Trading her Imaan for the crumbs of the dunya, an estranged wife tendered the following proposal to her husband for terminating the marriage: (Our comments in bold in brackets) “I would like to inform you that I have sought legal advice and I am fully aware of what my legal rights are, so we have one of two options: We can legally divorce amicably or alternatively, we can take the matter to court. I would like to divorce amicably, but should you decide to take the route of the latter option, I have been informed that in terms of section 7 (3) of the Divorce Act, estates are to be divided in terms of the financial situations of the parties. (Taking the matter to the kuffaar court and seeking the kufr benefits of the kufr acts of law are haraam.) I was a homemaker for 17 y e a r s ( B e i n g a ‘homemaker’ was your Waajib obligation as demanded by the sacred Nikah contract. You had not bestowed any favour whatsoever to your husband by being a ‘homemaker’. You had only favoured yourself.) I have been left with nothing. (A person will have only whatever Allah Ta’ala has predestined for him/her. Your inordinate greed for haraam money and enlisting the kuffaar court to extort haraam from your husband is the evidence for the kufr in your heart.) You are a CA which shows the court that you CAN AFFORD maintenance. (After Talaaq, the man is responsible for your maintenance during the Iddat period if you are in the marital home. He will be responsible for the maintenance of his children in terms of the Shariah, not according to the exploitive decree of the kuffaar court.) However, regardless of what is going on between the two of us, I would like to maintain a level of respect because we share three children together. (There can be no level of ‘respect’ when you are pursuing the path of exploitation and extortion with the aid of the kuffaar court.) Please agree to the following proposal: 1. Please stop all communication through the children, please contact me timeously and directly through email or WhatsApp in future. It is affecting the children negatively and if you continue to do so, I will take the matter to children’s court. (You have absolutely no right to prevent the father from having communication with his children. If you are not an immoral woman, then while you will have the right of custody over the minor children, their father will remain the Guardian. You have no right to make any decisions regarding the children without the approval of the father. You are only the custodian, not the guardian. You have no right to dictate your stupid, haraam conditions.) 2. In terms of maintenance for the children, I would like R7500 per child per month, this is exclusive of school fees and medical aid, but inclusive of water, lights, rent, fuel, groceries, clothing, medical bills, entertainment, etc. (You cannot decide the maintenance amount. You are an exploiter, an extortionist and a contemptible gold-digger. An independent assessment must be made by responsible persons to decide what are the basic needs of the children. Maintenance will then be determined according to the Shariah not according to your lust, fulfilment of which you are seeking via the kuffaar court. Furthermore, if the father is averse to his children attending these immoral secular schools, you may not send them to their moral destruction, and you may not claim that he pays such haraam fees. It is the father’s right to decide on the expenses and the avenues of expenditure. You do not have such rights.) 3. Rehabilitation maintenance for myself, an amount of R5000 per month for two years. 4. A vehicle to transport the children, preferably the Audi, because that is the car I was using when we were living together. (If you are a drug addict, then get yourself rehabilitated at your own expense. Your ex-husband is not responsible for any type of rehabilitation expenses. Furthermore, he is responsible for expenses only for the Iddat period. Thereafter your male relatives have to maintain you, or if you are a lewd street woman, then go work and earn. Your demand for a vehicle is ludicrous. Your ex-husband’s stupidity of having provided you with a vehicle is now rebounding on him. Since he had aided you in sin by having provided you with a haraam car, he has now to suffer your haraam demand.) Please lemme know of your decision by Tuesday, 23rd February 2021 by no later than 1pm. If I have not received an answer by then. I will be left with no choice but to take the matter further. (Yes you are free to carve your pathway straight to Jahannam). Many women are purchasing kufr and ruining their Aakhirat for the sake of worldly carrion by enlisting the aid of the kuffaar courts to extort haraam money from their ex-husbands. This naseehat is only for such women who do have Imaan, but due to ignorance and misadvised by morons, they take the route of the kuffaar court to suck haraam money from their ex-husbands. Women who believe that they have Imaan should understand that according to the Shariah, the position is as follows: (1) The ex-wife is entitled to maintenance only for the Iddat period. Thereafter she ceases being the responsibility of her exhusband. (2) She is the custodian of the minor children. When a boy reaches 8 years, custody is transferred to the father, and when a girl is close to buloogh, the mother’s right of custody ends. (3) The father remains the Guardian. The mother has no right of making decisions for the children without the approval of the father. (4) The father has visitation rights at all times. A neutral venue should be arranged where he may visit his children. (5) It is the obligation of the father to maintain his children. The expenses (Continued on page 8) for the basic needs are his obligation although it is understood that he will spend more on his children within his means. But the mother may not demand money for expenditure for such activities which according to the Shariah are not permissible. (6) If the mother refuses to relinquish custody when her right has terminated, then the father will have the right to withhold maintenance from the children. The above is a brief summary of rights and obligations when a separation takes place. However, if the father is unfit or immoral, certain of his rights may be denied while some rights may be curtailed.