up in saying they need it for work and business purposes which is Shaitaani entrapment to get them hooked on facebook, videos etc. Some use the excuse of videos without animate pictures but this too desensitizes all Muslim.

Unfortunately many don’t have limits and are displaying this habit to their children instead of spending their time teaching the children Deen, heart to heart.

Rizq is sealed and there are the fortunate (to be protected from this evil), some of the old school generation business people, who operate well without any smartphone. They experience much Barkat in their earnings and we see it in their contentment and sukoon. People have forgotten who distributes rizq. If we can only abandon this cellphone futility and stop making excuses for its unnecessary use we will experience unlimited Barkat and sukoon in time, rizq and our homes.

Below is an article someone forwarded to me and I think it’s extremely important that we realise the entire household is influenced by the actions of the leader of the family. This is from the home of an ‘ordinary layman’.

If the communication with the Maulana was verbal then it’s obviously not correct, but the lesson we derive is about the example of resorting to ibaadat in solitude in our spare time which a non-Aalim set in his home. He did not make his cellphone be his priority nor socializing.


The Maulana said:

“Once a sister phoned, and she said she has a problem and asked if there is any waazifa regarding it.

I said there is, recite Durood Shareef 500 times and make Duaa. Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was the most Beloved to Allah Ta’laa. The wazeefah will solve all your problems. She remained silent for a while. I thought to myself that maybe it’s too much for her so I asked her why isn’t she saying anything.

She said, now I have a greater problem than the one I just told you. No one knows about it only my Allah Ta’ala and I- no one else. Now out of extreme necessity I have to tell you but I fear getting pride or it being against sincerity. (The ‘extreme necessity’ was her nafsaani imagination –The Majlis)

I said: I am asking you out of concern, though I thought she wants another amal.

She said: “Alhamdulilah, Alhamdulillah! Moulana since sometime I have been reciting 15 000 Durood Shareef everyday. My problem is that should I include the 500 Durood Shareef into this or should I read it separately?

Then I remained silent for a while. She asked me why am I not saying anything. I said: ‘Also make Duaa for us.’ Then I asked her if I could ask her something. She said: ‘ Jee!.’

I asked what had inclined you so much that you started reciting 15 000 Durood Shareef where as if a person reads 1000 Durood Shareef , Allah Ta’ala gives him 40 000 rewards (10 000 mercies descend on him, 10 000 of his sins forgiven, 10 000 virtuous deeds are written for him and 10 000 of his status is raised).

Those that want to read they read. A friend of mine use to read 5000 Durood Shareef everyday, My Sheikh who passed away on the 23th night of Ramadan use to read 13 000.

Those that wish to read, they read a lot, but a young sister who has a husband and children to attend to, her household chores etc.! So I asked her: ‘What had inclined you to read so much of durood Shareef?’ (The idea of describing one’s ibaadat as being ‘much’ betrays the presence of ujub –vanity, self-esteem. This is an evil and a subtle disease of the nafs. No one’s ibaadat is ‘much’. Everyone’s ibaadat no matter the quantity, is qualitively defective. The Maulana was stirred on by his nafs to lengthen the conversation unnecessarily with a ghair mahram female. This is the snare of his nafs –The Majlis)

She said her husband. I said: ‘Your husband…? Isn’t he a businessman. He looks quite straightforward. She said his straightforward outside, at home his an Allah-Waalah.’ I said: ‘People usually say other way around.’ I then asked what he does?

She said there is a certain place at home where he lays down his musalla and he reads his tahajud, ishraaq, chast, awwabeen and makes a lot of Duaa and reads a lot of Durood Shareef. Sometimes he wakes up and tells me: ‘O my beloved wife, today I had dreamt about Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in this way; today I dreamt about Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in this way’.

So whenever he tells me that he had dreamt about Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) my heart hurts and tells me that you should also read Durood Shareef and InshAllah, you will also attain the great fortune of seeing Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in your dream. Just with the desire of seeing Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) I have reached 15 000 however my husband reads a lot. Maulana you must make Duaa for us.

I said: ‘O sister you must make duaa for us.’ Just at that moment I felt a pain in my heart and thought, look! her husband is nek (pious) that’s why she is also nek (pious), she is Allah-waali. She only sees him doing this, nowadays the husband only sits with his phone, that’s why his wife only watches series and his children cartoons and the whole house turns out to be a pit from the pits of Jahannam, and disputes between husband and wife and the feeling of uneasiness.

O my brother’s if I and you were also nek (pious), if we had also become Allah-Waalah, if we had also pleased Allah Talah then the condition of our homes would be something else.

May Allah Ta’ala also make us pious and good people. Let’s make intention to read lots of Durood Shareef, at least a 1000 daily and let’s try to read Fadhaail-e-A’maal ”  (End of the Maulana’s conversation and advice)

 (End of the Sister’s letter)

Our Comment

We just hope that the article is not false. Tablighis are fond of fabricating articles of piety on the basis of the concocted error of the end justifying the means. Reciting 15,000 Durood daily requires at least 7 hours at a minimum. What happened to the brains of this woman who, despite reciting so much Durood, felt at ease discussing verbally with a ghair mahram. Her remaining ‘silent’ for some moments, and he too, evidences that the talk was verbal, not written.

Furthermore, to advise all and sundry to recite “at least” 1000 Durood daily indicates, at a minimum, lack of understanding. This is not Sunnah, hence it may not be made a universal practice. This is the way that all bid’aat were initiated by mostly pious people. The Maulana who proffered this advice is not the Shaikh/Murshid of the entire Ummah to proffer such advice audaciously. There is no Sunnah backing for this advice. The advice of an intelligent, Allah-Fearing Aalim should be: Abstain from haraam and futility. Follow the Shariah. Adopt the Sunnah. Guard your eyes and tongue. Taa-at and Ibaadat are imperative.

The fact that the sister was seeking a wazeefah despite her huge number of Durood daily, indicates that the Durood was not making an effect on her heart. It did not improve her Tawakkul and Yaqeen, hence she sought an additional wazeefah which to her mind would be superior to her 15000 Durood daily.

Also, the person who recites Durood in abundance should not feel entitled to see Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in his/her dream. The objective of Durood is not seeing our Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in dreams. The objective is fulfilment of the request of our Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam), to gain his Shafaa-at for us on the Day of Qiyaamah and the Ridha of Allah Ta’ala.

Furthermore, her having mentioned her 15000 Durood to the Maulana is an indication of riya, and her asking whether she should add the 500 suggested by him, indicates her stupidity.

Sister, do not be influenced by these types of stories. Adhere strictly to the Shariah and the Sunnah to the best of your ability. As far as wazeefahs are concerned, there are no better wazeefahs than the Masnoon ones, namely, Nafl Salaat in abundance and Tilaawat of the Qur’aan Majeed in abundance, and keeping the tongue ever moist with Thirkrullah as commanded by Rasulullah

(Sallallahu alayhi wasallam): “Your tongue should remain ever moist with Thikrullah.” Adopt this prescription of the Qur’aan and Sunnah, namely, Ibaadat, Taa-at and Perpetual Thikr, then you will become a veritable genuine Buzrug.

22 Sha’baan 1444 – 15 March 2023


Question: I would like to know: there are men these days who would like to get married but they get upset when the girl wants to stay on her own. Is this correct? I thought a girl has a right to her own living quarters.
These days apart from the in-laws and daughter-in-law relationship, what about the fitna that can occur between father in law and daughter-in-law?
Secondly, what is the condition of those men and their parents who take other people’s daughters into their homes and promise to take care of them but then turn the girls into their maids and refuse to take the girl to visit her family? Is this not zulm?

Many men and their families lie to the girls family just so they can get married and after marriage they go against everything that they said, is there a punishment for this?
Many men tell their mother’s what transpires between themselves and their wives and also tell what they bought. Is this not violation of the wives privacy?

It is the Shar’i right of the wife to have her own separate living quarters. This should be arranged before marriage to avoid the marriage breaking down.
The girl and her parents are blameworthy when the fitnah pertaining to separate living quarters erupts. They are guilty because they failed to stipulate this requirement prior to marriage. Despite being aware, they rushed into the marriage and now when the novelty of the Nikah has worn thin, they create problems with the in-laws. It is necessary to make the correct arrangements before plunging into marriage. Both parties must be blamed for the zulm.
Yes, the fitnah between a man and his daughter-in-law is a real and rampant evil. We are well aware of this, hence we always say that a certain degree of purdah is necessary and that the woman must not be in privacy with her father-in-law. People are bereft of Taqwa, hence they are dominated by their nafs and Iblees.
Making a maid of the daughter-in-law is blatant zulm. This happens in many homes. It is therefore necessary, prior to marriage, to settle the issue of a separate home. If this right is not acceded to before marriage, then the girl’s parents should blame themselves for the resultant zulm on their daughter.
It is a major sin for the husband to debar his wife from meeting her parents. He must take her frequently to visit if they live nearby. If they live in another city, then whenever it is reasonably easy, he should take her to visit them. He must not be callous. He must not acquit himself like an animal which has no feelings for its adult offspring.
The husband mentioning his intimate issues with his wife to his mother is shameless, and his mother too is shameless. Only rubbishes derive carnal pleasure from such information.
Especially in these times of fitnah and fasaad which is an age in which Taqwa is antique and so ‘out of fashion’ that even molvis and muftis frown when they hear the word ‘Taqwa’, it is absolutely necessary to make all the necessary arrangements prior to the Nikah. Nowadays nikahs break up so much and so quickly as if marriage is a sport.



. The Aalimah girls nowadays  are  claiming  that it is not the obligation  of the  wife  to cook food, do the washing, etc. These are the  duties of maids   whom the husbands  should  hire. Is their understanding  of the Hadith  correct?  What is the answer  to their arguments  which they  base  on the Hadith?

A.  The best answer  for these stupid so-called  ‘aalimahs’  is that   the only  obligation  of the husband  is to provide  the wife  with two sets of clothes, basic food and a room, kitchen and toilet.  It is not  the obligation  of the husband  to provide a palatial home, furniture, fridge, appliances, lounge suite, wardrobes full of gaudy garments, make-up, powder, shampoos, lotions and the many other items of luxury and comfort which are to be found in the homes of all these stupid women who claim that it is not their obligation to cook and clean the house.  It is not  even the obligation of the husband to pay  for the medical  treatment of his wife. Despite  all these  requisites, needs  and comforts  not being the husband’s obligation, he nevertheless makes these available   for a happy home. They should present their stupid understanding  about ‘obligations’  only  when they can understand that the husband’s obligation is to only  provide them a plate of food and a dress to wear and a couple of blankets with a pillow for sleeping. It is not his obligation to pride a nice double-bed with nice foam mattress and beautiful linen, etc. Only if they want to be treated  like maids, should they open their stupid mouths with the issue  of ‘obligations’. A happy  home is not created  on the basis of just ‘obligations’. It requires much more.

   It is because of the satanic  attitude and stupid brains of these half-male ‘aalimahs’ who have become monsters and bulldozers,  that their marriages  generally end in divorce. 

   Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi  wasallam) had made it clear  to  Hadhrat Faatimah (Radhiyallahu anha)  that it is her obligation to tend  to the household duties such as grinding  the wheat, cooking, cleaning, etc. These moron women  who act like ‘mujtahids’  should follow the example  of Hadhrat Faatimah (Radhiyallahu anha), not the example of the lewd women of the west. The girls madrasahs have corrupted their hearts  and vermiculated  their brains.


Polygyny: The Hypocrisy of Criticizing Islam for “Legalized Cheating”

By Hud Lesprit -March 3, 2023

As a steadfast advocate of Islam, I must speak out against the rampant criticisms hurled against our noble faith. In a recent debate, the apostate Nuriyah dared to accuse Islam of “legalizing cheating” due to its allowance for men to practice polygyny. This is far from the first time that liberal minds have launched attacks such as this against a time-honored practice.

Many of us Muslims are quick to point out the hypocrisy of these criticisms, especially in light of the fact that Western countries have recorded a staggering rate of adultery. According to the LA Intelligence Detective Agency, the statistics on this deplorable behavior are extremely alarming:

• 30 to 60 percent of married couples will cheat at least once in the marriage

• 74 percent of men and 68 percent of women admit they’d cheat if it was guaranteed they’d never get caught

• 60 percent of affairs start with close friends or coworkers

• An average affair lasts 2 years

• 69 percent of marriages break up as a result of an affair being discovered

The numbers speak for themselves: anywhere between 30 and 60 percent of married couples will cheat on their spouse at least once during their marriage, while 74 percent of men and 68 percent of women admit they would cheat if it was absolutely certain that they would never be caught. Moreover, 60 percent of affairs are with close friends or coworkers, and on average, an affair lasts two years. Worst of all, 69 percent of marriages collapse due to the discovery of an affair.

But there is an even more egregious irony at play here, and this is that almost all liberal countries have effectively legalized adultery, especially for women. When a wife is caught cheating on her husband and is taken to court, what does she risk? No Western country will exercise punishment against such a woman. In fact, she may win a great deal in divorce proceedings! And yet, these murtadds (apostates), infatuated with Western liberalism, have the audacity to allege that Islam somehow “legalizes cheating.”

As a conservative orthodox Muslim, I am absolutely appalled by the ignorance and hypocrisy of these accusations. It is high time that the Western world confronts its own moral decay before going around pointing fingers at Islam. Let us protect our families, uphold the sanctity of marriage and preserve our cherished traditions.

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Let us now consider Catholicism, which, like Islam, condemns adultery. However, it also prohibits polygyny, a practice that is permitted by Islam under certain conditions. But before Catholics and other detractors of Islam accuse us of condoning adultery, let us examine their own history and practices.

Let me bring to your attention that the saints of the Roman Church actually defended the legalization of prostitution houses as a necessary evil.

Thomas Aquinas, echoing Augustine of Hippo, famously said:

Prostitution in the towns is like the cesspool in the palace: take away the cesspool and the palace will become an unclean and evil-smelling place.

Moreover, Thomas Aquinas, three times in his theological sum, defended the tolerance for prostitution within a Christian kingdom. Given that a significant portion of the clientele of these houses is married men, is this thus not a form of legalized adultery, since it essentially permits adultery?

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On the other hand, Islam is the last holdout as the only religion that still condemns cheating, a crime which is punished with the death penalty, highlighting its great severity.

It is also crucial to distinguish between fidelity and loyalty, which Islam strongly emphasizes.

Islam does not propagate the idea that a man should remain exclusive to his wife. Instead, Islam enjoins men to be loyal to their wives, which can be achieved by helping them worship their Lord as they ought to; taking care of their physical and emotional needs; spending on them generously; protecting them; and remembering the favors done unto them by their wives.

Allah says in the Qur’an:

But if you divorce them before you have touched them [in intimacy], and you have already determined for them an obligatory dowry, then [give them] half of what you have already determined, unless they grant remission [of it], or the one in whose hand is the marriage contract grants remission [of it]. Yet if you [believers] grant remission [of the full amount], it is, indeed, nearer to [the virtue of] fearing Allah. Thus do not forget benevolence among yourselves. Indeed, Allah is all-seeing of all that you do. (Qur’an, 2:237)

It is truly disappointing that the enemies of Islam continuously sink so low as to try and use criticisms that apply more aptly to themselves. When they tire of accruing failures, they should take some time to introspect and acknowledge their biases against Islam.

Their problem with Islam is not one of any actual substance but merely an emotional disorder.

They should know that it’s never too late for them to go and seek help.

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Kick Feminism to the Curb! Contentment in Marriage and Motherhood

I am happy to be a traditional housewife.

I’m content with being a homemaker, a wife who plays a supporting role to my husband’s lead role. I’m busy enough in my position as a stay-at-home, as a mother homeschooling five children, alhamdulillah, that I do not wish for any further responsibilities to be placed upon my shoulders.

I feel completely fulfilled and at peace within my feminine frame, alhamdulillah. Thus, I have no desire to warp my essence or defy my fitrah (natural innate disposition) by trying to assume a masculine frame; or by competing with my husband; or by becoming independent of him.

I’m perfectly fine with being dependent on my husband—financially, emotionally, physically and so on.

Yet strangely enough, in today’s world, many people would consider my position in life to be precarious, perhaps even downright stupid.

“Why would you put yourself in this vulnerable position, so utterly dependent on a man?”

“Why don’t you want to go out there and get a job so you can make money just for yourself, independent of your husband’s income? You know, just in case…”

And, that’s when all the what-ifs start:

“What if he leaves you?”

“What if he cheats on you?”

“What if he abuses you?”

“What if he decides to go and marry a second wife?”

“What if he dies and leaves you behind as a widow with five children and then, you and your kids starve and become homeless?”

“What if you get bored with him; stop loving him; or drift apart, growing distant in your marriage? You’ll be trapped in a loveless marriage!”

Sorry, but I don’t want to live my life consumed by fear about potential disasters. I simply refuse to make decisions borne of pessimism. I will not allow my life choices to come from a place of manufactured anxiety and dread.

This fear is a fake fear. It is a fear that is artificially induced and pumped into the hearts and minds of women by the secularized modern world. It is intentionally manufactured by deliberate agents, much like fake designer handbags or shoes that are made in China.

The truth is, marriage has always been like this, endowed with a certain degree of risk. And that goes for both the man and the woman. There is a level of inherent uncertainty when it comes to marriage. If they allowed it to, these what-ifs could scare both the husband and the wife into actually destroying their marriage rather than doing their best to live happily together in harmony.

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But, for some reason, we seem to forget that marriage is not the only endeavor in life that involves risk. Everything does!

What if you lose your iman (faith) at school and become an atheist?

What if you spend decades of your life obtaining degrees but can’t find a job in this economy?

What if you get a job that you hate?

What if your manager at work is an abusive narcissist?

What if you devote all your time, effort, energy and ideas to a company and, one day, they decide to fire you for absolutely no reason whatsoever, only to replace you the very next day with someone younger, smarter or more physically capable?

What if you remain loyal to a company and work for them for years, allowing them to them make millions of dollars off your hard work and they make you redundant after having robbed you of your best years, then you find yourself all alone, without a husband or children or a family and, at this point, it’s just too late for you to be able to get all of those things?

What if you die alone and miserable, as a lonely retired career woman?

I mean, we could keep playing the what-if game all day long.

Only Allah knows the ghayb (the realm of the unseen). We have no knowledge or certainty regarding what is going to happen tomorrow; or how the decisions we make will end up affecting us; or how our choices will play out in the future.

وَعِندَهُ مَفَاتِحُ الْغَيْبِ لَا يَعْلَمُهَا إِلَّا هُوَ ۚ وَيَعْلَمُ مَا فِي الْبَرِّ وَالْبَحْرِ ۚ وَمَا تَسْقُطُ مِن وَرَقَةٍ إِلَّا يَعْلَمُهَا وَلَا حَبَّةٍ فِي ظُلُمَاتِ الْأَرْضِ وَلَا رَطْبٍ وَلَا يَابِسٍ إِلَّا فِي كِتَابٍ مُّبِينٍ

Moreover, with Him are the keys of the [realms of the] unseen. No one knows [of] them but Him. And He knows, [as well,] all that is in the land and the sea. Not even a leaf falls but He knows it. Nor is there a [single] grain [hidden] within [the veils of] the darkness of the earth — nor anything moist [therein] nor anything withered — but that it is [recorded] in a clear Book [preserved in Heaven]. (Surat al-An’am, verse 59)

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عِندَهُۥ عِلْمُ ٱلسَّاعَةِ وَيُنَزِّلُ ٱلْغَيْثَ وَيَعْلَمُ مَا فِى ٱلْأَرْحَامِ ۖ وَمَا تَدْرِى نَفْسٌۭ مَّاذَا تَكْسِبُ غَدًۭا ۖ وَمَا تَدْرِى نَفْسٌۢ بِأَىِّ أَرْضٍۢ تَمُوتُ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌۢ

Indeed, with Allah, Himself, [alone] is knowledge of [when] the Hour [of Judgment shall come]. And it is He [alone] who sends down the rain. And it is He [alone] who knows [everything about] all that is in the wombs. And no soul apprehends [its destiny as to] what it will earn tomorrow. And no soul apprehends [its destiny as to] the land in which it will die. Indeed, Allah is all-knowing, all-aware. (Surah Luqman, verse 34)

Therefore, the best we can do is simply follow our naturally feminine fitrah as women and surrender to our human nature to pair bond with a spouse and create a family. Then, once we’ve made the decision to do that, we can use the means that we have at our disposal to vet our options thoroughly and move forward accordingly with full tawakkul (reliance) on Allah.

Risk is inescapable in this dunya (temporal, worldly abode). We must be capable of accepting this fact as reality.

Getting a higher education won’t erase risk.

Having a successful career won’t erase risk.

Possessing our own personal wealth won’t erase risk.

Life involves risk. Yes, getting married and relying on your husband carries some degree of risk. But so does accumulating lots of educational degrees and having a high-profile career.

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However, in the modern feminist liberal world, we have been trained to zero in like an eagle on certain specific kinds of risk and to completely ignore others. We have developed a massive blind spot.

The only thing we’ve been brainwashed to identify (and hyper-focus on) are the risks of getting married, having children and working cooperatively with the husband. Yet these are the very things that most of us women yearn for within the deepest depths of our hearts. We dream about this stuff from when we’re little girls.

At the same time, we’ve been brainwashed to NOT recognize the risks of spending decades pursuing a secular, liberal western education and sacrificing our best years for an employer to whom we are just another faceless number. This path supposedly makes us “safe” somehow, but it leaves us miserable and full of regret.

This brainwashing is a long, subtle, delicate process, and it relies heavily on manufacturing fear and peddling it to the female masses. It entails sowing seeds of mistrust towards men, inducing suspicion against marriage and an all-consuming dread of motherhood.

The best way to fight this fear is to have fear only of Allah and to have full tawakkul on Him and the system that He has designed for us.

وَخَلَقْنَاكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا

[Have We not] created you in pairs [as males and females]? (Surat al-Naba’, verse 8)

Under the tafsir (explanation) of this ayah (verse), Ibn Kathir writes:

يعني : ذكرا وأنثى ، يستمتع كل منهما بالآخر ، ويحصل التناسل بذلك.

Meaning: as males and females, each of them enjoying the other, and procreation results therefrom.

What a beautiful and simple way of looking at things. We are meant to enjoy ourselves and one another! Imagine being open, trusting and vulnerable enough to actually enjoy your spouse! Not to be bogged down by fear; or suspicion; or mistrust. But just to enjoy and relish one another!

So have trust in Allah. Have trust in His system. Have trust in the fitrah upon which He has created us. Allow yourself to trust your husband and enjoy his company, affection, generosity, care, etc. Allow yourself to commit fully to your marriage and to motherhood, and take comfort in knowing that you are living a life with purpose, surrounded by loved ones.

Do not allow others to push you into avenues that go against your nature as a woman. Do not be dragged away from your natural source of happiness and fulfillment. Especially when what they are luring you towards will neither make you happy nor will it save you from risk.

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A Brother from Gambia asks:
Is it correct that it is mentioned in Siyar, Dhahabi that Imam Shafi (Rahmatullah Alaihi) saw many women who reached puberty at nine years in Sana, Yemen  and that Imam Shafi (Rahmatullah Alayhi) in Sunan Al Kubra, Bayhaqi, reported seeing a grandmother of 21 years in Yemen? Please comment  on the statements from Islamic preachers defending the actions of the early generation of Muslim- the act of child marriage, and the venomenous criticism of modernists of today who brand adults who enter into child-marriage as paedophiles.
All zindeeqs, modernists and those who bootlick and hindlick the western kuffaar should understand well that Islam permits child-marriage. Denial of this irrefutable fact is kufr. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam), Hadhrat Umar (Radhiyallahu anhu) and many others had entered into such marriages.
Those who chant the western kufr, obscene ideological, pejorative theme of such persons being paedophiles, suffer from the mental malady known as Ibleesmentia which the Qur’aan terms Takhabbutush Shaitaan. This disease is generally suffered by those who devour interest, but it is extremely contagious, and afflicts all Zanaadaqah and Munaafiqeen such as the moron reverends and pundits who masquerade as Ulama.
Allah Ta’ala is the Creator. He has allowed child-marriage, hence it is incorrigible kufr to criticize and vilify an institution permitted by our Khaaliq (Creator). Those who have been afflicted with Ibleesmentia which in reality is a Divine Curse (La’nat of Allah Ta’ala), have no qualms about a man fornicating and having extra marital relationships with a dozen women, but they satanically find cause for criticizing and vilifying an Institution permitted by Allah Ta’ala. Whilst Allah Ta’ala has allowed it, these moron scoundrels disgorge vituperation on those who avail themselves of Divine Permissibility.
Now understand well! Child marriage is just as permissible as polygamy. And, to Hell with the opponents whose religion is satanism


Muslim Feminism Destroys Marriage

By Umm Khalid -January 29, 2023

The dangerous thing about so-called “Muslim feminists” is that they know only random bits and pieces about Islam and apply these disparate ideas haphazardly to create a highly distorted, disturbed view.

They make arbitrary generic assertions like, “Islam is founded on mercy, kindness, and compassion!” Just a blanket assumption that they themselves assert, based on the skewed picture painted for them by their favorite Compassionate Imams.

These Muslim feminists also parrot feminist buzzwords that they try to inappropriately inject into Islam, keywords like “consent” and “freedom” and other vacuous concepts.
They make the natural unnatural. They make the beautiful ugly.

Take marriage, for example.

Muslim feminists usually end their tirades with the sentiment that Muslim marriage is “worse than prison,” as you see here in this screenshot. Typical feminist take.

In reality, Islam is free from feminist fantasies and delusions.

The Islamic marriage model is laid out for us by Allah, the Creator of both men and women, the Just, the All-Knowing. Overall, the tenor of the relationship is one of مودة ورحمة (love and mercy), سكينة (serenity, peace, tranquility), and معروف (that which is known as good, reasonable, kind). It is supposed to be a soft, loving bond between the husband and wife who find comfort and peace with one another and exist together in harmony.

But we cannot exist in harmony if we are out of sync with our fitra, our most primordial instincts and intuitions, our very human nature.

Allah tells us in the Quran certain principles and truths about the natures of men and women, femininity and masculinity, and gender roles in the family:

1. That males and females are very different:

وليس الذكر كالأنثى…

“And the male is not like the female…” (Surat Ali `Imran, 36)

2. That family roles exist and are different by gender:

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ ۚ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ…

“Men are authorities over women, by right of what Allah has granted one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard…” (Surat An-Nisa, 34)

3. That the husband has a particular degree of both rights and responsibilities above his wife, meaning also that he has a higher degree of authority:

وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ…

“And due to the women is similar to what is due from them [to their husbands], in what is reasonable, and men have a degree above them…” (Surat Al-Baqara, 228)

4. That in certain circumstances, if the wife is brazenly committing sins or openly defiant to her husband or acting rebellious or belligerent, the husband has the right to address her infractions and curb her injustices by meting out various methods of discipline as outlined by Allah:

وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا

“…But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance / defiance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them [lightly]. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allāh is ever Exalted and Grand.” (Surat An-Nisa, 34)

These are some parameters that guide the general framework of marriage in Islam, and what each party owes the other.

Both the husband and the wife have certain rights and certain responsibilities in Islam. It’s not a total free-for-all, not a blank slate we can just fill in with whatever we feel like. It’s not the liberal secular feminist model of egalitarianism or “equality” (as if such a farce is even possible).

Yet there is still some leeway for each family to adjust to its own set of circumstances within the range of the halal.

But this is not enough for the feminists.

RELATED: What Muslim Feminists Fail to Understand About Feminism

This average Muslim feminist, in the attached comment, objects to the basic structure of Islamic marriage, to the very concept of hierarchy:

She rejects the idea that the husband has the authority to “determine how much pocket money she needs.” She’s not pleased that a wife has the money that her husband gives her (nafaqa) instead of going out to work to make her own money for herself just because.

She rejects the idea that the husband has the authority to “determine who she sees, what she does.” Basically, that the wife does have to answer to her husband and obey him in what is halal. She’s displeased that the wife isn’t a total wild card, a completely free agent who can literally do anything she likes. Any sort of “restriction” is deemed intolerable to the feminist mind.

She rejects that the husband gets “the final word.” She hates the husband’s higher degree of authority (and therefore, responsibility). She wants to have zero power differential, zero hierarchy. The husband and wife must be “equals” or else the feminist will be enraged.

She also says accusingly, “She can’t refuse intimacy.” This feminist rejects the husband’s basic right to intimacy with his wife, and that the wife may not weaponize sex in the marriage. Again, for the feminist, this is an egregious breach of “freedom.”

She, right on cue, throws in the word “consent.”

To end her comment, the Muslim feminist declares that this (basically the Islamic marriage model) “sounds worse than prison” so she prefers her own “version” where Islam is exclusively built upon “kindness and compassion” and cotton candy and roses and sunshine and unicorns.

Feminism leads to a mentality where it is possible to reject the words of Allah Himself, the rules and regulations laid out by Allah, and the very principles of human nature.

Feminism is a path that leads to denying human nature and defying Allah Himself.

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Posted on Fri 27 January 2023

A justifiably exasperated Sister from Durban, correctly lamenting about a group of Friends of Iblees operating in Durban with their promotion of Zina in various guises, says:

“I wrote the following message for ulema in Durban, will email Jamiat KZN. Al Ansaar is a well known radio station, organization that allows such gatherings. I am not happy about it. Im not happy about the fact that it seems okay to make Islam modern, and to give promiscuity an ‘islamic’ cover.

Message for the Ulama

“I have a question regarding a very concerned matter.

It has been brought to my attention that gatherings which are not in accordance to Shariah are taking place. A group called FRIENDS has been active for the past 6 years. The initial purpose and intention of this group was to uplift women, give them support, help guide them to the right path, especially divorced women and widows. But now it has become a gathering for the rich. Women who are supposed to be in purdah are exposed to men in these gatherings. There are no precautions taken into consideration. The laws of shariah are being blatantly flouted. There are women who even do match making against the laws of Shariah. They have groups with men and allow the women to chat.

The members who wish to join these gatherings have to pay towards the expenses of these gatherings. It’s not voluntary. It’s like a high tea-gathering for the elite and not for the poor community.

Are such gatherings allowed by the Shariah?

As a woman I know there is a limit to what I can do and cannot. When such gatherings are becoming so popular. Why are the ulema not stepping in and stopping it? A woman like me can create awareness about it being wrong but these women who are involved in initiating such evil gatherings will not stop unless the ulema tell them this is not allowed. This cannot happen. You are breaking the law of shariah.

There are so many similar incidents occurring and some sisters have reached out to me saying they asked the ulema for help, and nothing was done.

They went to the Jamiat and nothing was done. So this gives the people who are modernizing Islam more advantage because the men are not speaking up.

I feel it needs to be spoken about in the Musjids so that men can tell their wives. It needs to be spoken about in every community.

In this time of fitna and fasad, we have to start standing up against these gatherings because these women are allowing dunya’s glamor to sweep them off their feet.

Below is images of an invitation the group “FRIENDS” created . It will be held at Al Ansaar coffee shop and hall. This week. I urge you to please look into this and do something about it.

This same group, FRIENDS, is having another gathering at a bed and breakfast near the Musjid. They collaborate with Ilmsa.” (End of the Sister’s letter)


Yes, indeed this stercoraceous group of copro individuals is correctly described as ‘FRIENDS”. They are the FRIENDS of Shaitaan – the Chief Iblees. In fact they could be correctly designated as being the illegitimate progeny of Iblees. Shaitaan does have legitimate children who are devils of his ilk. But, his illegitimate progeny is made up of copro humans whom he fans out into the world as his primary agents to execute his multifarious schemes and conspiracies of fitnah and fasaad. Zaani-aat of the category of this group, not ordinary prostitutes plying their immoral trade, and Zanaadaqah who misinterpret the Qur’aan and Ahaadith to fabricate meanings as cover for their kufr and nifaaq, are among the illegitimate progeny of Iblees.

We find ourselves in this era which is the initial phase of the Age of Dajjaal. In this era of Dajjaaliyat most of the minor signs of Qiyaamah are being enacted in preparation for the final stage when Dajjaal himself will emerge as predicted by Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam).

While we lament and Islamically rant against all agents of Dajjaal and Iblees, we should not be surprised nor weaken our resolve regarding the vital and sacred obligation of Amr Bil Ma’roof Nahyi Anil Munkar which must be perpetuated until the very last regardless of who accepts or rejects. The Ulama should not abandon Amr Bil Ma’roof because of the wide-scale, intensive and extensive prevalence of shaitaani fitnah and fasaad. The process of fitnah is incremental. It will not decrease. We are heading for Qiyaamah, and the dunya has to be destroyed. Our objective is not to provide hidaayat (guidance). Hidaayat is the prerogative exclusively of Allah Azza Wa Jal. Confirming this reality, the Qur’aan Majeed states:

“Verily, you (O Muhammad!) cannot guide whom you love. But Allah guides whomever He wills, and He knows best who are to be guided.”

This ‘Friends’ group as described by the Sister and as their pictures and write-ups further elaborate, is undoubtedly a shaitaani ZINA group of shayaateenul ins (human devils) which Iblees has harnessed to lure stupid women into his snare of immorality, vice and Zina. All the women who are taking a leading role in the implementation of the Zina Plot of Shaitaan are confirmed zaani-aat who are being handled and mishandled by the zaani menfolk. The evil men in whose hands Shaitaan has placed the reins of this extremely jahannami insidious plot of zina has most cunningly trapped the prostitutes into the plot of Iblees.

These zaani-aat are satanically camouflaged as self-esteem coaches, psychiatrists, reflexocologists, coprocologists, najaasatocologists, sataniocologists, dajjaalocologists, etc., etc. Understand well, that all ‘psychiatrists’ and ‘counsellors’ are agents of Iblees. Whatever they dole out as ‘advice’ and ‘therapy’ are satanic ‘sciences’ inspired by Iblees. Only such ignorant Muslims whose Imaan dwells in the doldrums of moral corruption, who are bereft of any Yaqeen in Allah Ta’ala, visit such she and he-devils for advice. These villains who are qualified in the satanic ‘science’ of psychiatry and the like are in the same category as fortune-tellers and satanic astrologers. Your Imaan dangles by a thread when you visit these shaitaani rubbishes, and your Imaan says ‘goodbye’ to you after you emerge with confidence from these agents of Iblees.

The Sister is justified for her extremely mild criticism of the Durban Ulama for their silence. She mentions that this ‘Friends’ group of shaitaani zaani-aat has been inexistence in Durban since the past six years. It was therefore necessary for the Ulama to have castigated and excoriated this haraam, zina group operated by the Illegitimate Daughters of Iblees. The silence of the Ulama is a primary cause for sin and vice becoming indurate and embedded in the community.

While most Muslims in this age are absolutely jaahil, corrupt and evil, numerous among them are sincere and genuinely astray. Amr Bil Ma’roof will benefit such ignoramuses. As for the zaani-aat who are executing the plot of Iblees and who are operating under the appellation, ‘Friends’, there is no hope of reformation for them. They are not like ordinary prostitutes who are in the business only for money. While there is always hope for the reformation of commercial prostitutes, there is no hope whatsoever for such ZAANI-AAT who are the agents of Iblees – whose function it is to entrap other stupid women who have the tendencies of prostitutes.

The Qur’aan Majeed negates hope of reformation for these kind of copro-hybrid human-devils. In regard to the progeny of Shaitaan, Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan Majeed:

“We have created numerous humans and jinn (specifically) as fuel for Jahannam.”

The Qur’aan describing the fodder of Hell-Fire variously epithelizes them as “Wuqooun Naar and Hasabu Jahannam.

The shameless intermingling of the sexes, the satanic match-making, the shaitaani glamour of tea parties, and the very satanic attitudes associated with this shaitaani group of copro individuals are some of the factors which even stupid Muslims can understand why this group is HARAAM and why their shaitaani functions are HARAAM.

“O People of Imaan! Save yourselves and your familes from the Fire… (Qur’aan)

Do not fall into the shaitaani trap of this shaitaani “Friends’ group consisting of human devils.

5 Rajab 1444 – 27 January 2023

Marital Problems


Posted on Sun 3 October 2010



ASSALAMU ALAIKUM 19 Muharram 1431 (6-01-2010)

It is essential to understand that the Shariah (Allah’s Law) is one thing, and your husband’s actions are something else. Many women appear to confuse the two issues. If the husband is unjust and fails to fulfil his marital obligations, the wife lacking in sound Islamic knowledge invariably equates her husband’s misdeeds with Islam. It is precisely for this reason that you ask: “Is Islam only for men??” This questions displays your lack of understanding of Islam. If a wife is unfaithful to her husband and commits sins, you will not find the husband asking: “Is Islam only for women??”

You and us all do commit sins. If you commit a sin will it be proper to infer that Islam teaches you to sin? You should reflect deeply because the question which you have asked is exceptionally grave in that it is a sign of great deficiency in Islamic beliefs.

The second issue which you should understand is that Islam does permit a man up to four wives. This is Allah’s Law. Any Muslim who refutes this confirmed law of the Shariah does so at the peril of his/her Imaan.

We cannot comment on the ownership of the wealth you and your husband possess. We do not know what the initial arrangement/agreement was between the two of you. If you explain in detail how the business was structured and what agreement existed, then we shall refer the matter to the Ulama to obtain the Shariah’s Ruling.

Surely you are intelligent enough to understand that Islam does not teach your husband to say ‘the nastiest things’ to you. It is therefore highly improper to ask: ‘Is Islam only for men.’ It conveys the impression that you believe that Islam allows your husband to say ‘the nastiest things’ to you.

Even if you are averse to your husband taking another wife, you must be careful of falling into the trap of jeopardizing your Imaan by rejecting the Law of Allah Ta’ala. If you cannot accept your husband taking another wife, then while understanding and accepting that it is permissible for him, you may ask him to divorce you. Initially he may not be inclined to divorce you. But if you persist in your request and ask some seniors to persuade him, then he will ultimately relent. Also remember, that you as a Muslim should react intelligently and with dignity in this matter. If your marriage must end, let it be amicably in the way Islam teaches.

May Allah Ta’ala guide and protect you.